Please give your opinion about this Aquarius man

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CapriLady
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I started knowing this Aquarius man in November last year. He is 32 and I am 29. For initial 1 month I found him very friendly.. Then he decided to celebrate my birthday and we met on the day for first and the last time yet. that meeting was very awkward as we both were feeling very much shy to talk to each other openly. but after that he started showing more and more interest in me, He started loving my simplicity as he compared my simplicity with his parents nature and slowly he started behaving like my boyfriend. He given me every sign telling that he loves me. His this sweet behavior continued for 20 days.
And one day he suddenly gone cold, detached. I asked him if he is okay, he said he is just stressed out with his work and all. I gave him a space but we were still in contact. I waited for him to get normal like before for 1 week, 2 weeks, 3 weeks.... I was feeling like he is becoming less and less interested as days goes. But I read that sudden aloofness is aquarians personality trait, so I accepted his detached behavior.
I was showing loads of patience with him, but after 3 weeks I asked him whats wrong. He said "He don't want me to develop feelings for him , coz he don't want any relationship. and he is scared like anything coz of his past relationship. He is not able to gather courage to step into the relationship.and he don't want me to loose either."
I calmly just accepted his wish and continued being friends with him. But now our conversation pattern was changed, and I started feeling more lonely coz when he was treating me as his girlfriend, I actually developed those love feelings for him. and being a capricorn woman, we don't easily fall in love, but when we do, It is for a lifetime. I can't just let this love go like this.
So After few days asked him "Do you have feelings for me? " he kept ignoring to answer me this, but I gone stubborn to get this answer so I kept asking him for 2 days and then finally he said "So what even if I have feelings for you. I kill my feelings" And I was feeling the happiest and extremely sad at the same time hearing this. I tried to tell him that I won't be the same like your ex, I am a mature lady. But He kept refusing to go further with these love feelings.

I was also going through so much of pain, coz this man was all I had ever dreamed about to get married with. I am in love with him so much. but then I decided to take a break for some time from everyone, I gone silent for 3 days, after 3 days he called but I was feeling so numb that I couldn't answer his call.
But then next day I told him that I was on killing my feelings process as I just can't kill my feeling so easily like you do. Since after that now its been almost a month, he didn't contacted me. and neither I text or call him. coz I don't want to show up clingy.
I miss him so much everyday. I want to give him a happiest married life he had ever dreamed of. . I am really worried if my Aquarius man would ever come back.
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FirstDecanTaurianWoman0428
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But how can you push someone who keeps bugging about what direction you are going together as?

He mentioned just be friends in a sense that since he has been hurt you would automatically wait for him to change his mind? Fixed air would often struggle with consistency in relationships if their minds are not in it for long term...

What if you keep waiting for something when you possibly don't really know If you are compatible other than possibly physical, can you be friends till you start asking some questions about each other and set a guideline for you to evaluate if this is the guy you need.

Keep light of things, go with the flow as communicate still, be friends, and live life life since you already sorta told him you like him and gave an answer of unstable for right now.
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Posted by prishh
He said "He don't want me to develop feelings for him , coz he don't want any relationship..
He's not interested in a relationship. He's telling you this, believe him.

Posted by prishh
he is scared like anything coz of his past relationship. He is not able to gather courage to step into the relationship.and he don't want me to loose either.".
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This is one of those BS lines. Maybe he does feel this way, but what trumps this is that he doesn't want a relationship. If he were really into you and really wanted you, this part of it wouldn't matter.

Give up, let him go...if you keep sticking around, he will only end up hurting you.