help me out!desperate getting my cancer man back

I had been with my cancer man for 2 years,we met and lived abroad. This summer we came back home country,his family didn't like me, and we were from different cities, we only had met 3-4 times over the 3 months. He did not have time for me,and always with his family. I felt like ignored, and he didn't contact me so often.I sometimes complained, he tried harder once i did.. BUT I still felt not enough. THere was once I sent him horrible words to get his attention: like you dont love me,our heart have never been closed, you do not have time for me, bla bla bla... BUT he said sorry and wanted me to give him a chance. But after a while, he suggested us to be friends, as he could not make me happy and our life does not have common (he still loves me,he said),as he will leave the country for 2 years to work, but i am staying in his city at the moment for 2 years then I will head back to mine. now, he is abroad, and i am in his city, i want to get him back. It seems highly unlikely we can get back together, but i just want to give it a try, as he is my first boyfriend, and i want to spend my rest of life with him.

After we broke up, i tried to get him back when I saw him, but he said its very difficult to get back together, and the feeling is different, also he said I did not understand him, he would be more pressurised if we got back together.

I just want to support him, support him to be a successful man, and I want to be with him, he had been so good to me when we were abroad!!

Anyone suggests how i can get him back or is that any chance? By now we have broken up for 2 months! Last month, I sent him his favourite food, texted him to take care of himself, and also made him a video about supporting him. he was happy that someone still concerned about him, but now we kind of not contacting each other.....

help me, cancer expert!!!

Ahhhh, to be honest i really think you should just be friends at the moment as your first thought, i think you guys have a chance to be back together but being so far from one other and traveling like that may be difficult, ,people are lazy and complain it's too much work. Other thing, you can see the guy trying his best to to please you and i think you should give him credit for that, i think you pressuring him too much while he's overseas' dealing with other issues, hey you have to understand that. You putting to much more problems on his mind while he's over there.

THank you for the reply! I only realised i gave him so much pressure after he suggested to break up!!! i felt so terrible of nOT being a good and understanding,considering girlfriend. i tried to talk to him, and he insisted to break up, as he would not be in the courtry for 2 years i guess, also, he family doesn't like me, we from different cities.... i think he is just looking for excuses..

But I really want to be with him, I text him sometimes to say things like: take good care, weather is getting cold. There was once i said: do you feel im bothering you or make u feel not comfy by saying these to you. HE said: I am happy as someone still care about me, just do what you like! later on, I made him a very sweet video, he said: its lovely, how u made it, u should focus on ur study. I am just so confused, sometimes i thought i had a chance, but sometimes i thought he only treated me as friends. NoW he is not responding, i guess he does not want me think i still have a chance... but i never mention i love you or the love things at all, i only show my caring as a very good friends.

Maybe u think i am stupid, but I want to keep his heart warm, make him happy, and wait till he is coming to the country.... am i stupid..?? maybe.... i even want to fly to see him in xmas......just as friends....

Thx for the reply, I understand how terrible i was. It is because when were abroad, we were living together, and shared every minute. But when he told his mum he was bringing me back, his mum was so angry, as he is dating someone. I know he loves his mum, and this made me feel he would dump me due to his mum, and the first 2 weeks he was back to the country, he rarely contacted me,that just made me feel so so so insecured!! I was scared of losing him...

he kept telling me he was busy all the time, and i thought if that was the excuse he wanted to prepare to dump me.. i just felt so insecured at all...

i know i was so bad!! !!! When he suggested the breaking up, i Said: OK! because he insisted to break up.. later on, I tried to get him back , but failed!!! he said he just wanted to make me happy, but he could not do it when he was in the country, he could not take a balance between me and his family, as he was with his family all the time.. he kept saying: you are a very good girl, i feel so sorry i can't make u happy. WHen he said that, I felt so sorry i had been a terrible girlfriend. I want to make happy again, and be supportive!!!!

I really do want to have another chance, but he said: i dont want to hurt you againn!!! I really love him and want to spend rest of my life with him.. NOw i just text him to take care, or draw him some pictures sometimes, i hope to put a smile on his face, and compensate for what i have hurt him....

Jessicalung !

Your like my case, I have the same situation with my bf, and hes abroad now but he didn't end our relationship YET , though their is no contact between us. every time he says he busy and soever but im still not sure of he is really busy or he doesnt care for me !!

Dear don't push to hard on yourself. what has been broken can't be repaired unless he is willing to do so . try to move on with your life..

Jessicalung !

Your like my case, I have the same situation with my bf, and hes abroad now but he didn't end our relationship YET , though their is no contact between us. every time he says he busy and soever but im still not sure of he is really busy or he doesnt care for me !!

Dear don't push to hard on yourself. what has been broken can't be repaired unless he is willing to do so . try to move on with your life..

I am a cancer, and when i read what DaBull_isDaShit said, they said everything i wanted to. HONESTLY, If some guy tells me "You dont love me,you dont care you dont pay attention".. It makes me wanna run. I HATE games! and if someon cant see i really love them and i am trying with all the pressure in my life, even more so with family. I will think "Whats the damn point"? and than, i will be done. HONESTLY!... Good Luck sweety!