Is it the end or should I just remain calm/wait?

Cancer BF and I got into a small fight last night. He'd made a comment that we'd been to a restaurant together before where we had dinner. We had not. My reaction was like any female's, that he'd mixed me up with someone else that he'd been out with before. So I shut down and was clearly not happy the rest of dinner. It felt offensive to me was my gut reaction.
He got angry with me - first time he's been ugly with me when speaking and when we were outside said he was done with this always happening. This does not always happen. This is the first time in 7 months that I'd let my emotions get the better of me. Sometimes I've had to work thru a gut reaction but I always have. Unfortunately, this time I showed my imperfect humanity too much. But the way he was talking was like he was reliving something with his last GF.
I told him I didn't know what he meant, that this doesn't happen all the time. He was upset b/c he couldn't remember correctly and said it shouldn't matter who he'd been with there before that his memory was mixed up. He said he was not sleeping around and I said I didn't think he was b/c that wasn't even what I had thought anyway.
When we left (we were in separate cars), he said he'd talk to me today. So far no word and I don't expect any anytime soon. But I am scared b/c we are supposed to go on vacation with friends next week then my birthday is when we come back. The trip was my b'day gift and now I'm afraid he is done with me.
I feel like the rug has been pulled out from under me. When he has been in his "moods" and given me the cold shoulder for no good reason, I remained calm and waited for the storm to pass. I wouldn't just quit him like that.
For him to quit me for something so trivial and isolated is so bizarre. I don't even know what to think. I thought we were stronger than this.
I can't live my life afraid he's going to walk out on me over something stupid. I know he avoids conflict at all costs but you can't have 2 individuals and not have any sort of conflict in life.

So now I wait. Or should I? From what I've read it seems like when cancer men are done, they are done and that's the end of that. I am like that, too, but not after a long line of patience.
For him to be done over something like this, that tells me he has issues and will never find the perfect woman if that is what he's looking for.

Should I hold out any hope at all? I want to. For his b'day I gave him a card that said that I loved him - b/c I do.

Yes, I am a Leo. Why?

And we have gotten along great so I don't know what has bothered him b/c I have not let my emotions get the better of me before with him. We have had misunderstandings but they were very small (usually with misunderstanding text msgs) but we clarified immediately and went on about our business.

It upset me greatly when he got mad at me (and he was pretty obvious about it) and gave me the ICE cold shoulder on a couple of occasions but I remained calm and let it blow over. I didn't even get upset or cause a scene once when he started to call me by his ex-gf's name then self-corrected. And he did this in front of friends, one of whom knew her and I don't know if he caught it or not, too.

I still have not heard from him and I only intend to wait until tomorrow to possibly text him. He has a big work event this weekend he is getting ready for and I'm too afraid to reach out and cause him more stress.

He once told me that when he is done with someone he just disappears and never responds. This is what I'm afraid of. I really don't know for sure, but I am afraid he dumped me.

As far as the trip is concerned, he'd still go b/c we planned it with another couple. He was going to take care of our portion of the accommodations and I would take care of the meals. But he did say it was an early b'day present. So does that change your thoughts that he's still into the relationship?

I absolutely do not want to stress him out or bother him. I'm afraid this would push him away more. After much thought about why this triggered my reaction, I have been stressing over the future - not just whether or not he will be in it, but that next year is a milestone b'day for me and as women do, I worry that I won't be attractive enough anymore, that things will start to change and will I still be able to have a family or will I ever have a family among other things re:career, etc. These things that men don't think about or worry about like women do.

I've decided if I don't hear from him by tomorrow, I will text and tell him good luck with the event that I'm v. sorry for my inappropriate behavior the other night and would like to clear the air after the event and what time can I come by. Does that sound too pushy? I just want to make sure that we set the time to talk.

Just for the record I am not like most Leos. He is more of a spendthrift than I am is one example.

"It upset me greatly when he got mad at me (and he was pretty obvious about it) and gave me the ICE cold shoulder on a couple of occasions but I remained calm and let it blow over. I didn't even get upset or cause a scene once when he started to call me by his ex-gf's name then self-corrected. And he did this in front of friends, one of whom knew her and I don't know if he caught it or not, too."

I'm sorry, but your Cancer seems to be pulling the whole "I put my foot in my mouth" but rather than be a man and acknowledge/apologize for it he's putting that back on you? . I'm sorry that's totally unacceptable behaviour. I understand you want to stay with him, but that crap needs to be addressed (when ever you get around to talking). I'm reading the advice about sitting and talking to him "and really be ready to listen and to understand him". That's all fine and all, but this isn't all about him, which clearly he thinks it is. From what I am reading, you are clearly hurt by his "mistakes". I think your concerns/feelings are valid and need to be shared (vs. "shutting down"). How would he handle you "accidentally" calling him another man's name? I'm sorry there is a deeper issue here.

Also, it SEEMS like there may be more to how you act when you are upset by something than you are saying. Either that or your Cancer is a maniac. You wrote:"My reaction was like any female's...So I shut down and was clearly not happy the rest of dinner". What does that look like? We're you pouting, being passive-aggressive? He was upset by something, not just silence or you "shutting down". Is there some truth to his comment about your reaction? If so, that needs to be addressed too. How long have you been dating?

Posted by aurora
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