If they are chasing… means I’m running…
If there are pursuing, at this pace, I could be interested and I’d let them know one way or the other!

Posted by tiki33
2 kids 2 babymamas smh he probably can't afford to get married yet alone buy a decent engagement ring. I dunno why you haven't dumped the guy just for the shifty behavior but inevitably you'll end it. A man that has very little self control isn't a great catch. Either he gives you transparency or it won't work. And jus my opinion but he's still sleeping with her which is why he's hiding. There you go.

Tiki… there you are! Different world now here, still solid advice.

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You are his dirty little secret with good reason, you were talking/texting him while they were still together and got together 8 weeks after they split. That’s premeditated and she was right to say he was cheating. It might not have been physically but definitely mentally.

A lot of men, leave when there is someone to leave for. This is why you are good secret and he doesn’t want to say anything to her.

I also bet, this is his track record… this is why your suspicious and why you have this uneasy feeling. Trust it!

I was not talking and texting while they were together. We did not talk outside of work until after he was broken up.
We both got out of relationships around the same time... it just kinda of fell like that.
His previous ex to this one left im while the kids were 5 months old bc she wasnt happy. She was out at bars while he was at home with infants. I dont think this is a track record but i get what you mean

No I am not. He didnt cheat, and thats not why he left.
They were broken up for 2 months while selling the house and sorting finances.
We were friends/coworkers and she went in his phone seen us texting and accused him of cheating with me and thats why he left.
Our texts were casual, friendly, we werent dating or fucking at this time. It was months later.
But this is a part of the reason because she made her own false accusations
Example it was a picture of me and my dog and us joking around. not even flirty

Premeditation ^^^ she was valid in her accusations. They have a child together, a mortgage and a life and he’s texting you. Someone who he apparently had no sexual interest in and then all of a sudden after being broken up from his family… in 8 weeks, he decides you are his soul mate. Come on. This is why you are his secret from her, you will never have an easy path here!

Now I would be worried why he hides her texts from you.

I call bullshit. I don’t text married men at all after work hour
And obviously something was there cuz there you are.

They werent married, and werent together at the time we talked outside of work...
We were both in relationships prior and were only work mates.
Had similar interests... and got along.
Didnt even start dating until 6 months later.... it just happened

You gotta admit it’s kinda ironic tho. Y’all were texting as ‘friends’ while both in relationships. This thread was you feelin insecure that he’s texting his baby moms while in a relationship with you. She accused him of cheating on her because he was texting you, a friend.

Common denominator is him not giving his partner the security they need so they question this behavior. Food for thought 💭

Nah we didnt text until we were both out of our relationships

You just contradicted yourself here!

How? He was broken up while still figuring out the housing situation once we were talking. They technically were not in a relationship when this was occurring. Yes they still shared a home, but were working out the house situation in the meantime and had to figure out living arrangements. Either way I am not going to argue this, I wasnt dating him or talking to him in that way at this time anyways. But thats besides the point

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Paint it however you like, he was still involved when you were texting him. Premeditated

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You are his dirty little secret with good reason, you were talking/texting him while they were still together and got together 8 weeks after they split. That’s premeditated and she was right to say he was cheating. It might not have been physically but definitely mentally.

A lot of men, leave when there is someone to leave for. This is why you are good secret and he doesn’t want to say anything to her.

I also bet, this is his track record… this is why your suspicious and why you have this uneasy feeling. Trust it!

I was not talking and texting while they were together. We did not talk outside of work until after he was broken up.
We both got out of relationships around the same time... it just kinda of fell like that.
His previous ex to this one left im while the kids were 5 months old bc she wasnt happy. She was out at bars while he was at home with infants. I dont think this is a track record but i get what you mean

No I am not. He didnt cheat, and thats not why he left.
They were broken up for 2 months while selling the house and sorting finances.
We were friends/coworkers and she went in his phone seen us texting and accused him of cheating with me and thats why he left.
Our texts were casual, friendly, we werent dating or fucking at this time. It was months later.
But this is a part of the reason because she made her own false accusations
Example it was a picture of me and my dog and us joking around. not even flirty

Premeditation ^^^ she was valid in her accusations. They have a child together, a mortgage and a life and he’s texting you. Someone who he apparently had no sexual interest in and then all of a sudden after being broken up from his family… in 8 weeks, he decides you are his soul mate. Come on. This is why you are his secret from her, you will never have an easy path here!

Now I would be worried why he hides her texts from you.

I call bullshit. I don’t text married men at all after work hour
And obviously something was there cuz there you are.

They werent married, and werent together at the time we talked outside of work...
We were both in relationships prior and were only work mates.
Had similar interests... and got along.
Didnt even start dating until 6 months later.... it just happened

You gotta admit it’s kinda ironic tho. Y’all were texting as ‘friends’ while both in relationships. This thread was you feelin insecure that he’s texting his baby moms while in a relationship with you. She accused him of cheating on her because he was texting you, a friend.

