He comes back....for what?

A few weeks ago I made a decision to leave my boyfriend (cancer) because of issues that we had. He was lying basically about everything, I was crying just about every night, he never took what I felt into consideration. So I decided to change my telephone number and not talk to him; So he ended up calling one of my close friends pleading and asking her to have me call him. So I call and he says he's miserable without me, he can't think, he realize that he messed and he's willing to do any and everything to make things better, and that after all of this time he realize that he loves me. So I took him back, his words sound sincere now I was waiting for the actions to follow through.

Fast forward, it's now a week later; It's as if last week's conversation never occured. Now that he has a cell phone I though things would be better, WRONG. I haven't seen him since last week, he doesn't call me, when I call he doesn't answer. Now let me point out I was doing fine without him, yea I was feeling hurt but my mind was clear and I didn't have to worry about the things that are going on right now. I try talking to him when I do actually get a hold of him he laughs at me thinking that it's a joke. I asked him what was the point of coming back into my life if you're not willing to show and prove anything to me, no comment. I told him the year is almost over and I don't want to have to go through the same things again, so I asked him to give me one reason why I should stay with him, he tells me " I don't know". WOW, this really hurts me because I gave him a chance thinking that he was serious and we are going down the same road, and I am still the one hurting and wondering what's going to happen next. I am like the convenient girlfriend, all the other times I am nothing. I feel like crying as I type this. Help me, what shall I do?

Well from experience and being a cancer... I think that we seriously do not like rejection. So maybe he's just playing games to make himself feel better. Like just for the satisfaction that you would actually come back to him. I think you basicly boosted his ego.

Yes I agree. I could have made things hard for him but I didn't I thought he was serious. But I honestly cannot take the pain and heartache anymore. I want to start the new year fresh.

How long were you together? And do you love him?

We were together for a year, and yes I love him. However its not fair for him to keep doing this to me and expect me to be there for him and he can't do the same for me.

Your right it's not fair... Life isn't fair!! And love is hard so all we can do is take the lickin and keep on tickin... It doesn't sound like he's serious about your relationship. He just wants to know he has you waitin around for him. I know it's hard and you want to beleive in him but, you can't change a person, that's what I've learned. Read my story it's right under this one. I feel stupid for going through some of the things I went through but, overall it's making me stronger and I know exactly what to look for in the next person. Always follow your gut feeling (it's your intuition) it's never wrong, even when you want it to be wrong.

And I believe that certain types of cancers are selfish when it comes to feelings...

Yes. I would rather be sad alone than be sad with him at least I know that the sadness won't last. I want next year to be a great year for me, I deserve to be happy. I know I am a good person no matter what and I have done all I could to show him that but he would rather have someone that's convenient to him, what about me? Why be with someone who doesn't honor and respect me, it's not worth it. I love him, but they say if you love someone let them go, and that's what has to be done. I have feelings too and he doesn't care. I would rather be with someone who deserves to be with a good woman like me and vice versa. I am tired of crying it's been this way since day one. It's not worth it.

No sweetie it's not worth it at all. I understand your pain. I really do... It's hard to let go!! Really hard!! You don't deserve to be sitting there in tears and he's out there not even thinking twice about you... I'm sorry I don't know what else to say but, let it go!!! Time heals all wounds...

Thanks to all of you for helping me with your advice. I made the decision to leave, and since he doesn't want to talk to me on the phone I had no choice but to text him and tell him I'm done, it's over. I changed my number so many times this year and now I cannot change it now, I just started bartending so a lot of bar managers have my number, so I can't just get up and change it now. I just hope that this time around he leaves me alone.

read my add my friend I have cried for many years and I have change my number may times he finds my family and friends and beg them for my number save your self dont go back for any more emotional abuse. I loved him so much and kept going back 5 years later no change. A leopard will never change his spots. I know its seems hard but you will be ok.