Stung By A Scorpio

My now ex-boyfriend is a Scorpio and we were dating for a few months. He just broke up with me after icing me out for a while. I figured he was just playing hot and cold but when he broke up with me he told me he had been icing me out because he was too afraid of hurting me.

We had gotten in an argument before the lack of communication began. I was being kind of demanding from him and I had been needing a lot of attention (I'm a Cancer). We were both really drunk when we got in this argument but what I can recall from memory was that he was telling me he was sick of pouring his heart out to me and devoting so much to me and it was too painful for him. He said he was tired of not being able to make me happy. I had never seen him this emotional and I was trying to comfort him and reassure him, but things got really weird after that. He said he wanted to go inside because he "didn't feel safe." The next day things seemed fine. It was long distance so I left to go back home and it was like as soon as I left a switched turned off. He wouldn't respond to my texts, he wouldn't acknowledge there was something wrong.

He ignored me for several weeks but would randomly text me saying things like "I'm sorry, I've been such an ass lately. I've just been really busy." Then he would go directly back to the same behavior he was apologizing for.

Eventually I confronted him and told him to figure out what he wanted. He finally sent me a message breaking up with me. In the message he basically blamed the entire thing on me, he said I'm too immature for the relationship we had. He said we are not in the right place for relationships right now. He said that I need to be able to make myself happy before I can be in a relationship. He said he really thought we were going to make it. He told me he still loved me in the message, too.

So here's what I don't get... he is still icing me out. But I thought that Scorpios were black or white/love or hate type people. If that is the case why is he icing me out and telling me he still loves me at the same time. He is claiming to not want to hurt me but hurting me by icing me out. It makes no sense to me.

Will I ever hear from him again? Is it over for good?

That is definitely not a sting. I agree with Let*it*be since it was not an extremely bad break up he will have feelings for you that will reside for a long time. As a scorp we make the decision which we will live by but it will be a constant struggle for us as we will have to fight our emotions for the other person which will stay for a while.

On the other hand if you keep contacting him he may answer every once in a while like he has but this is because he is fighting his emotions and sometimes his emotions may win. But if you continue to come back to him, eventually the stinger will come out and theirs a potential for long term emotional damage for you.

So my advice Run while you can!

I guess I would like to add that I meant stung because he did it through a message online as opposed to in person. Two weeks before he broke up with me he had told me he loved me and wanted to work on it. I don't understand what changed or why he would even bother saying that if it wasn't what he wanted.

Because emotionally he wants you but his rational thinking says it won't work. So, he will have a constant fight between mind and heart but the rational will win as most of us scorps are like that.