Does my Caner man left me or upset with me?

I met a Cancer guy 6 months ago, it took him 2 months to ask me out.
All started nice, we start seen each other every week, and spending weekends together, he stayed with me and I went to stay his place most of the time.
He cooked for me acting caring,he was in contact with me everyday, acted jealously. He wasn`t happy if i met one of my male friend, he was asking tonnes of question about them.

However,he came out of very long relationship 8 months ago, he looked depressed. He didnt have many friend.
I would say bit unsocial. But he wasnt kissing me much, and he didnt like to have much sex. I tried to understand him
He was a bit shy.

I went away for two weeks to see my family, we were in contact every day. The day I arrived he called and asked me if I am happy to be back, I said no because I left my family behind.

He was upset and send me text message saying" You dont care about me" I called texted he didnt respond to me.

I thought he might be looking for a reason to leave. I told him, if you want to leave dont look for excuse say so.
I got reply "It will be difficult to see you leaving one day, you may go back to your family, we have to finish"
I explained no i am not planning to leave the country
Next day he came back

Since 4 weeks we meet every weekend stay together, no sex no kissing, he cuddles hugs. I try to ask he said he is worried about his job.

One morning i left upset with this situation, texted him to clarify few things he was upset with me responded rudley" Are you trying to say we didnt fuck is it problem" I was shcoked with the answer and said no point to continue conversation.

I tried to contact him next day, he said he is still upset, he respondedn my messages. But following day send him good messages he stop replying answering my calls. I asked if he is upset , send him many messages explained how i felt, how his behaviour affected me no respond at all.

Finally told him that "no answer means an answer, you decided not to see me than good luck to you" still not respondin.

I got very angry kept sending messages e-mail no respond. I worried if something happened than i said i am coming to you to collect my stuff he finalyy respond He said he is away when he is back he will send them

I was suspicous that he met someone else"noticed he added a lady to his contact on one of the web we use" I saw them both online at same time and off line too.
I emailed the girl if she is his ex she said not. is he upset or

Fascinating.

Wow whats your sign.I really dont no wat to say about this one..but I do think u have done enough.

I am a Pisces,

Hi peri2013 can i help out ? Please don't send on more dang text, call, email! He sees them. I'm sure all of his electronic devices work! Let him sulk. Give him his space. You are starting to obsess over this guy & he really isn't worthy of that from you. The more you push the more he will run. So stop pushing.

Do these two things:
1)Breathe
2) Read what I posted again.

Thank you Rapunzel

I was wrong I know. I tried to make an effort by calls and text messages.
It has been two days I stop writing to him, my biggest mistake was to write to a girl on his contact to know if they are dating.

Our last conversation was on the phone, he told me that he didn't answer my messages,because he didn`t want to aruge, than i said I am not chasing you to be with me, I wanted an answer why he is not replying? Than told him that` I will never continue a guy, who ignores my messages" his voice has gone down badly than i wished him a good luck.

Than wrote a girl to get an exact answer, she replied that I am pestering her, i should get over if he is not replying

Shall I go him, and tell him sorry or just wait and see?

I am suffering because i hurt him, and it is my mistake I know.

Thank you Libra

Can anyone tell me, do I have to make an effort to see him. Just leave him and move on?

Let me first say that I understand it hurts a lot to feel like you hurt some one u care about. I understand. But if they treat u like crap after all of your hard work, BACK AWAY.... For now. When u are with a cancer guy, Don't ever make quick decisions about walking away...too many of your emotions are involved at the moment....You pull back like he just did you. If you can, give him no contact as long as u can.

Now, this next step should ONLY ONLY be done for YOU to have some peace. Do this if u absolutely think u must & feel like u cant go on....In a brief text, not call, say "I'm sorry, I never intend to hurt u" then back away. Disappear. Those are your final words until he thinks it through. Then YOU let HIM return. Give him thinking time. No more effort on your part.

But please know that U are the catch... Always! U are the beautiful Prize. He should need YOU. Not the other way around. You don't need him. Think with your mind if you can right now. I want you to have the best. U deserve the best 🙂

Thank you
I will try for the last time

Female stalker, hmmm, no wonder.

hi Spectre,

What do you mean

Hmmm, obsessive and inquisitive.

who is obsessive me? If you are talking about me. i am not at all,just done with this guy
Because there is a uncertainty, trying to know the real fact behind this ignorant behavior. If I know someone doesnt want me for sure, I will walk away...

Posted by peri2013
who is obsessive me? If you are talking about me. i am not at all,just done with this guy
Because there is a uncertainty, trying to know the real fact behind this ignorant behavior. If I know someone doesnt want me for sure, I will walk away...

Then ask him.

It's easy.

Or

Walk away.

It's easy.

Unless its an obsession.

Thank your Libra I am moving on, and I am not going to chase someone who doesn`t know how to treat women.

It is hard but, it is all matter of time.

Thanks to all

Hi Libra,

I did ask him, and no respond... So I am moving on..Trying to know a guy who was caring acting as lover you will make an effort to win back this is not an obsession.

Obsession knowing someone doesn`t want you, if you still chase and make your life miserable for it than it is an obsession

Thanks

Posted by Rapunzel
Let me first say that I understand it hurts a lot to feel like you hurt some one u care about. I understand. But if they treat u like crap after all of your hard work, BACK AWAY.... For now. When u are with a cancer guy, Don't ever make quick decisions about walking away...too many of your emotions are involved at the moment....You pull back like he just did you. If you can, give him no contact as long as u can.

