Well this is my first post here, I've been creepin for a while haha! I am an aries sun/ cancer moon and my best friend is a cancer sun/ leo moon guy. We've been best friends for almost three years and lived together for two (only as friends) I told him last year that I had feelings for him and we ended up dating for a few months. He dumped me. From what I could tell he felt terrible. From the second he dumped me until now all he tells me is how much he can't lose me and that he still wants to be best friends. He has flirted a little, but keeps emphasizing that he wants to be friends. A few days ago I asked him how he felt about me (I didn't expect a declaration of love!)and he said we are best friends and he doesn't see me romantically. So, this means he will never view me that way again? Am I being an absolute fool for hoping that now that I'm moving on, he will see me differently again? When he broke up with me I wrote him a letter...I know tacky...and basically told him I would be right here waiting if he wanted me back. And I know he has told a mutual friend that he loves me more than anyone else(other than family). Help, I don't know what to do. Keep being friends with him? He knows very clearly that I have feelings for him and seems to be okay with that, although we have both said we miss being friends the most, even though I have said that more to comfort him than anything. Help!
Cancer man help!!!

If he doesn't love you romantically then your wasting your time. In this situation I would advise if you cant have him as a romantic partner then let him go. Being friends and keeping him around is only going to hurt you and keep other men from wanting to be with you
Thanks for the help everyone! Well he wants to be best friends still, and I thought I was over him and we were hanging out and it was great etc etc. But yesterday I told him I wanted to be done because we will be living in different cities in a few months and he freaked out!! He wouldn't let me end our friendship because I am his best friend, but I think he is being selfish. And I realized that I'm not over him, and hanging out with him is so great and it's like nothing ever happened then when I leave I just want to cry. Do I tell him I'm not over him? Will he let me go then?

Cancers will keep you around just t feel emotionally good themselves, it is an extremely selfish act. Run away before he screws up your mind....you wouldn't be the first aries woman to get seriously hurt by a Cancer guy. Run like hell...
Hola mAriesp. Being a Cancer male myself, I would tell him how much it hurts to be around him even though u have so much fun together. If he's mature he should understand and respect that. If he doesnt, just cut him off for a while. Let your wounds heal and in a couple months or whatever, contact him again. I wouldnt totally ignore him,but if he continues to bother u about hanging out or whatever then cut him off and give it some space for a minute. Hope this helps. I know how it feels to have feelings for a friend and it doesnt work out. Sucks. Best of luck chicka. :-)
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