My last chance (cancer guys) !!

Hey Cancerians, I need some help with my cancer guy.
I've posted several topics about my "cancer guy". I think this is my last chance to put an end to everything, I'm gonna confront him by sending him an email, so here is the question:

If I confront him, should I:

1.Tell him why he is acting like that, and why is being so distance "trying to play with him emotions".

OR;

2.Also send him a message and act like nothing is wrong and just saying Hi and I miss you ?? so he will be confused why I have also not contacted him in a month "act like him" ??

I'm sure he saw my new pics I uploaded on Facebook last night, do you think that he sees and ignores or really doesn't care?
Are all cancer guys like that? whats the solution?
I appreciate any comments.

I don't really know your story, but I'm a Cancer girl and I had an emotional entanglement (as I like to call it) with a Cancer guy. This guy was fuckin neurotic.

Cancers tend to be passive-aggressive. We are not assertive ...

Well its a long story; this is a brief version:
I know him more than 2 years we met on fb and kept talking on the messenger then he started to love me in few months and wanted to propose but i was afraid so i backed up (i haven't seen him yet) , then after several months i contacted him again he replied that he was around in the country and sent me his phone no., i called him then after 2 weeks I saw him ( the 1st time we meet) . anyway i only saw him 3 times then we got back together again and kept talking via the cell phone, suddenly he told me that hes leaving the country AGAIN, this time he wont come back, i was devastated, in that time he was in deep trouble so he needed to get out asap, he kept telling me that hes going through bad time. A day before leaving i kept crying so he sent me a message saying " that he loves me and he wants me so much and he told his mum about me"
Ok now its more than 3 months hes abroad, every time i send him an email or message he replies now and then still saying he loves me but hes busy !!
last time i had contact with him was a month an half ago , he sent me a message but i replied after 2 weeks, and its more than a month he never asked.
now i want to confront him and ask him why hes doing this , but the problem i havent seen him online since !! im thinking of sending him a message.
do I say everything i feel of and how he hurts me and kept promising me, or just check on him and act like nothing going on —?? which is better with cancer guys ? i really want him back like before ; caring, loving and passionate 😢

Oh boy. No, do not contact him. He is stringing you along and playing on your emotions. There doesn't seem to be much of a physical aspect in this relationship and the fantasy factor seems strong. Hurt is real and I understand that you are looking for closure and answers, but he seems very unavailable. You need to let it go for now.

Let me tell you a story of when I was a little girl ... actually this happened a few years ago, but whatever ... Cancer girl=Scorpio boy. Scorpio boy had a Cancer male friend. Cancer male became infatuated with Cancer girl. Friendship between bros ended. It was all very fast and through text messages and phone calls mostly. I never met the guy! Also, was just being the nice cupcake I am. He crossed enemy lines and boundaries.

I think sometimes Cancer men get caught up in the world of feelings and emotions and look for love and find themselves infatuated a lot.

Damn it with this cancer guy, as much as i love him as much as i hate him 😢(
then why does he keep saying he loves me ? and is it possible to make him come after me ?

"every time i send him an email or message he replies now and then still saying he loves me but hes busy !!"

Perhaps he has love for you, but sounds like he's moved on. Where the hell is he? Jail? For me personally, I always come back in some form. It's hard for me to cut ties with people because I remember what used to be and what that person meant to me. So I stay friends with ex's or keep in touch.

But I think you're trying to get him to come back to you romantically, which is a different story altogether. I love a challenge and anything worth fighting for is very attractive, too. Make him work for you. Distance yourself. Don't contact him. Just when you're falling for the next guy, that's when he will come back. Sorry.

I can't help but think of those guys who have 3 or 4 families in different countries and spend a few months with one before moving on to spend time with the next. Maybe your guy got into trouble with his wife and had to run back home.

Believe it our not, there are better guys out there. Ones who are willing to give you 100% of their time and attention, and not just run away and barely make contact with you.

I wouldn't try to contact him at all. If you tell him how you honestly feel, you are just setting yourself up for more pain. You give him the chance to say "Oh I'm sorry I haven't contacted you in ages. But I really do love you. Can't you tell? (sarcasm here) Oh and by the way, I won't be contacting you for another 2-3 months."

Is that really what you want? Save yourself further heart break and forget about this guy. I have to agree with the cancer.doll that he is stringing you along. Until he makes himself available, he isn't worth your time.