I dont like this Taurus girl- is she affecting me really ? Or is it my imagination?

Hello,
I have been struggling with a weird feeling for this girl. We have known each other since 2008. She has been always a friend of guys that had crush on me. She was the one that mothers people, gives life advices and takes too much care of them, being too nice and worry too much. She claims to by my best friends- but wtf she is not.

Its always the same schema- there is a guy that likes me, usually i choose guys that are a bit shy and i am shy as well so its very difficult and hard for us to get to know each other. She becames their best friends. She hangs out with her bfs and them .
And later on those boys have crush on her because she is just a girl friend who is stubborn, knows what she wants - not like me. A shy girl ( in relationships matters) that doesnt know how to attract a bf.

So usually the same shema is like: i know some guys i flirt with them, then she appears with her bfs, then they become friends. they leave me and they start to have a crush on her.

Its been 3 time slike that and she is always around me. dont know why.

so the problem is that.

i have been writing about some virgo guy in a couple of latest posts. of course he is her best friend. she has a bf. but mothers him, worries of him and so one. she also controls him- how do i know it? last week on a party she went with him to a club. kissed him in the neck , took his hand. even thou she has a bf... whenever he dissapeared to flirt with other girls she was following him.


she claims to be my best friend. whenever i say sth about my love life to her- she gives me advices but then in a month or 2 months i see she is interested in the same guy or like the same things. ..

she knows my weaknesses she knows my strong sides. i started to leave her but she doesnt let me.

am i paranoied or she affects me somehow? or should i be more confident around her??

i was born 21.03.1990 Lodz Poland, 12:10 pm
she was born 8.05.1989 Lodz, Poland around 12 pm as well

yea but she knew before when we were in high school that it was for me a bit difficult and still is to trust a guy and so one. and for example with this virgo guy that she claims his best friend. i took action very fast- i mean even too fast for me.
we have been flirting very long before and one day we just met each other and started to hang out just like this.


when she noticed it she was like a shadow. like the 3rd one . even my siblings noticed that she acts weirdly when he comes with me to a party. when he invited me over a couple of times- she was also appearing to be there at his place .
i felt like she was a bit jealous of him being interested in me.

i know that in my 1st crush history and the second one ( that i didnt tell here) maybe i was too lazy or i didnt take action fast

but in the 3rd i dint and i felt like she was following me. when we started hanging out she always was there were we were ( even before she wasnt interested in my life) started to be my best friend wtf was inviting me and asking about him all the time...



when she was flirting with her bf i wasnt so curious and i wasnt so interested lol...


the worst thing is that ok mayeb she takes action but she takes action in everything. like there is an event i invite people she knows that- and people say sorry M that girl called us 5 min later we are going to her place to drink.
like she would beat me to be the first one in everything.

i was struggling in getting a job. she told me she was also struggling i tried to help but she took my offer later wtf.

i was struggling with friends that i care about - she told me ; fuck them there will be new people- ok its not my style.


maybe i am wrong

like for example i think that she needs to be the 1st in everything she does and people do. i mean its not bad but still. sometimes girl needs to be more sensitive in my opinion.

she does 'boysih' things. for example we had a tatoo session in some studio. she was the 1str to try, a couple of years ago we got to know some techno people- she changed her music taste into techno and is 1st girl from circle of people that goes only to techno parties.
when there is a party in my city - she is a 1st to attend to.

virgo guy had a italian girlfriend 2-3 years ago. italian girl was teaching her italian language. on meetings she was the one to be so talkative and be friends with everyone and speak italian. boys were astonished and everyone was telling she is always first to have something.

I don't want to be bias..I had bad experience with taurus women..and men.I had afew close friends and enemies. I was in a similar situation with a taurus women. My situation was crazy we was friends since 3rd grade. So I new her for years. I couldn't tell her who I like because the next thing you know she on the date with the guy. She would tell me that certain guys wasn't good enough for me but turn around and date them. It took me along time to call her out on her bullshit because I felt foolish. What the hell I look like coming to her about a guy I didn't know..she got men easily because she was soo kind..well later on I found out she was talking bad about me to these guys. Every male we met and befriended they started to treat me weird. I was hurt because I new her for years ..I think she just like to be the center of attention with men..and she would down play me to do soo..insecurities smh.

