Break Up's - Scorpion Style

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Xin on Sunday, April 22, 2012 and has 17 replies.

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Scorpios,

As you may know a few of us (if you read other posts) have broken up with our Scorpio's.
How do you usually handle being the one who was not doing the breaking up? Do you feel like you aren't in control? Do you rage? Do you end up spying or stalking a little? Do you ever feel loss? What is your initial feeling and phases?

How do you handle someone breaking up with you?

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Posted by Xin
Scorpios,

As you may know a few of us (if you read other posts) have broken up with our Scorpio's.
How do you usually handle being the one who was not doing the breaking up? Do you feel like you aren't in control? Do you rage? Do you end up spying or stalking a little? Do you ever feel loss? What is your initial feeling and phases?

How do you handle someone breaking up with you?

First sorry to hear that you broke up.

It depends on the break up. If I was at fault and had real feelings invested I would feel devastated, but if it wasn't my fault I wouldn't care if you broke up with me a million times.

As for break ups I wouldn't care much about control as it's more to me about my feelings, time invested, and who's at fault. Rage no but really mad yes depending on the situation. I don't spy or stalk but some do. Confused sometimes but would not say loss as we still are well aware of who we are and whats going on.

Initially, if I have invested real emotions, I would feel really angry, clingy trying to make things right and work for a week or two, after that I start to go out and bounce back quickly.

Someone breaking up with me depends on the break up, and relationship also.

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Well it's a really long story but I have made numerous posts about it before here in the Scorpio section. I haven't heard from him and I probably won't. According to him I am to blame for everything. There was only so much I could take with the constant barrage of how I made him miserable, etc. So I ended it. You think he would be happy, but instead he raged on me. I suppose he will be angry for a while but all the times he broke up with me he never once came back. I doubt he will come back for this one either. I am thinking he will go out and find someone to temporarily relieve his emotional state but it will be short lived.

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I had one bad breakup. When I say 'bad', I mean, I deeply loved the guy. It took me 2 years to get over repeated depression. I dated, but I was broken inside. Recently, he contacted me again. He sounded as if I was the one who ran away.

The rest of break-ups, like the recent one with Sag, I -- once and for all -- wanted him to move on. He was very special to me, but if it hasn't worked out for us for so many years, what's the purpose on clinging to some fantasy?

Reasoning is very important to me at break-up. It allows either closure or chances for compromise, depending on the situation.

Rage could be for a split second in the beginning, but I wouldn't show. I would feel a loss if I cared very much.

Being rejected is not a good feeling for anybody. Sometimes it wouldn't even matter if you are into that person or not.

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I only stalked the one chick I actually LOVED. The rest, whether I dumped them or not were out of my mind with 3 weeks tops...The only reason the break up with the one I loved sucked is because of my own selfish wants. I had thought for so long that she would be wifey that now that this is no longer possible, its a little weird LOL.

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Posted by DeadRingerr
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wooah...break ups to marriage? yep that's random.

although i've not been broken up with (knobhead doesn't count cos we weren't in a relationship), i was cheated on when i was married which ultimately led me to break up with my husband a few years later. when i first found out about the cheating, i should've broken up with him then but he denied it and i was happy to accept that cos i am the queen of denial, lol.

when i finished it, i was cold and cruel about it over a sustained period but once trust has been broken, there's rarely any way back from it and if the feeling just isn't there any more, you can't fake it.

i guess breakups are hard cos the tendancy is to take them personally and it stirs up any insecurities you have going on. even if you are the breaker upper rather than the breaker upee....it's a horrible thing to go through. no-one takes pleasure in hurting someone they claimed to have feelings for but it's kind of inevitable really.

as soon as you fall for someone, you can guarantee pain will follow.