Help with an awkward subject with my Cancer guy?

Hi all 🙂

I have a bit of a dilemma-of my own making. I am a Cancer female that is casually seeing a Cancer male for a little more than a month. I was married, in the past, to another Cancer male...but these 2 are very different! The new guy and I immediately hit it off and have talked, emailed, texted every day frequently plus we have seen each other ~ twice a week. In the beginning I was a bit nervous about any type of discussion about exclusivity or commitment-and he would comment about it but not push the issue. Now that we are sleeping together I feel weird thinking that he may be sleeping with other women....and I want to broach the issue....but I am embarrassed to say-I have been out of the dating game so long...I don't even know where to start! 😢 Is it too soon to even think about something along these lines? Will it scare my Cancer guy away?

He is the one who initiates the majority of the contact with me. We don't really ever talk about feelings other than things like 'I can't wait to see you' & 'xoxo' sort of stuff. Can anyone give me some advice as to how to approach this awkward topic with my guy-and not freak him out?

I say be up front about it, communication is the key to this . He is a cancer after all, and I am sure he will understand if you just get over the embarrassment of being out of the game for so long . I personally kind of like that sort of thing. I don't date too frequently myself so when I do come off the bench , I let people know right away that I haven't been doing a lot casual dating. After the fear subsides, I am just myself and things go well. I am sure he is bound to be just as apprehensive about these things as you are. If he really likes you then it shouldn't be a problem , you shouldn't be afraid to voice this concern of yours to him. Either way it's important to find out where you stand in a relationship, shades of grey often lead to issues when both sides are misinterpreting their cues to each other.
Hope you find this useful and good luck 🙂

Thank you for your answer Pnokio. I appreciate your insight.

I guess I am nervous that I am the one that set the tone about it being casual...and now I am changing things because I am uncomfortable with the idea of him sleeping with other women. I realize that this isn't an issue for a lot of people-but it really bothers me. A huge part of me is a bit nervous that he will say he still wants to sleep with other people-and then I will have to make a choice. I have to be prepared to walk away if that's the case. 😢