Hard to figure out?

So seems like I could throw a stone and hit a cancer lately.....don't know whats up with that but all I can ask is whyme!

So my cancer crush is in his 40's and I can't figure him out to save my life.....he's hot and cold....have known him for the last 3-4 years....anyway we have been in contact by email....every now and again.....seems to be when he is in the mood....anyway wished him merry christmas and I got the same, sent him out a funny card with some cute personal stuff in it and heard nothing.....so figured oh well....its the thought that counts....anyway on new years I get this email.....

"Oh I guess you are going out on the town, I'm not really doing anything, just gonna stay home and clean, was going to go to a house party, then decided not to, could have had a skidoo party but didn't plan anything.....oh well happy new years"

so a male friend says well if thats not a huge hint nothing is so he encourages me to ask him out in a non threatening way.....so I reply " well we could watch a movie together or go out for pizza and beer, let me know"

so I get back.........well pizza and beer I will give you a rain cheque....just gonna stay in not really feeling well....but I will call you later and we can chit chat....

so I give him my phone number, he does call and we talk to just shy of two hours.....seems like a good conversation he tells me about some stuff and then I wish him happy new years cause I had a long distance call.....and haven't heard hid nor hair from him since.......that is until this past friday......I got a email thanking me for the christmas card and two little hug icons hugging......

Ok......don't know what to make of any of this.....cause he is so hot and cold......

Anyone have any thoughts or am I just wasting my time?

Actually when we talked on the phone he told me that the girl he lived with cheated on him......they were together about 6 years....he went out of town to work for two weeks and when he came back she had found someone new......that was about 5 years ago.....his most recent girlfriend who is a x so he says is a whack job according to him and has kicked in every screen in his house they broke up cause she found someone else and now is haunting him......he told me all this on our phone call

well I don't want to make him cry......well not yet anyway lol

....do you think there is any chance.....its just I am getting tired of the cat and mouse game and its almost as if he is keeping me dangling until he decides....

my reply to his email thanking me for the christmas card was "your welcome, have a great weekend" but a friend of mine a man basically told me that is telling him to _uck off

.....well I just have these unresolved feelings for him thinking he could be the one...physical attraction/chemistry..but the more I get to know him I am questioning what I was thinking.....it just seems like he is playing all kinds of games and like I said dangling the carrot and so far he has made me dance and now I am tired of his bullshit and figuring out that there must be a reason why he has never had a successful relationship

gee I think I just answered my own dilema lol

well trust me it has been sometime.....but I am just tired of it and know I am worth so much more.....thankfully I have good friends....and I thank you for your input...its easier to get the straight goods from strangers sometimes....you have more perspective as you have no emotions involved.....

It is sad I don't think he will ever find anyone of worth and it will just continue to make him more and more jaded....but I can't make him happy I can only make me happy.....

thank you furryleo...gonna go out tonight with my best friend who happens to be a leo....and she is smart like you and had told me this time and time again....but I had to learn it and deal with it in my own time.....

thanks for lending a ear 🙂 it is much appreciated!!!