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Posted by PurplePassion38
I remember going to the secret language site a year ago, and it was much easier to navigate and find matches. I don't know what's up with them one.

Then, I'm glad I have the books.

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what do they even want? are they egotistical? are they affectionate, cold? do you have to chase them or do they like being the chaser?

Married to a Cancer Moon. Dated another Cancer Moon and a few Cancers.

They are not physically affectionate. Their affection is deep empathy and protection.

They want to hunt. Like that song by Duran Duran, "Hungry Like a Wolf." They want to seduce you with their hunting skill. It's quite uncanny. Then, they want you to want them like you can't resist.

Egostistical, not so much. More like they flaunt being completely human and fine with it.

I have two empty Cancer houses and one is my 7th house.

so they want to be wanted after the hunt?

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Yes, like a surrender. This could just be my synastry with them. I'm flighty.

20 years ago I bought the books. I still have the Secret Language of Birthdays and the Secret Language of Relationships.

I took the time to read the books in their entirety. When I read the Secret Language of Relationships, for many if not all of the comparisons, it mentions me running away in some form.

It was very enlightening look at myself. My birthday in the Secret Language of Birthdays says it too. So, I tried to do better.

By reading all the relationships, regardless of matches, you get a really good look at yourself.

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Cancer moon men like big boobs. If your boobs arent big we aren't impressed.

Yep. I have huge boobs and I'm petite. My 34 E's fit in a size small shirt. I wear minimizers because my breast are obnoxious and a distraction.

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what do they even want? are they egotistical? are they affectionate, cold? do you have to chase them or do they like being the chaser?

Married to a Cancer Moon. Dated another Cancer Moon and a few Cancers.

They are not physically affectionate. Their affection is deep empathy and protection.

They want to hunt. Like that song by Duran Duran, "Hungry Like a Wolf." They want to seduce you with their hunting skill. It's quite uncanny. Then, they want you to want them like you can't resist.

Egostistical, not so much. More like they flaunt being completely human and fine with it.

I have two empty Cancer houses and one is my 7th house.

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LOVE IT!

Saving this!

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You must have a Libra or Venus dominant Virgo. Mine has Libra as the most dominant sign and Venus as the most dominant planet. And, I have Venus as my most dominant planet, so you'll see that may be why I do not mind, Lol!

Naah, no libra. My venus is aquarius and his is Scorpio(i find something really sexy about scorpio placements,i dont know why lol). His mars is Scorpio too.

Posted by VenusAquariusHe does like to treat me like a paper doll. Buys and advises me on all beauty, clothing, and shoes. I accept criticism very well. I appreciate his serious reviews and I make adjustments if I feel he is correct. He dotes over me like a butler. Protects me like a soldier. And, is like my very best girlfriend, LOL. He has always been percieved as extremely handsome and very masculine.
He loves shopping, loves to dress me. He nages me upwards to my 1st promotion... teasing and taunting from any angle he could imagine, ROFL.

OH MY GOD. Reading this made me feel like you just described my virgo guy. He hates my choice of clothes because he feels they don't make me look too good so he always takes me shopping and picks up what accentuates my curves. He'll point out my dark circles and google what home remedies I need to try(because he knows i am least bothered about all this) and what light makeup would look best on me(because I never do any makeup). He'll point out my face fat at present and gave me an ultimatum that they should be gone in 3 months from now.
He just wants me to look the best. He says that looks are an ultimate priority for his mom so he wants me to look my best so that she really likes me when she meets me. He's very protective of me too. Like when we walk on the road, he'll grab my arm when there are too many cars while crossing the road or when we travel on a public transport he makes sure no guy 'accidentally' ends up touching me lol. He'll guard me like a soldier.

Posted by VenusAquariusIf he's telling the truth, accept it. They nag. His honesty will cut like a knife but it's teo-edged. Like when he told you he didn't want those girls and why. They're like a nagging mom/dad. And, steady yourself... he will reveal even worse criticism and observations of others. You will clutch your pearls at how harsh. You will be his criticism confidante, lol. But, it comes in handy when you have situations with any friend, foe, or family. He'll tell it like it really is and mine will go to war with anybody who thinks of stepping to me. He don't give a treetrunk if it's a baby, or your daddy, LMAO!

