Dealing with the Mood Swings

Hello Again everyone 🙂

I've been adapting to my cancer boyfriend's mood swings. i'm just stuck in a rut, don't get me wrong i love him i'm never bored even if he's stuck ever so often in his moods and talking to me about them or whatever's bothering him. .. it's just i feel helpless, i don't know what i should do, i try to be near and there for him but he seems to push me away or grow cold on me, i try not to take it personal, but sometimes it turns personal.. How does this equation work? I mean should i seek to lift his mood up or just go with the flow of things let him feel whatever he's feeling.

It just hurts me that one day he's so sure about his love for me and our relationship, and then all of the sudden he can't even tell me he loves me back or misses me... I'm confused and i want this to work with all my heart, i love him with all my heart.. Any advice?

Hi LeoGal,

Firstly, it's not the end of the world if a Crab has a mood or 10.
Even though it feels like he's rejecting you he's just going through his thing.
Try not to take it personal because 30 minutes later he may be in a different mood.

You really have to know the guy you have and how to soothe him.
Don't try to rescue him from his moods.
Best not to pet, coo and coddle to much and be apart of his mood swings.
Maybe a reassuring hug or kiss and then give space.
Don't let his moods control your mood.
Stay upbeat, and sunny. He's counting on that to help lift him out of it.
Keep your fire and shine. Remain you.

Instead of directly addressing his mood, you could work around it by
bringing up another subject. That may help get his mind off of it.

You may even want to step out and go somewhere, leave him to have his moment.
When you go out, get him a small gift and give it to him.
Don't do that all the time, it could get expensive.

That may lighten his mood.

I am having a hard time with my Cancer man as well, confusion is a good word for it! I am always trying to figure out where we really stand because to me, btw I am a Taurus woman, in a relationship there should be communication and lots of it, so when my guy is telling me all this stuff on one hand, like he wants us to be exclusive, but then cuts back on the communication, to me that sends a mixed signal and if I pursue it, he gets mad. He is very possessive, and has already warned me about being flirtatious with other men, that if I do, he will end it. So he is on one hand claiming me, but on the other wants me when HE wants me. It is frustrating to say the least!