So after all

This cancer guy whom I have written about on this forum a few times... vehemently says that star signs things are all bullocks, but then I'm surprised how many typical cancerian traits he's been exhibiting for the time I have known him.

1. He's a good cook. He enjoys cooking. He sends pics of dishes he made to me. I have done the same (even though cooking is not my forte, I do like experimenting with new recipes -and this is why I can never be a good cook, because I always want to try out new recipes, so never master or practice one recipe. Blame my gemini sun-), he liked it very much lol.

2. He loves talking about food. It has never failed - engaging him in a conversation by starting one on the subject of fine cuisines.

3. He pushes and pulls - those notorious disappearing acts. I've freaked out at first two, but now I just have this weird feeling that he'll eventually come back after he goes without speaking to me for some days.

4. He loves talking about money. At the beginning we got to know each other, he has said 'I'll take you to all the nice restaurants and buy you pretty clothes!' I was like '?!?!? wth?' - because with other guys I have dated so far (those other guys were mostly air or fire signs), we did not talk about money nor financial matter explicitly... (especially with my latest ex, who was an aquarius all the way.) We were rather disinterested in that matter (of course money is important, but that was never a major topic for our past conversations.) I replied 'Ah, that's very nice of you - but I can buy myself my own meal and dresses.' ...And he kind of got pissed (he didn't say he was, or showed he was, but I felt he went also like '?!?!? wth?', probably he was expecting me to say 'That's so sweet of you! Thank you!' I guess he wants and likes to spoil his woman. I think that's nice... however, to be very honest, I just don't feel very comfortable when a guy spoils me lol I strongly believe that things between a couple should be fair, mutual and each person needs to be independent. But then as time went on, I kind of learnt that sometimes I just have to let him do things his own way heheheh 😛

5. He mirrors - I act like a lady, then he treats me like one, acts as if himself were a gentleman or a knight in a shining armour. Okay, he's a gentleman in fact (not as if 🙂)

6. I think he wants/likes to show how he can be protective of me - when I sob and cry, he actually reacts better than when I act all cool and detached (and I thought being too emotional, or showing my vulnerabilities would scare him away, as it was the case with most of my other guys -with my aquarius ex, we could talk about almost all, any topics, but rarely talked about our own emotions. We were always on a move, busy checking out new things, rarely had time to sit and look deep down further at our feelings - and when we did come around to that topic, the conversation became quite awkward. My mercury is in gemini, my ex's was in aquarius, by the way.) It's not like my aquarius ex did not care about emotions/feelings at all. What I'm saying is that the approaches towards the topic are different. My ex and I used to analyze (I did more so actually), whilst this guy just listened to me and sympathized.

7. Never direct. I ask direct questions and never get direct answers... okay, I pestered him a few times, and he gave me direct answers but he sounded so stressful, even saying 'don't pressure me.' so after that I just decided to let him be... okay, that word 'patience', that virtuous thing comes along with dating cancers. Still a very hard concept for me being a gemini. I want things to be quick, done, said quick, too. I move fast, talk fast, think fast... and at times there is this moment - I talk about one thing and then right away move to another while the cancer guy is (very likely, just my gut says so) still mulling over the previous topic and about to give his own two cents... but, I'm already rambling about something new (and he gets frustrated -of course, he does not say it. Never direct. But it's still there. I perceive it- So I'm trying to slow down a bit here. I do admit it's head spinning speed with me. This moment does not only occur with this cancer guy, but my other friends, except those who with gemini or aquarius sun signs.)

8. Loves historical stuff. Family. Kids. His own house.

9. Loves anything related to water. Hot bath, pools, sea shores, even water sports lol

10. Loves breasts. It's almost like an obsession. (Here I'm glad I've got a quite nice pair of breasts lol)

There are many different things and at times I just have this negative(?) feeling that this might not work out well, but then even it's the case, I would learn something. In fact, I've learnt something already. I slow down, look into my own feelings and emotions, not only give my attention to outer world. Not all things are written all over the wall, but sometimes I need to see beyond what's in front of my eyes, go deeper, through the surface... between the lines. Being delicate and empathetic. Wouldn't say I have mastered them - not yet. But I'm on my way.

It's not like we are together lol I wish we were, but there is this distance between this guy and me. That is why I wrote up there at times I feel this will not work out well.
Well, even if we do not turn out well romantically, we may as well remain friends, who knows. People come and go, that's life, I find someone, enjoy their company, lose them, mourn, bounce back and yet find another... life goes on.