YES YES YES. When he shampooed my hair on seeing my dandruff and when he soaped me when i smelled bad, it felt as if he was clearly enjoying it and it felt as if I am his daughter and not his girlfriend lol. And the way he taunts/mocks me is exactly the way my mother nags. He observes everyone and passes some comment or the other. Her boobs are too flat... Her butt sags... Her butt looks great... She has a good jawline but bad teeth... She doesn't look good at all.. She looks great ... She looks ugly...
Whenever he passes negative remarks about other girls, I tell him to stop as it's bad and shallow and he says that's the truth and he can't help it.
I can relate 100% with you and I am so glad you replied. I am too sensitive as a pisces. I take it too personally all the time. It does get too much and I tell him when he's crossing the line. I need to work on evaluating his criticism and stop taking it so personally.
This was really helpful.Thank you so much

I just appreciated his awesome qualities more. I never met a man so treetrunking devoted to me. I feel like a queen. Virgo is the sign of service and service is my #1 love language, gifts #2. He gifts me all the time. You may be different in that respect.

If your number #1 is words of affirmation, forget it!

I just read this. Lol yeah words of affirmation is my number 1. Hearing good things makes me very happy and secure, of course backed with action. When I told him he doesnt say an I love you anymore, he laughed it off sayin that it's obviously understood that he does and that I shouldn't have to question him at this stage of our relationship. Internally I agree but the immature baby soul in me likes hearing it. The only time he says it now is when I tell him an I love you when we make love and he says an I love you too in response.
He isn't a romantic guy at all. During the courting phase he was but not after our honeymoon period got over.
I can live with that as long as he's loyal and committed to me always.
He isn't a gift person although it could be because we are just students now so we are not financially independent now and won't be so for atleast next 2 years, so I personally don't want him to spend on me,although we both contribute and spend a lot to spend some 'we' time after college..
2 days ago(while styling my hair) he laughed and said "when I get a job and start making money, I'll first take you to a good hair spa and get you a makeover". I didn't feel offended. I found that sweet instead lol.

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Yeah, you're NOT gonna get words of affirmation. You will get lots of action. I hope you recognize it when he shows you. And, they are men of their words more than others.

Although he does not give words of affirmation, and it's okay because I don't care for it that much.... My Virgo's #2 is words of affirmation, lol.

So our love languages are different but still a match. He gives service, my #1 but his #1 is time. Words of affirmation and time are my bottoms.

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I think that it's a blessing in disguise that he broke up with you. Burn the bridge with him and move on. He's not worth it.

Should I try and be his friend or just leave it completely I feel like I went from talking to someone morning and night everyday for 17 months to NC.

No friendship is there. He’s an ass, leave him behind.

Okay then

Remember, there was nothing there to really love. It's time to actually think about what you want in a romantic relationship; so you don't stumble into one.

I just want someone who cares about my feelings and not telling me how I feel.

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Yeah, you got alotta thinking to do. "I just want?" Really, that's all you want. If you don't get your head right, you're gonna learn some unnecessary lessons.

I'm gonna assume you just in your feelings right now.

Posted by DMV
Maybe change your thinking.

Saturn wants you to make sacrifices now to be better later

Sure do.

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I think what is most concerning is not so much what he’s saying/ doing (although sE trange) but more along how it’s effecting you. I understand you want someone who is going to motivate you to be the best, but it should be through their encouragement and support that makes you want to be better.

That's what I want too but I always tend to take things for granted that way.
It's like, it's fine if he wants me to maintain myself.
There are many things about me which he made me realize I need to work on.
It's really not good that I don't care much about wanting to look really good.
I don't even have a lipstick at home,that's embarrasing to even say.
Had he just nagged and nagged it would have been something but he actually makes efforts.
For eg. When he pointed out that I have dandruff issues, I brushed it off saying that it's okay it happens to most and it's natural but he kept arguing that no, it has to go away. He didn't just nag. He washed my hair with the best shampoo he had. Then he googled home remedies to make it go away completely. He does this because he knows I don't bother taking such efforts.
Another example. We were sleeping together and he pointed out I was smelling bad. I realized my underarms were indeed smelling as they got sweaty and we had not showered the previous day because of him. He soaped me that day.
Another example, sometimes I do dress bad. I admit I don't have the best fashion sense. His choice of clothes are usually good and trendy. He picks out those which make me look the best whereas I just pick any which I feel look alright on me. He doesnt just nag but actually goes through stores and websites and picks out good tops/pants which would look make me look amazing.
Another example, I was preparing for GRE as I am preparing for my college applications in US to pursue my Masters degree. It's out of 340 and I was working hard to score 330+ which is considered to be an excellent score. One day, he compared me to one of our classmates whom I disliked and said "you never know, she might score a 330+" when he saw I was struggling to cross 325 on my practice tests. That made me super mad and we argued and fought but that compelled me to work even harder. Guess what, I scored a perfect 340/340 and she scored a 318 and he was the 1st person I told my scores to and he immediately posted it on social media to boast his friends and to show how proud he is lol.
When I juxtapose these events, that's when it leaves me confused whether its control or just a virgo's way of showing love.

