Scorp Sun/Cap Moon guy - Cancer Sun/Virgo girl

It turns out I am not worth crap. It turns out I really want to find love, and right when I realised that, I found her. I already know it is her, but I cannot tell her yet. I have already joked about marrying her and she joked back, but can I? Can I just say it?

I want your gut impression of this.

I ---- Scorpio sun, Capricorn moon, Cancer ascendant, (Libra Venus)
She - Cancer sun, Virgo moon, Capricorn ascendant, (Cancer Venus)

I have been dead for years, and I could not really think or feel except massive anxiety, but from the first time I conversed with her my heart pounded. She even admitted a strange feeling. Now people can see the joy on my face. I am like a child again.

But... I am not with her. I do not know her in person. I am supposed to have a good instinct, but it usually just feels rotten, yet for the first time, I do here know. But like I said, I cannot really tell her at the moment. So I have just been running around telling everyone else... I have reconnected with people I have not spoken to in a while just to tell them it is as if I was reborn.

I act too slow I have been told (by an Aries sibling). I come on too strong I have been told (by a Cancer). So what now? Should I even listen to any of you or should I just jump in and have faith? I have no patience and yet I would wait 80 years. I am a strange strange thing now. I would give you details about how we connected, but I cannot really describe it.

I'm grinning at your post because I know what it feels like. The intensity. Ugh it's a bittersweet thing and scary too.

Keep your head about you!!! Remember that emotions can make us do some pretty strange things. Especially a Scorpio with your drive. Keep it calm if you can and rational as possible and go from there.
Congrats!! You sound very happy.

I'll take your advice over the others, since you're a Scorp.

Thanks for congratulating me. This is the strongest I have ever felt about anything.

I'm going to tell you something,and I'm going to be honest and I want you to take it seriously ok?

My intelligence is in Scorpio, so while I take everything seriously, I rarely accept advice. But I am asking, and I know who I have called here will be useful, so I will of course take it seriously.

I think you two could be a great match from what you say.
I think you both no doubt are drawn together,and that's awesome and I'm happy for you.now here's the advice.......

if and when this relationship starts, you are going to have to learn to control certain parts of yourself.you are going to have to get a handle on that sensitivity of yours,which I realize seems like a monumental task,and frankly it is.

My usual mentality does not even take into consideration the beginning of a real relationship. I have never loved anyone, but simply feared they did not and would never love me, so I would worry about the immediate, which was never even close to something mutual like a relationship, or of the girl being with someone else before I would get a chance, and so on. That was not good, but it was a learning experience, thick-headed learner that I am with this.

when you are hurt or jealous,take the time to let it die down before you react.when you have soaked up to much of other peoples bull shit and you feel like you want to lash out.....go hit a punching bag before you see your lady.then ask for a hug.do not whine about other people all the time,because she will of course care,but she has to much cancer in her not to also suck it up and be miserable.

I had a very bad time on Saturday, and the pressure of my sister stranding herself and wanting me to bail her out, basically, is compounding everything. I may have lost ownership of my car ... a lot of things are going on right now, and while I freaked out before, now I am solid. I will try to be a man here.

I've got more,but tell me if you want it first.....

Naturally, yes.

and yes, tell her how you feel.

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I should say I have hinted at it. Last night I told her I felt very emotional whenever we communicated, and she said that was amazing. I told my Virgoan friend and he said I messed up. Thus, I had intitially felt great, then he destroyed my confidence as usual.

of course your cap moon prolly keeps you stablized somewhat.

I feared this sign up until now, for it is my mother's and she is cruel, but I am trying to feel kindship with earth signs lately. I respect their groundedness.

I read once Scorpios take care of themselves if they know they are loved - 'raise themselves' if their parents love them. [My parents largely ignored me.] I never knew what to do with myself, just feared everything. I would be so desperate for some kind of love I would 'fall' for girls who had nothing to do with me, who had nothing in common with me, and with whom I had never spoken but simply heard utter the least important crap. I am not like that anymore. Really having a highstandard has paid off for me, and so I will continue.

There are usually two sides of me: confident and cruel, but aware and regretful of that cruelty; and the other is what I usually am, weak in I believe to be an attempt to be nice and be good for all, the 2nd fails more than the 1st, and usually dominates my personality. Well, I also rant a lot, angrily, but I have calmed that down a lot.

I was feeling like garbage earlier, but now I am rational and dominant. If I can refine - and I have - the cruel part I hope I can come out confident and happy and kind when I need to be.