I don't think it was about boobs :/ Whoever cheats on his girl because of that is just... well, I don't know what to say lol but just, ridiculous in my book.

I'm sorry police had to be involved. I've read about what had happened to you on another thread. Sorry to hear that it had to end that way :/

I have my fair share of bad break ups... they happened more when I was younger. Scenes were created, shouting, yelling, crying, accusations... after having gone through many of them, now I just want some clean, civil break ups and try to exit with some grace... not always happen that way but I try. I may not be able to control what's happening outside me, but can rein my emotions.
All love starts so lovely, everything is so rosy, but not every break up is nice. Some are very ugly, indeed :/ However, as I just wrote above, I do try to have it ended with less heart breaks and less drama, so that both of us could move on with more ease and be able to find happiness again. After all, all I want is to be happy, living a happy life! 🙂

Thank you for your reply and I hope you have better luck the next time!

I am a gemini-cancer cusp and why am not a good cook?! lol I wish I were!! Because I like eating food... well, more like trying out new things lol I always order anything new(er) on menu, just too curious.

Yes, it was very uncanny to see this guy exhibiting those traits mentioned above lol

Posted by xxixxi
I am a gemini-cancer cusp and why am not a good cook?! lol I wish I were!! Because I like eating food... well, more like trying out new things lol I always order anything new(er) on menu, just too curious.

Yes, it was very uncanny to see this guy exhibiting those traits mentioned above lol

lol!

Posted by BlackIndian22
Well to me, cooking is verry easy. Alot easier than math lol. basically if you know how to read directions well, you can cook anything. Start by cooking small things like tv dinners, italian food like pizza & spaghetti. After awhile, you'll get the hang of it. You can learn alot about emotions & sincerity from this Cancer. You learn most from those who are different from you. This pairing can work if you & him want it to. Even there's no relationship, you two can be close friends. I read that gemini & cancer make great friends 🙂. Build a strong trust & friendship, then see if y'all can go further. Be affectionate & give your Cancer lots of attention ok

Small things like tv dinners... pizza, pastas... hmmmm those don't sound easy nor small to me! lol
Another problem with me & cooking is that I'm so very impatient... sometimes I just want to sit at a dinner table and the food is ready so I just can dig in lol can't wait for the food being ready and cooked in an oven or in a pot. I want it now! Like, right now!
Yeah... I wrote I talk fast, I think fast, I act fast... I also eat fast. Okay, I walk fast, too, so basically, I want things right now and just ready at hands. Probably I will probably die fast, too lol I guess it'd be good, a quick, painless death lol

Yes, even if there isn't a relationship between him and me, I think we can enjoy each others' company - he has said 'you're quite witty, smart and interesting.' and I think he is polite, emotion wise and caring... so, yeah... I make him laugh, that's what I do with people around me, especially with the ones I like lots 🙂

Thank you for your comment!

I like making him laugh! His smiles and laughs are so boyish lol that's cute 🙂

Hmmmmm the reason I was attracted to him at first place... was well, his looks! lol Am I shallow? Am I? lol
But what can I do - I have eyes and my eyes are happy when they catch something pleases them lol
Well, okay, he was just my type lol

No, seriously, the thing really made me see him again, in a new light, was that his very caring nature and his sensitivity. It seems like he just knows what's going on my mind, especially all different shades of emotions I'm going through, without me saying even one word out. A very good mind reader, I'd say. A bit scary, even lol Also, he's attentive, listens to me well, has a sharp memory. I don't know, at first, I got an impression that he wasn't really paying much attention to me, but later it turned out he indeed was. A good observer. And in the beginning I was like 'why doesn't he ask me questions? (like I him?)' because I learn about people by doing so, but then now I see that he rather sits back there and just observes. I act and talk whilst he watches and processes. At times I think it's so secretive, like, why am I the only one on the stage? ... but then, well, if there's an actor(or actress in my case), there should be an audience. So now I think I'm fine with my role and he with his (I hope?)

He does not talk much... but then well, so far I've met only one or two guys who talk as much as I do (but still a bit less. Well, I'm a girl and am gemini sun -gemini cancer cusp, to be exact- with gemini mercury, so I talk nonstop. Someone needs to shut me up or...), so I can't really say that this cancer guy isn't talkative type. Actually he talks quite lots about topics he is interested in, sometimes even robs me of my turn to wag my tail, a very impressive deed, indeed lol

You mentioned sincerity? Yes, he's sincere. And I like it about him, too.

wag my tongue lol not tail lol