Cancer man's safety blanket (Pisces woman)

I (Piscean woman) met this cancer guy who had recently divorced his wife. We got involved pretty fast, maybe even too fast. He was all lovey dovey , and he even told me that he loves me. But after some time, we had to part ways and it was beyond out control, since he was being relocated to another place. After a month, he spoke less and less to me. Later i learnt he got back with his ex wife and he did not tell me about it. I was hurt, not because he's seeing her or anyone else for all i care, but that he did not bother to tell me and just cut me short and disappeared. After some time, he came to me and told me that things went rough with her, and they finally separated after 2 months again. Recently, he appeared out of the blue, wants to keep contact with me, speaks of the good old times we had, and he still tells me that i've been of great support to him and he misses me. I suppose he's feeling lonely or things are going rough for him.

I went through a hard time myself trying to get over him and not lash out him at all with my hurt feelings. I've let all those hard feelings dissolve and now when I'm finally stronger and moving on, he just wants appear in the picture again. I don't want to be the rebound girl to him, nor his safety blanket if it's just for a while until things smooth out again for him. But somehow, i still like him and friends is good too.. i kinda cherish the time we had, but i don't want to run into the same wall.

What should i do? I'm taking it pretty slow so far.

I would keep the hell away from this guy if I were you.

He clearly was on the rebound, and looking for something to replace his ex-wife.

This guy uses human beings for his emotional fulfillment, and THAT is NOT what you want in your life.

He is a destroyer of human spirits because he is too immature to respect or understand the true meaning of love.

Yeah it's definitely not what I want in life.. and I don't deserve it either. Heh pisceans arent really good at putting their foot down. Well lately, i've been more engrossed into my own life, enoying the lil pleasures around me, and you know being happy again. Do you think, he wants to be back in the picture coz he feels im ignoring him.. or maybe cancers are intrigued when they aren't being chased anymore..

Posted by Moonshadow
Yeah it's definitely not what I want in life.. and I don't deserve it either. Heh pisceans arent really good at putting their foot down. Well lately, i've been more engrossed into my own life, enoying the lil pleasures around me, and you know being happy again. Do you think, he wants to be back in the picture coz he feels im ignoring him.. or maybe cancers are intrigued when they aren't being chased anymore..

You should ignore him permanently.

He is using you as a booty call while he stays with his wife, and you are only going to hurt yourself if you stay in his life on ANY level.

Cut all ties with him at once, and find a man who will respect you as a human being.

This creep is simply using you to fulfill his own selfish and manipulative intentions, and he is emotionally destructive.

I would avoid him as I avoid rat poison, if I were you.

Thanks for all your insight 🙂

Glad to be of support.

I hate seeing human beings in abusive situations, and I try to help people avoid such positions in life as they are quite destructive to all involved.