I am not saying this is your situation ..I am just telling u mine. But I will try to get around new people and see how you response to others and being around a different group. Sometimes it's not that you are shy it's because you around the wronge people.

Posted by butterfly30
I don't want to be bias..I had bad experience with taurus women..and men.I had afew close friends and enemies. I was in a similar situation with a taurus women. My situation was crazy we was friends since 3rd grade. So I new her for years. I couldn't tell her who I like because the next thing you know she on the date with the guy. She would tell me that certain guys wasn't good enough for me but turn around and date them. It took me along time to call her out on her bullshit because I felt foolish. What the hell I look like coming to her about a guy I didn't know..she got men easily because she was soo kind..well later on I found out she was talking bad about me to these guys. Every male we met and befriended they started to treat me weird. I was hurt because I new her for years ..I think she just like to be the center of attention with men..and she would down play me to do soo..insecurities smh.

I am not saying this is your situation ..I am just telling u mine. But I will try to get around new people and see how you response to others and being around a different group. Sometimes it's not that you are shy it's because you around the wronge people.

yes its almost the same feeling that i have.

my sister had similar situation.
she started to hang out with a friend who was one of the good friends of my class friend. they like each other she usually spend time at my place and so one.
they started hanging out and both she and him were so happy. it lasted about 2 months and then started to be weird. he stopped contacting my sister , didnt have any initiative in meetings . was silent and so one.

a few weeks ago they had a weird situation on a party. THIS common friend told my sister that she encouraged him ( as a good friend) not to mess my sister mind, and not to hang out with her- because my sister is sensitive, my sister is good and he is a bad boy.

finally they talked and they still hanged out- the boy is 'normal' he put off the 'mask' of the bad boy- he is normal guy.

i have no idea why girls are like this. why they put nose in others' business i really do not understand that.


in my case.
the situation was different but the same schema. we started hanging out and being even more intimate. and this common friend sticked her nose in my business.
but i didnt 'fight' for that because i trusted her. she knew the guy 5 years and i knew the guy 6 months so when she was telling me : he is like that he is like that i git scared and i trusted her. now i see she hangs out with him and her bf.. still...

i think she is not my friend anymore......

power struggle? to have everyone around her?
like a dog in the manger?

its so weird because we both are intelligent, nice, party girls, but studying good subjects- have a lot of friends- kind of competition to each other?

and everytime i was on the party before and he was single- she was suggesting him girls that he would like to hang out- kind of trashy girls,party girls, not intelligent - but whenever some other girl was sticking around she was around him as well- to control him? to have both him as a friend and as a 'knight' by her side?

before she was single- everytime on parties she was surrounded with boys from group- only boys and they treated her like a princess or so one. no idea.

when i started to hang out with him she was so curious about us, started being my best friend. .....🙂

yes , i know that now.
thats why i backed off a bit since 6-7 months. i try to live my life and meet noew, different people.

thank you i need to become more self conscious and confident.

anyway i still like this guy and whenever he is around i have a weird feeling inside.

i still observe him very subtly.

Girl, you have many squares and oppositions in synastry with her,.....and also a lot of trines. There's a push and pull, a love hate rapport....

yea our 'friendship ' is like push and pull. i cant really trust her.

the guy the all fuss is about is this :

10.09.1989 11:57 am, Lodz, Poland

She has a mystic rectangle....thats very powerful.

You kind of have a kite...almost. Same dynamic though.

Are you sure you were all born at midday?

Both you and the guy have a bucket shaped chart with Jupiter acting as a handle, seems like you'd get along really well.

You have the same kind of synastry chart with the guy as you do with the Taurus girl....http://imgur.com/Bo2XR7p

And strangest thing, Taurus girl and guy have the same kind of synastry chart...as your natal chart!...http://imgur.com/0FDw9fk
It's sort of a love triangle...OR she's just clinging on to your business.


These people are manipulative parasites, all you can do is wait for them to go away, avoid them, maybe destroy them if you can.

