BrooklynB
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Cancer Men Sex Initiators
My cancer and I spent a few nights in bed before we finally went all the way. It was driving me crazy and I thought normally guys initiate so I started to worry that maybe he had a small weiner or something was wrong with it haha. Finally, one night we were making out a bunch and I realized it wasn't small! That just drove me more crazy, but I still didn't know what to do, so we went to sleep. In the middle of the night, I couldn't fall asleep cause I couldn't stop thinking about it haha. I coudl tell he was still awake too, so I just asked like 'wanna do it?' And since he knew for sure I wanted it, he finally made a move and it was awesome. haha... good times.. I also found later that making out a lot and telling him how much I care about him were good ways to get him in the mood.
Posted by WaterboyCancepioPosted by BrooklynB
Do Cancer men sometimes fear initiating sex?
It isn't that he isn't attracted to you, he's just being very considerate which I think speaks volumes of him and how he sees you.click to expand
I think it speaks a lot of him too! 🙂 Thanks Waterboy
Posted by gemcancervenus
My cancer and I spent a few nights in bed before we finally went all the way. It was driving me crazy and I thought normally guys initiate so I started to worry that maybe he had a small weiner or something was wrong with it haha. Finally, one night we were making out a bunch and I realized it wasn't small! That just drove me more crazy, but I still didn't know what to do, so we went to sleep. In the middle of the night, I couldn't fall asleep cause I couldn't stop thinking about it haha. I coudl tell he was still awake too, so I just asked like 'wanna do it?' And since he knew for sure I wanted it, he finally made a move and it was awesome.
Hahahaaa.... sounds like me! I couldn't stop thinking about it either. LOL... We have done it once before... like over a month ago.. so I know its not small. heeheee. Now I don't feel so bad though. 🙂 Thanks
Posted by WaterboyCancepioPosted by BrooklynB
Do Cancer men sometimes fear initiating sex?
me = Couldn't even if I wanted to (especially the first two times)
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Mind if I ask why? Like, what makes you not be able to?
Posted by WaterboyCancepioPosted by BrooklynBPosted by WaterboyCancepioPosted by BrooklynB
Do Cancer men sometimes fear initiating sex?
me = Couldn't even if I wanted to (especially the first two times)
Mind if I ask why? Like, what makes you not be able to?
I wrote down an answer a couple of times but just couldn't post it. Will dot down the ideas/feelings behind my original statement and hopefully you will see where i'm coming from.
- In perfect conditions, I still wouldn't initiate just because I absolutely hate the feeling that i'm forcing my lady to do anything. I will wait forever till i'm absolutely sure that we both feel the same way about it before i'm comfortable enough to be myself when it comes to this issue.
- Your man isn't dealing with perfect conditions. He recognises the nice thing that you did, if anything his sense of consideration is even more unreasonable (if that makes any sense). He really doesn't want to feel like he's using you or taking you for granted. AND he doesn't want you to feel that he's taking you for granted, which is why he will be very cautious about the "gift basket" while he still lives with you.
The impact of anything and everything nice you do at this stage will just be amplified in his eyes.. (Kind of happy for you in a way)..lol.. All the best
Key term: Unreasonably considerate.click to expand
Thanks! Unreasonably considerate huh? LOL. No, but I totally understand what you are saying. He left yesterday (Thursday)since he had to go to work, but I think he said he will come back Saturday. He left a bunch of stuff here. Guess at this point I will just keep being nice and maybe when he comes back I will try a little initiation. :-/
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