I will try and keep this short. I met a wonderful cancer man end of October. We instantly had a connection and have been dating and in touch since. In this period I have been witness to the push pull of the typical cancer male. Now he is mature in his 40's and has been through some pretty traumatic stuff with his ex and has been raising his children pretty much on his own so he has given his life to his kids since for the past 8 years. He fell pretty quickly and I was a bit cautious at first because I had just gotten out of an 11 year verbally abusive marriage and was really not expecting to fall for someone so quicly. After about a month he started to pull back a bit but has been in touch several times a week and seeing each other once a week in that first month. I am a Libra and have a large circle of girlfriends who mean the world to me, they have been there for me through my toughest times and I dont put them aside for any man. My sweet cancer man asked to get together one weekend and I said I am spending time with one of my friends that I had not seen in months and after that he blew me off for another day with no phone call. I called him on it said I dont deserve it and I want to be treated with respect and he admitted it was wrong and being the forgiver that I am I forgave him and we moved past it but he was still distant did not see each other for 3 weeks but all the while was texting me telling me he is thinnking of me and misses me etc. Finally I texted him and said are you always this mysterious and complex, he thought i was being funny and said he was as uncompliucated as they come. I said sometimes you seem far away in your own world and other times you are right here and present. the next morning he texted me and asked me to lunch. It was awkward at first but then I finally took his hand and said I am not going to hurt you, I just want to know you and I shared with him that I can be vulnerable and that although I am a rock I can crumble at times etc. then it was like he was transformed and was totally relaxed and could not stop touching me. Now we have seen each other again and things were terrific but I have to say that I am just so perplexed at how he gets close then seems to run and hide for a few days and then comes back around and all is well. I am not used to this as I am totally different than this. any of you ladies have any words of wisdom or advice, I have become the most patient woman in the world lately...
