When We come here for an answer we wont take

Posted by truecap
Well, we can get all the advice we want. We can take it all into consideration. Then, ultimately, yeah, everyone does what they want. Just because some advice would work for one person, doesn't mean it will work for somebody else.

During my divorce, I had so many people telling me what they think I should do. Most of the time, their advice would be totally different and opposite from each other. For instance the Aries and Leo friends would tell me to go in guns ablazin', kick some ass and take names later (that works for them). It wouldn't work for me because it's so out of my character. I listened, but took the high road, gathered my facts, laid out a few unexpected blows with evidence to back me up. Basicially, I did what was best for me. Know what? It all worked out best for me in the end and I kept my dignity. Had I gone in guns blazin', they would have misfired and I would have had a bigger mess on my hands.

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Posted by tw1nk1e
People don't want the truth. They want to hear what they want to hear.

Pretty much true in life, and definitely true on DXP.

You don't have to read too many threads to learn that many (not all, but many) folks on here who "ask for advice" are just looking for support for decisions they have already made and courses of action they are dead set on. Those who disagree with them or who offer uncongenial advice are usually accused of "judging" (horrors) or of "not understanding what it's like." Usually, and mercifully, this is a one act play.

But I've lost count of the number of threads that postulate some incredibly stupid or venal course of action (Overture) that multiple commenters advise against, usually stating compelling reasons to support their position (Act One). The really clever OPs are the ones who fake everyone out until fairly far along in the opera ("Maybe I Will, Maybe I Won't"). But eventually, it becomes obvious that they are just working their plot, at which point the frustrated Chorus sings, "Why Did We Ever Feel Sorry For Your Dumb Ass?"

Act Two begins with the arrival of some Enabling Whackadoodle relativist who tells the OP to "Act on Your Feelings" and how "cruel, judgmental, anti-progressive" the other posters are. Enabling Whackadoodle then sings the "Follow Your Heart/Follow Your Feelings" aria, followed in quick succession by a barrage of rotten fruit and food scraps from the Chorus. Undaunted, the Whackadoodle sings all the louder.

In Act Three, Whackadoodle is joined in a touching duet by the OP, as they clutch one another and sing a stirring rendition of, "Damn You All, Damn You All, We'll Do As We Damn Well Please!" It's not uncommon for one of the Chorus to defect and sing "We're Not Perfect, So We Cannot Judge." The OP then profusely thanks the Whackadoodle for his/her "kindness and understanding," and goes on his/her merry way to commit adultery, try to steal someone else's lover, lie, cheat, steal, etc., while the Chorus rages in impotent fury.

This can go on until it gets so late that the theater closes or the audience just leaves in disgust. Exeunt Omnes.

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