Cancer Woman Likes Aquarius Man ?

I been talking to this aquarius guy for about 3 months were not dating because he has been so off and on with his feels for me, at first he said he wanted to be free and have fun, and that i was too perfect for him, like the type of woman he would marry and he wasn't ready for that. so we stopped talking for a few weeks and i guess he noticed how much he did care about me, and now hes saying he is in love with me and he made a mistake ect ect. were both just friends now and everything is going good, but i was wondering can a cancer woman acutally date an aquarius man and it actually work ?

well...I'll just say this...if I were you I wouldn't expect it to go past where you're at right now..... my dad is an aqua...and I gotta tell you, you probably don't WANT it going any further with this typre of aqua...
EVERY sign has its higher and lower forms.... the higher form of aqua is a committed kind of person who likes to experience freedom WITHIN their relationship i.e. a person who doesn't restrict them too much.... a lower form is the type you are dealing with.... he doesn't want a relationship - he's saying what he needs to in order to get what he wants from you. My dad is the lower type and I've lost count of how many marriages he's had....and how many affairs.... actually my mom's an aqua too...she's no better....and my big sis...

I dated one aqua who was also the lower type - said the same kinds of things as your guy - except my aqua actually told me he loved me, but still wouldn't commit to a relationship - then one day just decided to stop talking to me and tell everyone I was crazy, that we never dated. That was years ago, and he called me a couple weeks ago out of the blue - couldn't understand why I was angry and didn't want to talk to him....

So what I'm getting at is don't necessarily take his coming back after a couple of weeks as him realizing he really cares about you.... but you do what you think is right, and if you trust him go for it...just know what you are most likely up against.

lol - when my dad was going through his most recent divorce he said my step mom was accusing him of cheating because he had a new girlfriend but that he met her AFTER they decided to divorce....actually she CAUGHT him with the girl and cold cocked him outside the hotel.... that's why they divorced, and then he proposed to the new girlfriend and she ran off to Japan and never came back.... oh the aqua horror stories I have....

"tell everyone I was crazy, that we never dated."

I found this comment to be really funny, and kinda spot-on. I have several Aqua-guy-freinds and the Aqua-guy I'm "re-connecting with", and they have all told me of "situations" like this. It usually goes something like . . . "So, there's this girl, she asked if I was going to so-and-so's party, and I say 'yeah' and so we're both there, and she gets all mad because I'm flirting with this other girl, and I'm like 'What the heck is SHE mad for? I'm not here with HER! WHY did she think this was date?' "

Now, each of my Aqua pals are the same way, and I've said to them that "Gee. . . MAYBE it's because you are an ENORMOUS FLIRT and the girl thinks that she was there WITH YOU??"

They just shake their heads in total disbelief. "Why would this crazy girl think I was interested in her like that? I was just being nice!"

I'm not saying that was the case with ANY of your situations. . . just sharing what I've been told by other Aqua's. OH - and also - I have a female Aqua friend too who also has had men "interested" in her and she is taken TOTALLY by surprise because she's not aware of having sent any "vibes" out. She thought she was just being nice. So - it's not just the guys who can do that! 🙂

But - to answer your question MacKitty - - look for any posts by unusualcancer. She has LOTS of good info on cancer woman / aqua male realtionships. And yes, I believe they can work. I believe that ANY sign-combo CAN work - it just depends on the PEOPLE (not the SIGNS so much)!

lol - yeah...but it's hard to argue when he used to spend the night at my place and invited me over to meet his whole family [ I already knew his sister] and took me out on his roof and told me he loved me.... then told everyone at work [yeah we worked together - I did that a lot when I was younger] that he had no idea what I was talking about and he never went over my place or invited me over to his etc.....

''So - it's not just the guys who can do that!''

Very true - you're another 'friend'

''look for any posts by unusualcancer. She has LOTS of good info on cancer woman / aqua male realtionships. And yes, I believe they can work. I believe that ANY sign-combo CAN work - it just depends on the PEOPLE (not the SIGNS so much)!''

True but on the astro front, moon signs and other aspects can be checked out.

Good luck

It's very confusing. Because I do like this guy a lot. He's very charming, we both love music, he's funny. Not to long ago he told me he was in love with me, and he pretty much opened up to me about his past saying how he had family issues growing up, and how he has been hurt in the past by other women, and he became this asshole who didn't care, but i opened up a new side to him ect ect.

We talked on the phone tonight for about 2 hours, and things seem to be going well. But then we will talk about getting married or love and relationships, and he says hes never getting married, hes to independent, but then one min he will say how he wants to be in a relationship and get married. its like he changes his mind every second about what he wants. almost to the point were it feels like he wants me to feel sorry for him.

in my experience that is what he wants..... that is my experience with my mom, dad, and sister.

There could be several factors at play here MacKitty. . .

It COULD be that he's being honest with you, and could HONESTLY be very confused about what he himself wants. MANY men in general, not just Aqua's, reach a point in their lives where they are at a cross-roads. . . a transition, if you will, from "single guy" to "wanting to spend a future with someone". It COULD be that he is in such a transition and is confused about which path he wants to go down. How old is this guy?

I also agree with what XAnglefish said about the "higher" and "lower" forms of Aquas (and again, people in general, IMO). . . he could be at a point where he is transitioning from "lower" to "higher".

