Ohhhhh my Cancer ex is so confusing

Well we broke up 4 months ago and yesterday I talked to him. He said he just wants us to be friends and started holdin my hand. Today he kept flirtin with me like he used to when we were together. He was touchin me exactly like before and he tried to impress me a few times. He's so hard to read and I don't undestand his behavior. Do you think he wants me back but is just insecure or it's really over ?

both? 🙂)

i think he misses you and is probably looking to get laid..if he hasn't said anything about getting back together then don't assume that is what he wants..

I think he does want me back, he looks at me like he used to and he's really playful. He let his friends and came to sit next to me today,and he kinda hugged me. But why did he say he just wants to be friends, if he feels something else?

But why did he say he just wants to be friends, if he feels something else?

Because he is clearly letting YOU know that he doesn't want to be anything more than friends. He honestly told you "just friends" now if you stick around then you are agreeing to let him have you only on his terms. If you want more than a friendship, don't stick around.

"i think he misses you and is probably looking to get laid..if he hasn't said anything about getting back together then don't assume that is what he wants..

I totally agree.....sounds like he's setting you up if you want to be a friend with benefits go for it, if not make him work for it. He wants all the fun without any responsibilities. Forget he's a cancer what you should remember and not forget is, he's a man and a horny one at that. Just my 2 cents.....

But why did he say he just wants to be friends, if he feels something else?

Because he is clearly letting YOU know that he doesn't want to be anything more than friends. He honestly told you "just friends" now if you stick around then you are agreeing to let him have you only on his terms. If you want more than a friendship, don't stick around.


LISTEN TO KROBE!!!

"Do you think he wants me back but is just insecure or it's really over ?"

I think it's a little bit of both. Not all men who end a relationship still communicate with their ex based off of sexual lust (even though I believe it never goes away just because the relationship does). Part of him might still touch you the same way he used to because his sexual desire for you might not have left like his feelings. On the other hand, he might still love you & might do what it takes (rather it's sex or just plain communication) to keep a part of you in his life until he can completely move on. 2 people can be madly in love & break up with each other, still talk & still have sex, BUT also know that things will never be the same again. And these 2 people usually engage in this UNTIL they move on (emotionally) or find someone else who they can commit to.

He might want to remain JUST friends with you because the part of him that wanted the "title" with you might have left long before the break up happend. And trust me, this is a good thing because when a man SHOWS you (better than he can TELL YOU) who he is & what he wants, LISTEN. You might be giving in to temptation & still talking to him out of not emotionally letting him go yet & out of cognitive behavior (literally being used to him to the point that when he leaps out of your life, you're off balanced) & he might be doing the same thing too. BUT, I've learned over the years that still giving in to someone who doesn't have the same love for you anymore is only a path leading to MORE heartbreak. It may not seem like it now, but believe it or not you're only still communicating with him (instead of backing up & focusing on how YOU feel, instead of how HE feels), because you don't know how to be without him yet, thus this is about YOU, not necessarily Him. Follow your heart & let things fall into place the way they're supposed to; you can't force something that wasn't meant to be in the first place...

Good Luck

Cancers have a very tough time letting go of things. If you two had a very strong connection in the past, it's hard for the Cancer to forget and to let go. Even if it means keeping you as a friend, it sounds like your Cancer ex still wants you in his life one way or another.

Cancers can be incredibly indecisive at times -- especially with things relating to emotion. He wants you because you make him feel safe and that he can be himself around you and not be afraid. But at the same time, he's unsure about his feelings towards you and can't commit to anything more than friendship at this point.

We Cancers love to hold onto things, especially the past.

I don't have any real advice for you except that his intentions are probably not evil or malicious. He honestly is confused at this point about what he wants from you and what kind of relationship he wants to pursue with you. So for now, he's playing it safe by being the best friend he can be to you. Whether there can be more between you two, only time will tell. You have to wait for the crab to come out of his shell and that can happen tomorrow...or never...

"ohhhh my"

LOL! I was thinking the same!

"LOL! I was thinking the same!"

Haha, what can I say...us Cancers are just such difficult creatures to understand. In fact, if you really want a Cancer to love you, make him believe you truly understand how they feel.

Every Cancer's dream girl/guy is someone who truly fully understands and accepts them...and being as confusing to others as we Cancers are...that's a pretty difficult task indeed!!