Now, this next step should ONLY ONLY be done for YOU to have some peace. Do this if u absolutely think u must & feel like u cant go on....In a brief text, not call, say "I'm sorry, I never intend to hurt u" then back away. Disappear. Those are your final words until he thinks it through. Then YOU let HIM return. Give him thinking time. No more effort on your part.

But please know that U are the catch... Always! U are the beautiful Prize. He should need YOU. Not the other way around. You don't need him. Think with your mind if you can right now. I want you to have the best. U deserve the best 🙂

This is a good move, when a Cancer backs away give them space. They'll return when they're ready, the more you chase them the more they'll run. He'll come looking for you if he still wants you, in the meantime continue living your life.

Thanks all. I am not sure now even I want him back after all this tiredness. I acted angrily and being silly.
Also told him that I feel like hitting him, writing other person to know if she is dating. I can see it is all over.

A guy who has no courage to say a word and reply, even is finished to say it is finished.

I don`t need him back now, when i think with the clear mind.

Thank you for all, who took time to write here and made an effort to read my post.

I wish you all health and happiness. Life is too short to chase a crab🙂

Posted by peri2013
Thanks all. I am not sure now even I want him back after all this tiredness. I acted angrily and being silly.
Also told him that I feel like hitting him, writing other person to know if she is dating. I can see it is all over.

A guy who has no courage to say a word and reply, even is finished to say it is finished.

I don`t need him back now, when i think with the clear mind.

Thank you for all, who took time to write here and made an effort to read my post.

I wish you all health and happiness. Life is too short to chase a crab🙂

Perceptive.

Without courage a man is worthless.

A nudge 2 let out the anger.

U hv grown up.

I am surprised.

Hi Spectre,

You sounds like him now!!!

What do you mean I am growing up, I wonder how would you act, if same happen to you🙂

U r more matured now.

U hv admitted ur faults - acting angrily and being silly.

It is something very hard for a person to do and u took that critical step.

Only by admission can u be released from the cycle of wallowing in self pity.

There can be no profit in that.

U hv my respect.

Hi Spectre,

How would you act towards rood person? Than next day communicate with you, like everything is solved.

You act basis of that communication try to make things between you and her nicely? She ignores your call and your messages
1) You think something bad happened to person
2) You ask if he is upset
3) you try to know the reason

Still no respond to above points what will you do?

Also see she is going to singles party for Valentine,"which she told you before, she doesn't celebrate Valantine"

Wont you be angry?

Hi Spectre,

I really want to know your thought if you are with someone who acts as above.

There r 3 type's of men in the world.

I'll classify them for easy understanding.

1. The courageous & brave - Those with passion to win, to conquer..etc.
2. The cowards - Those that follow No. 1
3. The mama boys - Wimps, sensitive, basically acts like a women, extreme cowardice, obvious lack of confidence.

Classify the man and i will tell answer ur questions.

Make it fast, i am sleepy.

Posted by Spectre
Make it fast, i am sleepy.

Lol

Posted by Spectre
Make it fast, i am sleepy.

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F U C K 3 D yo B 1 T C H

Hi Spectra

Number 3 classified man

No. 3 huh...

This will be hard 4 u to swallow.

I can only guide u to the answer that is in u already.

Do u want 2 be his mother?

Do u want another "female" in ur life?

Do u want to feel the insecurity of no protection?

Do u really desire to be the Leader in a relationship?

The No.3 man will NEVER sacrifice.

The No.3 man has ONLY wants and is needy.

The No.3 man will need constant approvals and constant validation from u, can u truly do this for the rest of ur life?

A women's duty is 2 her future younglings, if she fails in testing a man's worth then she fails her babies.

As u read my above posting.

Tears will inadvertently drop from ur eyes.

Imagine I am there right next 2 u, in the arms of a mountain that does not move nor speaks a word. That allows those tears to freely flow like the rivers in the mountains.

As u look up, in my eyes u will see the compassion of a man, on my face u will see the pride of a man.

The pride of knowing how strong u hv become.

The pride of knowing that u will be fine.

Do not worry, everything will work out just fine.

Now u hv knowledge to seek out the best.

U hv a trait any No. 1 man will be drawn too.

The No. 2 man will be drawn to u too. Those man at No.2 r on their way to become a No.1 man.

I hv great respect for a women such as u.

Posted by Spectre
No. 3 huh...

This will be hard 4 u to swallow.

I can only guide u to the answer that is in u already.

Do u want 2 be his mother?

Do u want another "female" in ur life?

Do u want to feel the insecurity of no protection?

Do u really desire to be the Leader in a relationship?

The No.3 man will NEVER sacrifice.

The No.3 man has ONLY wants and is needy.

The No.3 man will need constant approvals and constant validation from u, can u truly do this for the rest of ur life?

A women's duty is 2 her future younglings, if she fails in testing a man's worth then she fails her babies.

Amazing. I like this.

Thank you

Actually I know what I want, but I always hit the wrong wall. I want a person with courage, honest not sneaky brave enough
to say goodbye..

Hi All,

My cancer man did not reply to my last text messages, which i send few days ago.

I am clear now, he doesnt want to be with me, but one thing if all the cancer man are like this, "they are the real cancer diseases" no more cancer in my life.

When you apology, they cant even say ok or goodbye what sort of personality these people have, I don`t want to know them anymore.

I recommend if you experience the same just move on,not worth it at all..