Common denominator is him not giving his partner the security they need so they question this behavior. Food for thought 💭

Nah we didnt text until we were both out of our relationships

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Posted by Newnat2
Libra and I (aqua) are “friends” who basically behave like we are in a relationship. Recently I tried to have a conversation about how I/we feel about things think and want to do(which for me I usually try to avoid) but we are so close it seemed necessary. I wasn’t angry but he just had this tendency to make light of everything, crack a joke or witty one liner which cleared nothing up in the end! 🤦🏽‍♀️ So I mentioned it and he apologised for always making a joke and sounding like he wasn’t bothered. So what is your aversion to serious conversation? The possible conflict and the fact you prefer living I with the rose coloured glasses?
On another note he has been busy lately and I would like us to meet up however he has expressed he wants to wait until he has more time and doesn’t have to leave early. He seems to be a real stickler for quality over quantity! I was reading that seems to be another trait you have. It’s a first for me. Learning a lot about libras!! Very slow moving

Yes until we have decided we want you!

You’re pushing, that’s where the jokes come in to lighten the convo… take the hint. That’s confrontation and we aren’t ready for it just because you are!

Ooops my bad… didn’t see the “Hey men”

The more I learn about other signs and their compatibility with mine, yes I do walk away without really giving it a go. Last guy was a Pisces and when he told me.. it all started to make sense and no 2nd date. I just thought…. Don’t want to get myself all bent and twisted when he plays the aloof game!
Virgo is another sign and Capricorn that I don’t think I’d gel with.

However, if there was undeniable attraction, I’d probably go for the ride :/

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Im not sure what to do about the Taurus guy at this point. I’ll try to make a long story short, after talking to him for a while I find a lot of traits he has not so appealing. He is too vague with me, doesn’t want to seem to really get to know me on a deeper level, only called me and wanted to take me out at nighttime, very stubborn and secretive. Then on top of that I had barely found out he speaks to this girl almost everyday in his home country.

After he came over to my house for dinner, we were talking after dinner and he got offended because I jokingly asked why he doesn’t like that girl in his home country if they are so close and she is pretty, what gives? but he got offended I asked that. My mom didn’t like the attitude he took either, so after that day I didn’t contact him. He didn’t contact me until a few days later. But my mom suggested that I just don’t respond to him. So I just didn’t respond. I already decided at that point I we weren’t a match and he’s not the guy for me. I probably should have done what I originally was going to do, and tell him I don’t feel compatible with him. But instead I just didn’t respond to his messages or calls. He even called my grandma several times. He’s not getting the hint and it’s been nearly 2 months.
So last week he sent me flowers. My mom was like aww, and Im like confused because Im thinking “aren’t you the one who said I should just ignore him?” anyways even though I appreciate the gesture, it couldn’t help but bother me that he thinks sending me flowers would bring me back to him. It was a cute and thoughtful gesture when he did it for my birthday but now I feel like he’s just trying to buy me.
I felt obligated to respond to his messages now, so I responded. He spoke to my mom and she even told him that I was “seeing” a guy, just so he got the hint. But he still messaged me telling me he misses me and if I miss him. I told him I have been pretty busy so I haven’t really thought much of it. He told me “well I guess you don’t feel the same”
Im trying to be more dry with my responses than before. But he isn’t getting it. Its been 2 months since I last saw him. Ive already see clearer now that he’s not the type of guy Id be happy with. I don’t know how to cut him off. I don’t know if I should block him, or what can I say without hurting his feelings?

I could be way wrong, but it's not the deeper level thing which is an issue it's him being super clingy and feminine; it's not sexy.

Also it's super obvious what is wrong "took the hint". You did the female thing of avoiding conflict by being too subtle. Just say you aren't interested in him as a boyfriend or on any romantic level and you don't want him to call you or your grandma. Saves a lot of time.

I don’t even feel like it’s him being clingy as too obsessive. My mom dated a guy obsessive like this, and just heard that the cops are looking for him for abusing his girlfriend. Physical or sexual I have no idea but he did always give me weird vibes…

But yes clinginess is not attractive it’s nice to show interest but that clinginess is just not a good look. Maybe some people find it attractive? But I don’t want to feel like the less feminine one in a relationship lol
Honestly though I do feel like it’s difficult because he doesn’t seem to really get to know me. We don’t talk about the same things or have much in common, so it doesn’t feel like our interests align. Everything I thought he was has become actually distorted truth. Like he claimed to be close with his family, now I find out his family all keeps their lives private from each other. I thought he was into music, he only plays like the triangle for his church band now and then. Here I was thinking he could play the guitar and stuff

I probably should just tell him Im not interested on a romantic level. Im afraid that will hurt his feelings though… I was going to tell him I don’t think we’re compatible but my grandma seems to think THAT would hurt his feelings. But maybe it’s needed or else Id be leading him on. Gosh I hate doing this 😣

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You need to tell him straight.. Point blank!! No messing around.

