How to communicate with a cancer man.

Hello everyone,

The dreaded cancer question....

I've known this cancer guy for about a 9 months, we have been intimate, but I find him really hot and cold. I just want to get to know him on a deeper level, in a friendship sense, but he just seems to close down and disappear whenever I do.

It's a nightmare cause I'm quite a guarded person so when he keeps being so hot and cold I find it difficult to just relax, be myself and be open with him, so I just come across as being really awkward.

What is the best way to show him that I he can trust me? And to show him that I really do care about him as a friend.

It was really out of character of me to sleep with someone so quickly and I'm worried he has the wrong impression of me.

I'm a gemini by the way.

Thank you x

Cancers are like that. I'd say confront him on it and tell him "hey! I opened up and you withdrew. Then I withdrew. What's up with that crap?"

They will only open up if they feel comfortable that you won't judge them. They're a pain in the ass!!! Sorry crab friends, but I've dated four in my life. They frustrated me beyond belief!!!

And most cancer men will definetley respond to sexual innuendos. That might be an angle. But, you only want to be friends with him. Maybe that's the problem.

*shrugs*

Wait! I take that back!!! You have been intimate. So, honey, he's only in it for the sex. He doesn't want to be friends.

I'm sorry. That's harsh. But that's my thoughts on it.

I agree with tiziani, Just be yourself, don't change or cater yourself to anyone. I'm a cancer guy, and I could be a P.O.S sometimes in terms of my form of communication, hot or cold, and I notice it all the time, frankly we can't help it, its the way we are.