My Experience With the Cancer Man Crab...

I came to this page to read what the consensus is regarding the Cancer Man. It appears some comments are —right up my alley??!

Well first off, I only recently started to search the www for articles on Cancer Men, as I have recently re-connected with one that goes back 30 years ago. Way back then, (when I was approaching 20), a girlfriend and I ventured out in the world on our first trip, and headed for LA. Our hometown...Toronto. (Also known as TO...T.DOT, Queen City). As young women, LA would be a mad party city for us young Torontonians! We were like....—Tinsel Town Baby!...Here We Come??!

My 1st week in this massive city, I met my first, & only Cancer Man. Actually as it went...he met me! At a massive club one evening while dancing hard out with friends and fam, I looked above to the second floor and spotted 3 young men. One in particular was staring down at me. From where I was dancing, he looked sooo damn fine! This evening our crowd was on the club-hopping move, so off we decided to head to the next venue. Just as I was out the door, he came out of nowhere! Graced with a smile, and a soft —hello?? rollin?? off his lips, I stopped! Introductions were made, a brief conversation & a phone number on a piece of paper was offered me....& then our —goodbyes.?? I appreciated him not asking for a number he could contact me, but rather, giving me the opportunity to make the call...should I decide to! This number did not end up in the trash, as others had!

Two days later, I called him with much anticipation...although I did not reveal it. We arranged to meet, along with my friends at a dinner/club at the Ramada Hotel. He arrived shortly after I did, and when I saw him, & he saw me.....our eyes lit up like Christmas Trees, and our smiles were bursting large!

We spent the evening talking and dancing, along with our friends. I felt a certain —shyness?? in this young man, (we were both almost 20 at the time) he was exciting to talk to, to look at, to dance with...to spend that time with. He was shy, charming, handsome, eloquent and well dressed. By the end of the night before we left off, we arranged to meet the next day, have lunch and allow me a bit of sightseeing. He was a man I was thrilled to be spending time with, & getting to know a little bit more each time we met. I felt sheer excitement as I was spending this time with him, and felt it was time well spent!

At this point, my good girlfriend & travelling partner...was getting —pissed?? at me cause in her eyes...I just met this guy, whereas her & I have a —history?? for heaven??s sake!

This Cancerian Man was —wowed?? somehow by me & also due to my visiting from Canada. (Although not my birthplace). He had not met anyone from Canada before, so I suppose his curiosity might have been aroused with some sort of interest!
Like I'm a real foreigner, which to me was weird since Canada being above, & borders the US from one end to the next.
We neighbours...DIFFERENT...but nonetheless NEIGHBOURS!

My second to last night in his city, I spent the day with friends, and the afternoon into the next morning with this —Charming Crab?? at his abode. Later that day, he drove me to the airport....& I hoped we would somehow be in each other??s future. To what capacity I wasn't sure at the time, but I would have been satisfied (since we lived a 5 hours flight away) that if nothing else, we would remain friends. I got on the plane...& I picked my heart up, as it was falling. My flight home was flooded with sweet memories of him! We kept in contact for six months via letters and phone calls. His penmanship was impressive! We eventually lost contact as our lives were headed in different directions. He joined the Marines, and I married my high-school sweetheart. (For those you might be wondering?: Was I having an affair while on holiday? ~ No, I broke up with my ex 6 months before this trip, a Taurean who was stifling me at the time).

As my married life moved forward, my husband & I had a daughter. By the mid nineties I divorced him....& have never looked back since! Back to Cancer.....A few years ago when FB was 2 years new, my friend I travelled with back then, asked if I ever tried to find him on FB. I hadn't....but decided to search his name weeks later. Didn't see any profile that resembled him, so I just left it at that. Recently in late July of this year, I tried again. Saw a profile that could be him, however the pic wasn't a close up. Therefore, I decided to send him a message in FB. Well!....I damn well never....it was him!!! He replied with amazement, excitement and fond memories of our time together. Offered up this cell #, email address, and asked I contact him, and plz send some pics. I thought nah...no pic??s comin?? your way yet, as I wanted more details about the fond memories this man had of me!

So instead, he got another email asking what his fond memories were! His response...hit the nail on the head, right down to the name of the club! Now is where our on-line friendship/relationship & my calls to him were starting to begin! He never asked for my digits. Hummmmm!

As the heat got —turned up?? this man was telling me that when I left LA...he missed me! He had never been married or had any children, but had been in a hand full (1 hand) of relationships that detioriated with time. The emails he sent were —mind freakin?? blown??!!! In addition, I was replying with some —poetry in motion??! He was saying things like.. —he's truly in heavens realms when he thinks and talks to me?? and that —I should put my track shoes on if I plan on eluding him as I'm on my heels baby..I miss you and are longing to hear my voice and to really to embrace me and hold me close enough to smell the rose scent I am sure naturally permeates your person??. Further... —how he has never been more adamant about something in this life than he is about pursuing me??.
As this form of communication continued between us...the cream got thicker! If you know what I mean! This Cancer Man...guided by the moon, has —lyrics??...yep the kind us women just love to hear, & be —wowed?? by!

After the first month??s passing....he met with a plate full! An accident, which cut off his fingertip with his hairdressing scissors, a dear Aunt passed away, and then family civil suit issues! I offered up nothing but support to him during the difficulties he was faced with. It was round this time....this man??s communication with me....fell of the face of the earth! He wasn't responding to my emails, when I called his cell....it was disconnected! Now at this point I'm thinkin?? & sayin?? —WTF??!!! He's drifted! So basically send him an email asking that he just —fess up?? and let's move on in a mature manner! At this point, I'm bout ready to —pull the plug??!

It's been four years since I shared my heart with any man, and I don't have a lot of faith in relationships over the net...let alone not in person or long distance relationships! However, this Cancer Man actually provided me some sort of faith in this relationship. He even stated his last name would suit me! WTH!!!!!....and now he's gone —undercover?? in his shell!!! He replied to my message, saying he plans to claim my heart and love with this leap of faith, but needs to know if can have me fully in the flesh! I'm like ok—, since you??ve been dissin?? me lately, & now I'm attemptng to get to the truth & guts of the matter, and move forward....your letting me know I'm still up there on your list! Again....WTF!!!

The fact we first met 30 years ago, is probably why we corresponded so beautifully from our 1st contact on FB. The curiosity between us was that of a sort of —wonderment....enchantment??. I can't seem to get this man out of my damn mind! I'm clear now though...this man is an....enigma, he's mysterious! While I understand there is a hell of a lot we don't know about each other, throwing around feelings and words of LOVE should be done with truth, care and honesty!...after all, we are beyond those years of being —young??! Should he email me again....I??ll take a while to respond....this may cause him to think that —I'm outta here??! I am not into feeling like a twisting roller coaster on the run! Been there...done that...& ani??t doing it again!

However, I have come to understand these Cancer creatures can be —taciturn experts at circumlocution, silent and indirect in their expression. Never really revealing to much personally about themselves. They possess the ability to make you wonder about their personas, their inner beings! All signs point to —GO?? in a relationship between us two, as I am a Pisces! I'm a —straight up?? kind of woman, and not into head games & uncertainties when it comes to —matters of the heart??! But right about now, it's lookin?? like I need to lace up my track shoes....& get running! People who play with hearts....can & will eventually get burnt!
Sure do damn well miss him though!