The different backgrounds could be the issue, he’s a little too far from your comfort zone. Whilst we like the idea of someone exotic, it can be really hard to gel when our backgrounds are so different.

But ultimately, we all need a definite yes or no not ever!

Timone is right, he was still weighing her up and it was nothing serious but her actions which appeared out of nowhere and threw him off balance is what called it!

We don’t like conflict and this was shown way too early.

How many dates had you been on?

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You are his dirty little secret with good reason, you were talking/texting him while they were still together and got together 8 weeks after they split. That’s premeditated and she was right to say he was cheating. It might not have been physically but definitely mentally.

A lot of men, leave when there is someone to leave for. This is why you are good secret and he doesn’t want to say anything to her.

I also bet, this is his track record… this is why your suspicious and why you have this uneasy feeling. Trust it!

I was not talking and texting while they were together. We did not talk outside of work until after he was broken up.
We both got out of relationships around the same time... it just kinda of fell like that.
His previous ex to this one left im while the kids were 5 months old bc she wasnt happy. She was out at bars while he was at home with infants. I dont think this is a track record but i get what you mean

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No I am not. He didnt cheat, and thats not why he left.
They were broken up for 2 months while selling the house and sorting finances.
We were friends/coworkers and she went in his phone seen us texting and accused him of cheating with me and thats why he left.
Our texts were casual, friendly, we werent dating or fucking at this time. It was months later.
But this is a part of the reason because she made her own false accusations
Example it was a picture of me and my dog and us joking around. not even flirty

Premeditation ^^^ she was valid in her accusations. They have a child together, a mortgage and a life and he’s texting you. Someone who he apparently had no sexual interest in and then all of a sudden after being broken up from his family… in 8 weeks, he decides you are his soul mate. Come on. This is why you are his secret from her, you will never have an easy path here!

Now I would be worried why he hides her texts from you.

You are his dirty little secret with good reason, you were talking/texting him while they were still together and got together 8 weeks after they split. That’s premeditated and she was right to say he was cheating. It might not have been physically but definitely mentally.

A lot of men, leave when there is someone to leave for. This is why you are good secret and he doesn’t want to say anything to her.

I also bet, this is his track record… this is why your suspicious and why you have this uneasy feeling. Trust it!

Posted by geminiflyby
This is an enormous amount of energy over a tea bag.

Exactly!!

I always do, I have my own cup and it’s used washed and put away. Their grip and it’s not just the receptionist, another staff member is that someone uses stuff washed and leaves in the dry rack.

Yesterday, I dared leave my tea bag in the sink. Next time I’ll drip it all over the rubbish bin lid as it’s too hot to handle once you’ve taken it out and put it straight in the bin.

If the kitchen was ever spotless and stocked people probably would keep it that way. There are no t-towels because no one wants to wash them. There’s a filthy rag and paper towels.

Anyway, that was yesterday. Today I’ll stay away except on my floortime and Morning meeting which I’m sure it’ll be mention again.

It’s just a repetitive bitch and witch hunt.

Posted by MyStarsShine
*Noise
(I want peace not mayhem)

Me too. Just quietly go about your day without conflict… thanks

Leave me in peace to do my thing

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
The cold weather. I can't stand it when people complain about my kind of weather around me. Let me enjoy the cold in peace and relaxation without the complaints. Hot, humid and warm weather (which btw I'm not a fan of) is absolutely fine.

The weather is something we talk about for small talk… maybe they just trying to talk to you

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People moaning about their workday like I care

People complaining when they don’t need to read or comment. F off. Not in the mood!

and u wonder why problems follow you around at work
Could be your attitude

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Yeah I don’t give a f***

Posted by DanWard84
People moaning about their workday like I care

People complaining when they don’t need to read or comment. F off. Not in the mood!

I know I should just let it go but ffs, some people just nit pick over anything at work.
In our office, the receptionist constantly sends emails to complain about the kitchen. Wash up after yourself, don’t leave your food in the fridge. Then you have everyone pointing fingers. You make a cup of tea and leave the bag in the sink and it’s like you’ve killed someone!

It’s not just this job, similar thing happened at another place. Do people seriously have to bitch and moan over everything minor thing? I’m not the common dominator, just someone that thinks it’s not a big deal. I clean up after you one day you do the same The next… it’s that simple… isn’t it?

What else do people around you complain about which you feel is unnecessary?

1) What are your preferences and why?

ONS - best sex
On a first date, I prefer not to. I’m going on the date to see if there is more to it.


2) With regards an emotional or perhaps spiritual connection - does one date or five really make the difference?

Yes it does. You’ve learned so much more about the person and it’s not strictly a sexual decision for me.


3) Most controversial question: have you withheld sex because you had body issues or thought you weren't good at sex, but really wanted to fuck him\her on a first date?

Nope, just turn the lights off.

Bonus Question: have you ever courted and found out the man\woman was bad at sex, did you end it?

Yes!!! Too long, too small & soft. First time I thought I was just being shallow but it’s important that there’s compatibility and it’s not 1 sided. Sex is important.