I will turn off everything, including my passion for her, until it is appropriate. Hopefully she will come to me the next time.

I must become regimented. Only by taking care of myself finally can I protect her. She said take things one day at a time. That is how I met her, so I will. But I also met her through ruthless determination and brute honesty :p

Strength through joy. I should just be joyous.

I act too slow I have been told (by an Aries sibling). I come on too strong I have been told (by a Cancer)

Don't listen to these 2 signs when they tell you how a scorp should behave. Aries are hyper and to them, EVERYONE is slower than them. Cancers are the opposite extreme:- they like things slow & steady. So relatively, your normal speed might seem 'too strong' to them.

I think you should make more friends with Earth signs. You mentioned that you're feeling kinship with Earth signs? That's good. They usually give you the most balanced & diplomatic opinions about yourself without tearing you down. Especially Taurus & Capricorn folks; not only do they (usually) give balanced opinions, they also give you practical advice on how to overcome your problems.

I hope things work out for you. Because Cancer women + Scorpio Man bondings can be quite beautiful. Cancer women are very good at providing the nurturing, loving support that Scorpio men need. But you need to show them that you will always stand by their side & not fool around.

What's your rush? Take it slow and feel things out!

I think you will be just fine with the emotional aspect if you keep it toned down. She's a water sign. She'll get it but she's also a Cancer and you have to be careful.
Scorps are a little harsh for Cancers. We can be scary to them.
Just take things slow and let it slowly come out about your feelings. Follow your heart. You Virgo friend doesn't know your heart the way you do 🙂

But you need to show them that you will always stand by their side & not fool around.

I am incapable of infidelity. I am actually not even capable of sleeping with a girl I do not have feelings for, so I am actually a rather old virgin still. 😐 How would/should I show it, would the only question.

What's your rush? Take it slow and feel things out!

I have conflicting instincts, I guess. A lot of this has to do with being strategical like a Scorpio - I fear she will find someone else. It's been said by someone who knows these things that I border on paranoia but when it's important I "see through the bullshit". I hope the latter is true, but nevertheless I am paranoid and jealous, much less so than usual though.

My mars is in Aries (impulsivity) and moon in Capricorn (a streak of impulsivity in general - I think?) so I get these streaks of wanting to ask her to marry me, conflicts with my passive nature.

My Virgo friend is a piece of shit who enjoys making me angry. I am not making that claim out of suspicion, but because he said exactly that.

(1) I like to act immediately when it comes to love and having to wait kills me (which is very Arian; (2) I feel like a total disaster if I what I give in is not given back. (Venus in libra?)

or at least that is how I have understood love so far. Perhaps I can change without denying myself.

And her Mars is in Taurus! Practically the opposite.

I think you will be just fine with the emotional aspect if you keep it toned down. She's a water sign. She'll get it but she's also a Cancer and you have to be careful.
Scorps are a little harsh for Cancers. We can be scary to them.

The last girl for whom I had any longterm feelings was a Cancer to whom I was 'scary' in her words more than once because I would write her pages and pages explaining my feelings, not all of it positive, naturally. Usually she would stop talking to me for a weeks or months, then come back, and just sort of expect me not to be scary, at which I always failed. I did not love her anyway . . . She was very flight like a Gemini though and actually had a moon in that.

i am all for Cancer woman Scorpio man

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I must say, it is the most romantic idea to me.

Posts like these from people like you, scipio, remind me how sensitive my scorp can get, but at the same time how much of a "hard" exterior he puts up. There was a time I used to fight him a lot (of course, still do, but lesser now), but now, I champion my cause with lots of understanding and much softer dealings. Nice to see that a scorp is owning up his intensity aannddd asking for advice . Dont worry, you both will find a middle ground, if you do become an item and plan on sticking together for a long time.

I used to have everything bottled up, but I ask for help now when I really need it. In adolescence I would never speak to anyone and I had the strongest feelings.

BeoWulf: I have a Taurus cousin, and who is aware of his Taurean-ness. I may have to seek his help.

She told me herself to take things slow in general, herself. I will try to slow and intense may that make sense.

Such a beautiful, beautiful match..
I would know, I've been through it. Just be faithful, show her you love her besides telling her. Appreciate her, and support her in her goals, and dreams. Be honest with her even if it's not what she wants to hear she'll appreciate it. Just keep the communication open, but most likely that will happen anyway because I never had too much trouble communicating. We even had a way of communicating without words. Most of all just be faithful. I wish you two the best.