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My Virgo did the same with my 1st promotion to motivate me. Now, he brags on my position.

He came home laughing proudly telling me how when he told his co-worker my title... He says his co-worker exclaims, "then why are you working?!" LMAO.

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And, neither of us cared for make up. We were bohemian chic. But, when I started going up in my career, he said it was time.

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I think that it's a blessing in disguise that he broke up with you. Burn the bridge with him and move on. He's not worth it.

Should I try and be his friend or just leave it completely I feel like I went from talking to someone morning and night everyday for 17 months to NC.

No friendship is there. He’s an ass, leave him behind.

Okay then

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Remember, there was nothing there to really love. It's time to actually think about what you want in a romantic relationship; so you don't stumble into one.

Posted by slowdive80
@venusaquarius - I dont have a problem dating older provided i am attracted to them and there are no kids involved. Or if kids are involved they are grown up and out of the house.

But again, that is not easily available where I live. But what is funny is that at the beginning of my 30's where i lived previously there was while not large but decent amount of singles.

But I was taking care of a family member at the time and couldnt date. I thought there would be more time. But then when i got to 35 I started to notice less single thirty something women that were not single mothers

It wasnt a huge issue until i got to 37 and then last year 38. I've noticed more and more where I live is not conducive to dating my age. Even looking for late 20's as there are more women then guys here.

And the girls in their mid 20's here settle down quick because the competition is fierce out here for them

I like living in Santa Barbara but in two years I am going to age out of the demographic here completely

So unless I met someone that is late 20's or 30's I think i will leave by May. That's not the only reason - it is expensive to live here and I am tired of living with roommates

You're being very smart about it. People do need to look at the stats of where they live for marriage and love just like you would fir a career.

The southern town I grew up in has a male to female population heavily male. Not anymore but up until my late 20's at least. I could not step outta my house without a cat call or a man pulling over. So, that shaped my perspective alot. It also had high domestic violence and rape to include serial rapists. Police would rather do a drug raid before answering a domestic violence call. I kid you not. So, I was dating with absolute ease and no real concern and married young. But, I had a gun and was very careful. Being chased home by men and boys, threatened after rejection, stalked relentlessly....

Now, I'm up North. The women here are so aggressive, men talk of being turned off. They wait until late 30's and 40's to have children or get married cause of career opportunities are galore. So, I recommend the urban Northeast for what you're looking for.
I'm glad I'm not a single woman up here. It would be a culture shock for this southern gal. I'm up here for the career opportunities only. Got my man in the south

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@gia,
I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.
So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

We're in college. He's 21 and I'm wee bit older to him xD I know he does want me to be my best self and there's no harm in that. But, yeah, it really does hurt and given how sensitive I am it does throw me in depression at times where I question myself. Makes me feel as if I am ugly and just not good enough for him. The fact that he prioritizes looks just so much makes me question why is he even with me when he openly says he doesnt like the way i look.

I get it. I am very confident. I have no emotional depth... intensity, but no depth and my emotions are simple... happy, angry. The oldest of five, the oldest of my generation... turned down an engagement a month before I met him. And, Virgo proposed to me after a month or two of dating. So, we were married through it all. He may just not be the right fit for you. And, it's okay.

I don't want to get married for another 5-6 years and it's the same for him.He's too young now so he says "i dont want to get married ever" lol. I understand that coming from a 21 yrs old guy. He's the kind who feels that a couple must spend a minimum 3 years together before deciding marriage and I do support this. We have a lot to work for towards our career. He wants to pursue an MBA so he's working hard for his entrance exam and I want to pursue Masters degree so I am working hard on my college applications.
He's a very personal guy in all these matters. We both come from a family background which doesn't support the idea of being in a relationship at this stage of our life and only focus on studying hard, so our families don't know about our relationship yet. My parents know that he's my best friend though because we are classmates.
Once he showed a picture of us to his mom and he asked her how do I look and she said "she has very pretty eyes but weird lips" lol. It's funny how much he loves my lips because they're too fleshy lol. The fact that he showed our pic to his mom and asked her feedback on me, means a lot to him because he's too personal about this.
But then he also said "I had also showed a picture of my ex when she and I were dating and my mom said she looks good. But I am sure she'd have abused her had she known about her cheating personality". Like seriously dude? Was it necessary to tell me that your mom found your ex good looking?? I think these folks are certified markers lol

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You must be beautiful too. I put two and two together and figured out that I must be "beautiful" too, LMAO. Cause he, they, act a little too unsecure. I still don't think of myself that way even when people say I am "beautiful." Heard it yesterday. But, I think that's what it is or.... the cheating ex-girlfriend has him insecure.