What is a mistic triangle? I am kind of new to astrology and i dont know this term.

i mean i know i was born on midday 12:10 , i know the guy was also born on midda t 11:57 but i dont know her thats why it automatically put 12:00 pm on the natal chart.

yes , the guy and me get along really well when she is not around. i saw that even one year ago...

i am feeling so powerless that i am writing about that issue here on forum asking strangers. you guys are awesome to help me . but i am feeling very stupid and weak not to organise this issue by myself...

so what do you suggest? the girl and the guy have the same chart as i am myself?
thats why i feel weird feelings and vibes when she is around me and when she is around him?

before she claimed to be my best friend. when something went wrong in my and his relation she chose him over us? as friends... if you know what i mean.
even tho she has a bf she acst so clingy to him that im usually going to puke when i see her.


and about manipulative people- do you tell about her, taurus girl or about both of them?

thank you for the analyses of those charts.

i had tried to do the analyses myself several times. but i could not. because i am not as superb oriented in astrology.

i know me and him have the same aspects when it comes to capricorn: moon, saturn, uranus and so one... thats so weird...

i would rather get rid of her than him.

because when she is not around he acts normally to me...

there have been a lot of situations where i met her bf and her and common friends. and in conversations between me and them she is usually weird to me, she usually 'gets me down' , mothers me as people must say: maybe you can be more pleasant and nice to mika_1990'

i usually do not react very furiously not to make her proud of making me bad.
but its weird

hee-haw hee-haw hee-haw

Posted by SensitiveBlues
Mika you're a whinig weak azz bytch!

You make me sick! Stop writing your woes about her and get a backbone a life something

You're weakness really irritates me

Ppl like you shouldn't exist in this world

OMG dude piss off back to the putrid hole you came from

You need to tell her off. Call her a manipulative sociopath, tell her you had a chat with an ex of hers and he said the same, you're a manipulative, pathological liar. And I'd like for you to stay away from me.
Her other friends say the same of her. It will make her run. She will stay as far as possible from you.

sorry to hear that words from you.
its the only issue in my life that i analyze like this.

no work, no other relationships, no future and so one.

only this relation of those people, this person- girl.

i dont think i am very weak. i achived a lot of in terms of work, studies, social communication and connections.
but i think i am not very confident when it coms to relationships.

in the past some guy hurt me and i think it kinds of blocks me of moving on. even thou it was about 4-5 years ago.

because i think im too naive. when someone opens up to me i immediately think he likes me and when we create a relation boys left me, dumped me before.

i need to make a lot of emotional work to move on and to work on myself.

i dont want to sound like a creeper or like a donkey.

it was just this issue that i have been thinking about lately.

thanks anyway for answers.

m

thanks for support.
i have always thought i got paranoied and created scenarios

i try not to be bothered about her. and do not take her words seriousely.

Posted by mika_1990
thanks for support.
i have always thought i got paranoied and created scenarios

i try not to be bothered about her. and do not take her words seriousely.

You have to tell her you chatted with an ex of hers and he said she was manipulative. Say it! it will keep her away.

do you think that i will ever have a calm peaceful life with someone without being worry? will i ever find someone, or will someone ever find me?

or maybe its me who reject men ( i have heard that as well but its so awkward i dont get that)?
i feel like im almost 26 but still like a child.
or i just am in the same place as i was 3-4 years ago

Posted by mika_1990
do you think that i will ever have a calm peaceful life with someone without being worry? will i ever find someone, or will someone ever find me?

or maybe its me who reject men ( i have heard that as well but its so awkward i dont get that)?
i feel like im almost 26 but still like a child.
or i just am in the same place as i was 3-4 years ago

Sure you will, the end is nigh, (Saturn return) and time will do a very strange turn... and you will know what you want, find/get what you want, and be happy.

ok
i think i need to finish the topic.

hes a peter pan and only wants to be nice to me as a friend.

nothing more

posts love songs on fb about him being so lonely and wishing everyone else luck.

i dont understand guys.

if they doesnt want anything from anyone. why they keepin contact?

if i dont like someone- i leave.

yesterday i even didnt try to talk to him - it was him who was approching and talking

i dont like to put people in 'i dont know zone' i dont like to be an option.


and boys do that - why—