i hate this!

well this is what i have to say.. i feel like the worst thing is being dumped, especially when you are SO in love with the person.
He said we fight too much, and has no time for me.. so i cant help but sit and think non-stop everyday about what i could've done differently.
is this what all of my fellow cancarians do? because i absolutly hate feeling so alone, and like no-one likes me. well thats it!

yeah, it sucks. when your emotions run as deep as ours, we have a tendency to forget that others emotions donot. We have a tendency to grab on tightly to someone who fits our general descriptions of what we want. Especially when you are young, alot of people dont know. Find out where you what to go and look for people with the same goals and dreams. Instead of trying to make them do what you want find someone who you dont have to manipulate and wants to do those things with or for you. It will make for a happier existance, or so I hear.

Tiffany-
I think you have been feeling the same as me, however I am discovering that I am better then the one who dumped me too. I am also a cancer and we have to understand that we are sensitive people always looking out for those around us. Always the one to say, "sure, I'll get that for you" or " I will do what ever makes you happy". Well, it's time Tiffany, that it is time we become more selfish and do what we want and stop trying to make others happy and focus on ourself! You see, I not only got dumped but my ex-fiance, yes, fiance, told me that he was not ready to get married two months ago. After a 4 year relationship, he was able to turn off his feelings after all we've been through? I am only 23 (on sunday) and I almost got married on July 22, 2000. He went away on a business training and came back a different man. He was the youngest person in training and was listening to all the divorced people tell him that he was too young and what was he thinking getting married so young. All I keep wondering about was, Why didn't he just say age was not a factor and that he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of our life together. Apparently he did not and I was the last to know. He told his mother everything 3 weeks before I even knew what was going on. So let me tell you, my heart was broken and still is. I am a forgiver and always will be but as far as forgetting, that 's a different story. Please understand, just like I am, that you are a better person and he just lost out on a wonderful individual! Give yourself credit, us cancers never do that. It's time for change, don;t you agree?

Knowing and believing are two different things. We definatly can be our own worst enemies. I punish my self daily with fears of not meeting expectations of others, or analizing a situation and pondering till the gut instinct is gone and the moment has passed. I know I am good enough. But what good is it if we dont believe others will look at us and see the same. I hate self assurred (cocky) people, but if i had the confidence of some of the people I see, I'd be unstoppable. For me its gone for now. And damn hard to get back. Dont lose yours. Im working on mine.

Tiffany,
I, too am going through something similar in that I have recently ended a three year relationship with a guy who had little if any respect for me. It took me a long time to see my life in the greater scheme of things. You should try to keep in mind that who you are isn't dependent of what anyone else thinks or feels about you. I'll be the first to admit that it is at times difficult for a person, especially females to see themselves as independent and separate from someone with whom they have or have had a relationship with. Holding onto something that is no longer desired by the other person, will only serve in prolonging your happiness. Letting go of what was, does not mean that you have to deny that that part of your life existed. It just means that for that moment in time you knew what love was and if you give it another chance, you will undoubtedly come to know it again.......

Tiffany,
I, too am going through something similar in that I have recently ended a three year relationship with a guy who had little if any respect for me. It took me a long time to see my life in the greater scheme of things. You should try to keep in mind that who you are isn't dependent of what anyone else thinks or feels about you. I'll be the first to admit that it is at times difficult for a person, especially females to see themselves as independent and separate from someone with whom they have or have had a relationship with. Holding onto something that is no longer desired by the other person, will only serve in prolonging your happiness. Letting go of what was, does not mean that you have to deny that that part of your life existed. It just means that for that moment in time you knew what love was and if you give it another chance, you will undoubtedly come to know it again.......

wow,it sounds like me!! have just been through hell being dumped,and it never gets any easier.there was nothing you could have done.just remember the feeling you get when you meet someone new.that will happen again.and maybe,just maybe it will be the right one!

firstly- its not ur fault. this person obviously didnt care enough for u to make things work between u. if he doesnt have time 4 u, u dont have time 4 him. dont blame urself, u did nothing wrong. its his fault things didnt work- he obviously didnt try hard enough. smile and keep ur head held high. caitlin (caz)