Cancer man- not shy at all! Need opinions.

I first met this cancer guy at a lounge when I asked him a question. I didn't ask him because I was attracted to him, but rather because he was the first person near me when my curiosity arose. He was very charming and full of compliments- telling me how beautiful I am and kept asking me things like "are we in love?" "Are we dating?" I was taken aback by his bluntness and flirtatiousness - saying most things guys wouldn't necessarily say (especially when first meeting someone) but I definitely found it flattering. He charmed me into a kiss (great kisser) and we exchanged numbers because he kept talking about how great our future/next dates would be.

Christmas day I mass texted my phone and we reconnected. He said he wanted to take me out when he came back from being home with family. I didn't hear from him but he uploaded our photo to Facebook (that we took the night at the lounge) and tagged me in it.

I texted him about the photo after not hearing from him and he responded with a playful should we just start dating? then no official date plans.

The other night I was in his neighborhood and thought it'd be fun to text him. He invited my friend and I over and we cuddled, watched a movie, kissed, and he lit candles. The whole time he talked about how I was "his girl" to his roommates and how the wedding scenes in the movie would be just like our future wedding and those kids would look like ours. (Weird to me on the second time of hanging out but I couldn't help but laugh at it and find it a little cute/romantic.) After a bit he said he wanted to go to bed. Knowing what this means I said I'll get ready to go home and he was immediately off put. He starting pouting and tried convincing me that I should stay the night, just to cuddle. He kept saying how everything is perfect and now I'm ruining the night and when I couldn't take any more of this childish behavior my friend and I got up and left.

As soon as I got to the car he text me "that was weird? what just happened" and "tonight was perfect why did you leave" I called him to try to explain that I had to wake up the next morning early (an excuse for not wanting to have sex so early) and he called me the weirdest/sketchiest girl he ever met etc etc etc. Regardless of this behavior, I still found it flattering that he was so interested. The next day he texted me to tell me I was a great kisser/cuddler. He followed by asking me if I'd spend the night.

Is he just looking for sex or is this his was of leading into something more? He seems interested but like the crab is heading into it sideways and testing his waters.

(p.s. i'm a virgo. I treat hookups casually but would not go as far as to have sex without an emotional connection (and I don't get emotionally attached easily.)) I've been thinking about this cancer guy a lot- really strange for me to get so caught up but I love his roller coaster behavior - it provides the excitement I need and love.

LOL....you mass posted too it seems!!

of course he's just after sex hence the pouting when you left and the OTT remarks on the very first time of meeting. you can't seriously think he's being sincere can you?

he flirts with you and then asks you to spend the night.

it's not rocket science is it.

the cancerian i was seeing was very much into the long haul. for a change i made him wait for sex cos i was kind of hung up on someone else and didn't feel it was fair to the crab. he didn't pout or get stroppy once! he was patient BECAUSE he wanted it to lead to something more.

I figured it was worth asking. Some men sleep with a woman first and that leads to a relationship later. Some prefer to be patient. I've never dated a cancer before (all my exes are capricorns and have tried to sleep with me on the first date, were upset when it didn't happen but were thrilled when it did later). All relationships I've had have lasted over a year.

I'm clueless when it comes to the cancer male.

Posted by virgo1006
I figured it was worth asking. Some men sleep with a woman first and that leads to a relationship later. Some prefer to be patient. I've never dated a cancer before (all my exes are capricorns and have tried to sleep with me on the first date, were upset when it didn't happen but were thrilled when it did later). All relationships I've had have lasted over a year.

I'm clueless when it comes to the cancer male.

who cares what some men do or don't do? what do YOU do? women always put the onus on the man for everything it seems. take responsibility for yourself and do what comes naturally. i know an aries man who butt fucked a woman on the first date and they went on to get married LOL!! that's pretty out there i think and just shows that there's no formula here apart from being yourself.

Kinda hard to call. Its not uncommon for me to sleep next to a girl before I sleep with her. But at the same time I've had nights where everything went well with a girl and I was sure sex was in store and would be the perfect cap, only for her not ready, which I respect. Overall the former is a much better start to a relationship its a good way to build trust. I would just make him wait even longer now so you can have more time to evaluate his intentions.

I think his behavior is odd.

Quit texting him. If he wants to date you, he will make more effort! Don't be the one making the only effort. Sounds like he is all talk. Make him initiate.

Honestly, I think right now, he thinks it will be easy to get into your pants. Make him wait longer just because. 😉

Wow im sorry honey this is just crazy. He just want ass for now. Cancers guy use a lot of emotions to get a*s and will get frustrated when there sh*t dont work out.i dated a cancer dude who have done this to me, he went thru the dam emotions on the first date trying to get a*s, then on the second date he trick me to come to his house being very manipulative.and got mad when I told him his not getting any.omg he was like a fu*king dam a*s baby.then after the crying act he told me his leaving town cause there no love here for him Jesus help the fool. A dam loser

Dont give it up that easy girl. Its gotta be more precious than that. A woman that makes me wait only shows me the amount of respect she has for herself and not only that, but it makes it that much more special when it happens. Make him earn it.

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Josh, its very interesting indeed. After 24 years of searching things are finally starting to make sense and I also believe I have a pleiadian soul, and it feels very good. If you haven't yet I would read up on characteristics of pleiadian souls and see if they resonate with you. I read up on it and it described me to a T. Both mentally, emotionally and physically in weird ways. Thats cool they told you that I would also check out this book I just started reading its called pleiadian initiations of light. Good luck to you!