Or - it could be that he is telling you what he thinks you want to hear. In my (limited) experience, Aquas can be just about as intuitive as I can be - they are, after all, always analyzing EVERYTHING, and one of those things is going to be YOU.

In truth, your convesations vaguly echo the ones I've been having with the Aqua I am reconnecting with. He was married once, and says that once was enough, he doesn't want to marry again. He's said that this does not, however, mean that he wants to be alone. He's told me that he really doesn't like to be alone - he very much likes to be part of a "couple," likes being "cozy at home with the one I'm with" (which I found to be SHOCKING words for an Aqua-Mr-Freedom-Seeker, but maybe not so much since his Ascend is Taurus, Scorpio moon, and Cancer Saturn)and has become quite picky, not wanting to "settle" anymore. Do I know if there is any truth to those statements? No. I don't. But I can TRUST his word, until he gives me reason not to.

Anyway - my point in all this babble . . . I have no idea what is REALLY going on his head, just as you, MacKitty, might not have a clue about what is going on in your guys head. All I can do - or advise to do - is proceed with caution and take it one day at a time. Admit that there MAY be some truths, or some unthruths, about what is going on, and be prepared to handle either situation. Look before you leap . . . But always be brave enough to take the leap. 🙂

''which I found to be SHOCKING words for an Aqua-Mr-Freedom-Seeker''

I think every human being has the same emotional needs/wants - it's how they go about getting it that makes them different. Aqua in my experience just needs room to think, if you give them that, you'll prob see them frequently.

I'm no expert on relationship but from a logical side, after 3 months speaking to someone and if the conversation was marriage or not, I would expect the same reaction you're getting. I don't know if it's due to my sign.

No one can predict the future - be his friend, enjoy the friendship, if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. From your profile pic, you're pretty HOT!

But I know married Aqua and Cancer if it helps...and married Aqua and Taurus for 31yrs xangel :-)

well I did say the "higher" type was the committed sort as long as you don't restrain them - but this guy doesn't sound [from what she's saying] like the higher type.

And mackitty - just because he talks about a song he would play IF he got married and says that you are the kind of girl he would marry IF he got married, doesn't mean he's telling you something in code.... A guy who is really afraid of marriage probably wouldn't talk casually about the kind of girl he would marry....he'd probably avoid the topic like the plague....so, the things you're saying he's telling you don't really add up to me...but that's just my limited opinion based on limited information....

You're a cancer - use your intuition - if you trust the guy then go with that, but it doesn't sound like you really trust him......

"and he pretty much opened up to me about his past saying how he had family issues growing up, and how he has been hurt in the past by other women, and he became this asshole who didn't care, but i opened up a new side to him ect ect."


OH NO!!!! run for the hills...RUN!!! lol...been there, done that.

if you do have a relationship with this aqua, you will prob end up having to give A LOT of yourself. if you are ready for that, then go for it!!! your motherly instinct will prob tell you that you can nurture him and help him gain confidence, etc. don't do it... understand that he has deep issues, and he prob won't ever discuss them with you once you go past friendship. just ask yourself if you are ready for that.

he is probably fighting his feelings...constantly putting up a wall. which is why he says one thing at one time, and then another (i.e. the wedding issue). there is a big battle going on in his head and he will keep it there for a while. until he becomes more comfortable with himself and his feelings. until then he will be confusing, because, well, he is confused himself!!!

i have the same experience with you. i had a realtionship with an aqua guy for almost a year. We broke up after caught him with another girl. It was really hurting but despite of that i continually love him. Its crazy! I tried to stop loving him but always failed. He helped me to go out of the country and have a better life. Maybe thats the reason i wont forget him. we kept in touch until after a year of our broke up, we met again. he got an opportunity to have a short job on the country where ia ma working. Again, the same scenario. He went out with different girls in town. I just ignored that even its really hurting. He left again and went to his country. Communication was the same. We cahtted on the net. Then again, after two years, he told me that he is coming again. He wasexcited coming here. Sent me sms that he is coming. I tried to control my feelings because really i was so afraid to see him again. But we decided to met. He promised me that he would be nice to me this time coz the last time he was not. Went for dates. He treated me nicely. No other women involved. Even I pushed or tried him to date someone or go out with someone in the pub. But he didnt. He was telling me that if i will get a guy (a new bf), he should be better than me.He knows that i have a better life now. I have a good job, my own house, a good family and my dreams are coming true. Friendly advise from him. I know that until now I love him. But he said that everything is just for fun and I should not let fun to give me a wrong feeling. He told me that he met someone already. But you know sometimes when we are out, I am feeling that he is getting insecure. when im enjoying myself he will make something that would get my attention. He is really confusing. Then when we were chatting a week ago, he was asking me if im going out/dating. I said no. I asked him if why until now, we still being in touched. He said its because i am very good on enjoying myself and have a good company. He gave me back the same question and asking me if is it because of love. I can not answer him coz im scared to rejected. I just said the same thing. And told him that its because im scared to lose him. He doesnt want heavy conversations. He told me who is going to lose? I am really confused on this aqua guy. I just let him do what he wants to do. Its really difficult for me to forget him....