Cancer female, is this final?

Hi to the group. I'm an Aries female and have been with my cancer gf for two and a half years. I ended it with her recently for the first time when i got upset by something and instead of calming down and talking it through i made a impulse move which i later regretted.

Back story - We are long distance and i do most of the travelling due to her not having a job due to a long term illness. She has always had a problem with how sometimes i can't talk about my feelings as much and i go quiet because i need time to think. I have been working on this and got better. We both felt last year was our best year wrt to our relationship being strong and secure and having lots of great times together. When we are together things are fantastic its when we are apart that communication drops a bit.

After i broke it off, we were in contact for several days, then i cut contact for week or so and got back in touch. I have relayed all my feelings to her about what happened and been open and honest. We have only spoke on the phone since the break up and not met up.

She replied to me and thanked me for letting her know my feelings. But she thinks in the long run my communication problem (which i think is an over exaggerations tbh, as its only happen a few times because we do get on very well) will be too much for her and she is sad we couldn't make it work. She said she still misses me and loves me. That she needs to take time work on her health and herself.

She wanted to stay friends but it hurts too much for me to do this. So we both wished each other well and have cut communication.

This is the first time we have broke up. I don't know what to do as i still love her too.

What can i do to get her back?

Or shall i just let her go as she wasn't willing to work on things?

Yes, she has CFS. I never said i didn't give her affection. I gave her lots of affection when we are together. She wanted us to plan to move in together soon.

Yes i agree, she has been overwhelmed. Since she was the one to say she didn't want to work on things, shall i now wait for her to get in touch with me?

I already sent a goodbye message to her and she sent one back. So i feel it's upto her now. But yes i will get on with my life. I will give it a few weeks or so then ill start to let go and move on for good.

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Posted by ariesfire82

Yes i agree, she has been overwhelmed. Since she was the one to say she didn't want to work on things, shall i now wait for her to get in touch with me?

I wouldn’t “wait”. Like do your life and keep busy.

Tell her you’re there for her if she needs you.

So then that puts the contact on her.

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It's been 2 weeks tomorrow since we said our goodbyes and cut contact. This was our first break up and i was willing to work on putting things right to have a future together, we were at the last hurdle, and i feel she has given up on me and us. So i think its time for me to move on. Very disappointed. But life goes on.