My Cancer man disappeared out of nowhere. HELP?!?!

He's a Cancer, Libra moon, Virgo asc & venus/mars in taurus
I have Sun/Venus in Libra, Cancer ascendant & mars in Sag
He is twice divorced w/ 3 daughters between the 2 ex wives (ages 15, 10 & 3). I'm single, never married with no kids. We met doing martial arts- he was my instructor. We fell in love while he was still married & became best friends. The divorce started & we took our relationship to the next level. We were MADLY, INSANELY in love. Never in my life have felt anything like this. it is the most intense connection i have ever had. nothing has even come close. we spent nearly every single day together for a year and a half. he was my best friend, lover, teacher, trainer. and yet he was still very secretive about MANY things in his life. He can lie like no one's business if it means he gets control of a situation, and he is extremely moody. the past 3 months he's been crazy stressed out. and he'll be HOSTILE to me one day then OBSESSED with me the next. but we haven't really been 'together' in these past few months. still seeing each other all the time, but a LOT of tension between us. and he wouldn't really tell me anything about what's going on. i knew there were money problems. and it seemed he wanted to be with me but something was holding him back (maybe the ex, or the children, something serious along those lines).
And then... he just left three weeks ago. Left his job at the gym we go to w/out telling anyone. Lied saying he was going to Brazil for two weeks, and never came back. He disconnected his phone. Took his facebook down, then put it back up. Since it was my only way of contacting him i sent a message telling him that i can't live without him!! He read it, then took the facebook down again. From what some mutual friends have told me he is moving to another house/apartment. I know from his mouth himself that once he makes up his mind it's a done deal. But he didn't say anything to me about ending it or leaving. He just took off. He never said goodbye and never gave me a speech about not wanting to see or hear from me. The last day we were together kicking heavy bags and hanging out like normal, his oldest daughter was there and we were all hanging out having a good time. Then before he left he made a very ... sneaky looking expression at me. the kind he used to make when he'd lie to get control over me. then he just vanished. it's going into the 4th week now. before this we had never gone longer than a week w/out seeing/talking.

it does! i've never been heartbroken in this way, and i've been heartbroken a LOT in my life! but we were so connected. and now it's like he just disappeared and cut the cord out of nowhere. i know he's going thru some major life changes and then i also worry about him, because i think he's having a nervous breakdown kind of. i saw him last week briefly, he came into our old gym to get his last paycheck, and he looked crazy. i didn't even say anything to him. he was shaking and just staring at the wall.

thanks pnutbutta. i don't think he's trying to reconcile with the wife (tho nothing would surprise me). i've facebook stalked the whole family (lol no shame) and it seems like they're more broken up than ever. but with him I truly never know. i guess you are right though. it's best to move on. there was only one time when he broke up with me, and it was a serious break up. we continued seeing each other every day at the gym to work out, and for three whole weeks he completely ignored me even when i was standing in front of him. finally i started to move on and then he made up this elaborate lie to get me back in his life. after we'd reconciled, i told him how heartbroken i was when he broke up with me, but that i finally started to move on. he DID NOT like that! he basically made it seem like if we ever broke up i should spend my life in misery heartbroken over him and never move on.

if he told me he was just getting his life together and sorting himself out emotionally, i would understand. because as i said, the past few months he's been really stressed to the point that i've worried for his health and well being. if he needed to do this in order to not end up in a mental ward then fine. it's not just me but his career, his kids, his money. this is a man who had a wife and children young. he's from brazil and he left them there while he moved to the united states to pursue a better life. to become a citizen he married an american woman he didnt even like and had a baby with her, then moved the brazilian family up here and had everyone living in one house. now he's finally divorced from both of them, but dealing with the mess he made, and he's got me thrown in there for measure. i don't believe he's going to end up with either of the exes. i'm just not sure if he'll want to be with me either. maybe he's done with relationships in general, lord knows i would be if i had that kind of baggage 😢

What's up with dudes proposing then bouncing? Sheesh!

He said he didn't like his wife but he had a baby with her? Why would you even believe what he says since he's such a liar? I know you're in love and it's hard to go against your heart but you are bringing all this pain on yourself. When you have warning signs like someone lies excessively don't look the other way. You describe somebody who sounds like he was an asshole before this even happened so it's not that shocking that he's done this. He'll probably come back one day and give you some lame reason for doing what he did but he will hurt you again guaranteed. You better learn to put yourself first he's only looking out for himself clearly.

Posted by CluelessCancer
This world is way too full of too many douchebags. Where are the GOOD guys at?

They're around and closer than you think.