My family did not approve of our elopement. My Pisces granny sat in the dark in the living room as I packed my stuff. She had a hard go at love and marriage and was loving and vicariously living my dating life.

It was tough. Cause I was raised upper-middle class and Virgo wanted us to live "green" and my family was like "look how he's got her living!" But, when I had our Pisces daughter, and I started the career I have now.... I convinced him that our bohemian life style was damned near impossible.
He was imagining the other day, what our life would be like if I chose the artist career instead.

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Howdie ho!!
So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.
For example ..
1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.
2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.
3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.
4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.
5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."
6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.
I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the cookiemonstering they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to cookiemonster. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after cookiemonstering me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he cookiemonstered about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him.

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.
He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them.

Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

OMG the 'i am joking' Bull love it, please. got that to. mine ex virgo did the. 'if you dont like it there is the door and dont let it hit you in the ass' but we had kids and so for the kids i didnt go. When i told him i wanted a divorce it wasnt 'i love you lets work it out'. it was ' i am afraid to be alone lets work it out'. he brings up marriage counseling then. But when i brought up marriage counseling years before it all. He says ' i am not worth it'. My mother virgo was the same way. He would tell me i can do what ever i want as long as it wasnt when he wanted me around or when he wanted me to do something. now when i asked him to do something for me he would but cookiemonster the whole time. then i would feel like butter for asking. I would ask him for anything else i had no choice. he would with hold affection if he didnt like something i was doing for myself like COLLEGE. lol

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I BUSTED through that butter QUICK. I am independent like an A.I. and he saw that day ONE. I never jocked him. I remember the time my girlfriends took me to the club when my baby was six months, LMAO.
He showed up looking Cancer Moon square Pluto crazy. He got my Gemini Moon darkness behind the wall of indifference, LOL!

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@gia,
I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.
So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.

We're in college. He's 21 and I'm wee bit older to him xD I know he does want me to be my best self and there's no harm in that. But, yeah, it really does hurt and given how sensitive I am it does throw me in depression at times where I question myself. Makes me feel as if I am ugly and just not good enough for him. The fact that he prioritizes looks just so much makes me question why is he even with me when he openly says he doesnt like the way i look.

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I get it. I am very confident. I have no emotional depth... intensity, but no depth and my emotions are simple... happy, angry. The oldest of five, the oldest of my generation... turned down an engagement a month before I met him. And, Virgo proposed to me after a month or two of dating. So, we were married through it all. He may just not be the right fit for you. And, it's okay.

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Howdie ho!!
So my virguy and I have been otherwise doing good;we'll be completing a year together next month end. However, there are few things about him which really throw me off.
For example ..
1) It has been over 3 months since he stopped saying an I love you. We'd always say it to each other before.I even addressed it to him a month ago in Jan and he said " Do our parents say an I love you to each other or to us daily? They don't because its obvious that they do. If we remain stuck and cry at such things our relationship will never mature. It's obvious that I love you. I told him it just makes me happy so at the most all he did was send me pic with I love you written on it on Valentines day. He says I should just know instead of questioning him.
2) His parents went out of town this entire week so he asked me to come over. It was my first time at his place and we spent 4 days overnight together. It was great,however, few things left me confused,again. We both were taking a shower together and he noticed some dandruff on my hair(I know it's not pleasant ) so he took charge of my hair. First he mocked the hell out of me. Taunted me. Then he threw away my shampoo bottle, took his and shampooed my hair,rinsed it and dried it. Then mocked me again.
3) Then he looked at my face and said he hates the way I style my hair. So then he takes my comb and style s my hair.
4) On day 3 we skipped shower because of his laziness(I never ever skipped shower time in my life thus far). On day 4 morning he told me I was smelling bad. It was my underarms. I didn't shower the previous day because of him and sex = workout. I won't smell roses. He mocked and taunted me again. We showered together and this time he threw away(not literally) my soap and soaped me with his. He didnt let me do anything. He did everything and he said "now it feels you showered properly for the first time in your life". Like come on boy.
5) He keeps complaining of my growing face fat. I acknowledge it doesnt look good and I am working on it but it's not something I can lose overnight. It takes a lot of time. He'll keep making fun of it and sometimes he'll show me pictures of girls on his instagram list who have a perfect V shaped chiseled jawline and says "look at that.Perfect jawline" or "when can I see you like this?". Obviously that makes me mad and I tell him to leave me for good and go after them and we have a fight and he tries to cheer my mood. We got little drunk that night so when i asked him why does he do that to me(compare me with other girls), he said "I pickup best quality from each girl and I taunt you with those because you work the best when your ego is pricked. I feel nothing for any of them but I purposely do that to prick your ego so that you actually do something about it. You're intelligent and I love you for your nature but I want you to be the best in every aspect - looks,clothes, style .I want you to be versatile."
6) After a night of few drinks, I got really sleepy. I had a heavy sleep and I look too weird and ridiculously ugly funny when i am in my deep sleep. The next day morning he shows me that he took my video when i was looking at my ugliest and mildly snoring. It made me feel highly insecure each time he made fun of it saying how great I looked. But despite looking like that he took good care of me that time.
I don't quite understand this behaviour. Are these signs of love or just wanting to control ? Virgo male inputs needed. Thank you in advance xxx

