help aries girl confused with cancer guy

Aries woman 4/13 and cancer guy 7/16
We are friends and we share A LOT in common. It is almost uncanny. My friends say when we hang out in a big group, for 20 minutes we'll be in a conversation (news to me). We're both in relationships and we both know that. I always catch him looking at me through my periphery but he's very aloof and odd at times. In the beginning of the school term when we were out one night he tried to kiss me, and I of course rebutted it because I love my Leo partner. There is still however a strange attraction and energy and huge commonalities across the board. Nevertheless, he seems to often disappear. When he tried that move on me he was really really weird afterwards. Since then he's become a normal friend again and even started hanging out with my friends and me again. We're invited to dinner tomorrow. He's changed a lot since the beginning of the term where he avoid me altogether. I would like any explanation as to his weird cancer behavior. Even though we may have chemistry, I really respect him as a person and would like to keep him as a friend.

What to do?

Posted by aries7782
Aries woman 4/13 and cancer guy 7/16
We are friends and we share A LOT in common. It is almost uncanny. My friends say when we hang out in a big group, for 20 minutes we'll be in a conversation (news to me). We're both in relationships and we both know that. I always catch him looking at me through my periphery but he's very aloof and odd at times. In the beginning of the school term when we were out one night he tried to kiss me, and I of course rebutted it because I love my Leo partner. There is still however a strange attraction and energy and huge commonalities across the board. Nevertheless, he seems to often disappear. When he tried that move on me he was really really weird afterwards. Since then he's become a normal friend again and even started hanging out with my friends and me again. We're invited to dinner tomorrow. He's changed a lot since the beginning of the term where he avoid me altogether. I would like any explanation as to his weird cancer behavior. Even though we may have chemistry, I really respect him as a person and would like to keep him as a friend.

What to do?

I would just say that Aries/Cancer are not a great match. I dated one for a long while, but he really wasn't exciting enough for me. Very "home" oriented and wayyyy too sensitive. Easily hurt by my sarcasm. Having to curb that was equal to me changing my nature for him...I had to cut it off. Stick with your Leo and certainly NEVER fess to him that you even almost kissed another!!

What sort of behaviour would you display to a guy you tried to kiss and who turned you down?

Posted by incandescentcancer
What sort of behaviour would you display to a guy you tried to kiss and who turned you down?

I understand that... I also didn't occasion the situation and was not interested in anything... Even though we shared five classes that night was the first time I had spoken to him and he approached me... He was interesting, we had a lot in common and our classmates were bar-hopping and celebrating the end of exams... He has a gf and had a gf at the time so it came as a complete surprise to me... And he only kissed me on the cheek...

I understand the reasoning behind his acting weird and what not...both from the perspective of him having a GF and being turned down...but does that mean that the incident muddied the waters so to speak? His moodiness really affected/affects me....it makes me sad when i make a connection with someone and then they disappear...

Will we still be able to be friends? or Should I stay away?

Posted by incandescentcancer
What sort of behaviour would you display to a guy you tried to kiss and who turned you down?

Plus I only turned him down became I am in a relationship... If I wasn't, I wouldn't have turned him down

Posted by aries7782
I understand that... I also didn't occasion the situation and was not interested in anything... Even though we shared five classes that night was the first time I had spoken to him and he approached me... He was interesting, we had a lot in common and our classmates were bar-hopping and celebrating the end of exams... He has a gf and had a gf at the time so it came as a complete surprise to me... And he only kissed me on the cheek...

I understand the reasoning behind his acting weird and what not...both from the perspective of him having a GF and being turned down...but does that mean that the incident muddied the waters so to speak? His moodiness really affected/affects me....it makes me sad when i make a connection with someone and then they disappear...

Will we still be able to be friends? or Should I stay away?

Nah....I am not saying you're at fault. He had a GF and reached for you, that's douchy. Then you turned him down and rightly so and his pride is injured. Obviously there is going to be awkwardness and it isn't your job to fix it. He has to get over his embarrassment, own up to his mistake and come back to you to be friends. If he can't then well he can't. You move on...

Posted by xxnightbynight

Posted by incandescentcancer
What sort of behaviour would you display to a guy you tried to kiss and who turned you down?

exactly.

use your head, aries.

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Well hello there.....how're we doin'? 🙂

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by aries7782
I understand that... I also didn't occasion the situation and was not interested in anything... Even though we shared five classes that night was the first time I had spoken to him and he approached me... He was interesting, we had a lot in common and our classmates were bar-hopping and celebrating the end of exams... He has a gf and had a gf at the time so it came as a complete surprise to me... And he only kissed me on the cheek...

I understand the reasoning behind his acting weird and what not...both from the perspective of him having a GF and being turned down...but does that mean that the incident muddied the waters so to speak? His moodiness really affected/affects me....it makes me sad when i make a connection with someone and then they disappear...

Will we still be able to be friends? or Should I stay away?

Nah....I am not saying you're at fault. He had a GF and reached for you, that's douchy. Then you turned him down and rightly so and his pride is injured. Obviously there is going to be awkwardness and it isn't your job to fix it. He has to get over his embarrassment, own up to his mistake and come back to you to be friends. If he can't then well he can't. You move on...

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thank you.

@ xxnightbynight

Not too bad at all, major changes in life. How is the Aries-Cancer world? 😄

Posted by xxnightbynight

Aries/Cancer world?

May it rest in peace. He surved a major purpose in my life. I believe in reincarnation - and I believe that we filled our karmic duties in this life time. - What had to be done, was done. - I feel good about this. - If he comes back into my life sometime in the future... I'm not sure what I'll say, or do... but for now... I am thankful for the experience. lets just say if it weren't for our meeting... I doubt I'd be where I'm at today. (:

Painful, but beautiful. - That's the world of Aries/Cancer. 😄

That is brilliant and awesome at once!! What you said was very admirable. Not a lot of people look at life like that, I have been known to miss the point quite often too. I have improved a bit in the last few years and it's great to see someone who has this beautiful fact about life all figured out.

I have been seeing a lot of examples of the Aries/Cancer world on this website and I find it very interesting. I don't have any personal experience but I see this as a very doable combination. Aries women I think can energize and make cancer men more courageous to take a leap into life. I think Cancer guys can help Aries women see the scenery around them a bit better. This is just my perception but it does seem very beautiful. I think the pain part happens either because Cancer men generally tend to mature late emotionally or they get scared of very powerful life connections.