WOW i got soo many flash backs from everything you said, like war flash backs. My ex was that way too. if you say your done and going to put up with this anymore and your show him your pissed he will get all lovable. it will only about 3 weeks maybe 5 weeks. then he will go back to doing it again. you have to stand your ground on something you really hate that he does. he needs to see and know how you hate it. i know hate is strong but its the only thing that gets through them. the cookiemonstering they cant help. that is their stress relief. i do have to say one time my ex tried really hard not to cookiemonster. he could not go a day. when put on the spot their tongue is as smooth as silk but as soon as they are not their tongue is a very sharp blade. to them its how they show love or caring, but it comes across as a nagging wife. i would try and get my ex to say something nice to me after cookiemonstering me out for a paper towel roll after i spent all day, 17 hours fixing stuff he cookiemonstered about. well he look like he was good to throw up while saying something nice. he wont give me sex that not even after all the stuff i did for him.

When i had a tumor in my thyroid and grain a lot of weight he said to me that he didnt want to be married to a fat woman. I so wanted to beat him senseless that day. 'tumor, could die, ASS' they really dont know how to support others emotional or mentally. ' i will criticize you into what i think you should be' because i love you or because your are mine now.

Yep, I put this Aries tongue on his ass a few times. He always regretted it, Lol!

One time I stood in front of the T.V. during a football game, Lol. I warned him.

I remember once, I was sooo mad, I got in his face so close we were spitting on each other through our teeth, LmAo. He tried to kiss me! I like to scratch his eyes out, Lol. He picked me up and I was wiggling like a puppy, Lol.

fear wakes them up. i know fear ruled my ex virgos life. i saw it time and time again

Yeah, it does.

The divorce really helped. He went through some strange dark mood that scared me and outshined any good.
He changed. He is fabo today. Still a Virgo though.

yea they have to make their remarks. you look at them 'really' they are like ' What??' you always got to keep reminding them.

Mine can be such a cookiemonster. As I said, he called me over to his place and we spent 4 days and 3 nights together. I just returned back home yesterday. I was there this Monday through Thursday. On wednesday he kept mocking and taunting me "great so now you don't have to pay a penny as you get to stay and eat for free you won't leave my apartment ,will you?". Being the sensitive pisces I am, I packed my bags and I was ready to leave right then. He was in his bed and he said "If you leave, we'll breakup.Now your wish". I still opened the door. As soon as I unlatched the door and put my one leg out, he jumped from his bed and caught me and threw me in his bed and said "Why don't you get me when I am joking?" and then he fought with me that how dare I leave despite him saying that it will lead to a breakup and how it means i don't care about our relationship much lol ,such dramapants. I tell him he behaves worse than me like my worst PMS days.

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They have THE MOST sardonic, sarcastic, dark humor. But, also ridiculously goofey.

I see you're enjoying the tremendous libiido. Our 1st date lasted 4 days.

@gia,

One more thing. When he compliments you, it will also be taunting.

My Virgo calls me "Miss Perferct." He says it mostly as a compliment but sometimes as a insult, Lol. He also calls me "Queen Bee" mostly as a compliment and sometimes, as an insult.

@gia,
I tell good stories about my Virgo here too to which the ladies give me many accolades and say I have a good man.

Most of the things I'm expressing now happened so many years ago, over 20 years ago, like years 1-3.
So, I could tell you the fabulous super-hero stories too of the most dreamy, toe curling, heroic, and romantic. They are in my post history. But, that would be off topic a bit.

I imagined y'all were young and got confirmation when you mentioned college. We were 20... babies and immature.

My Virgo is a dream. I love his devotion to me. That's my favorite quality - devotion. He is there thick and thin. I never ever doubt that.