Taurus needing cancer in sight!

I'l try and make this short so bare with me! I'm an 18 year old taurus and my ex is 17 years female cancer. we dated for 10 months the relationship was smooth sailing a few hiccups here and there but nothing major - around 2 months ago she ended it quite out of the blue on my part but for her she must of been thinking about it a little while (You closed up cancers 😛)
we attend the same college and have the same friends circle so when she broke it off I thought everything would change but it hadent, we continued to act like a couple for atleast 1.5 months before I snapped and recently agreed on two weeks no contact and that we did over christmas, I thought she would move on and possibly so would I but when we returned back to college our feelings were exactly the same - the chemistry is so strong, our feelings are so obvious for eachother.

I asked her previous times about why she ended it, but being a closed shell she wouldn't express it directly to me a few answers she gave were 'I don't know if I love you since I have dated no other person to compare to then reversing back to 'I still care about you alot'. So anyway today stuff got brought up again she said she still cares a huge deal and wants to start fresh as friends (since we never had a friendship before we jumped into the relationship quickly) so no clingyness from either end, and not prioritising eachother over everything so that's what we have agreed. she said I shouldn't look into the future nor dwell on the past, Im curious to know if there would be any chance to actually forming a new relationships, I wouldn't be considering this if the feelings had faded but even after two months nothing much has changed. she said the reason for the break up in her view is I lost sight of myself, I treated her like she wasn't a person rather than of something I called 'mine' I was blinded how selfish I was I wasn't horrible nor abuse nor mean I just didn't consider her feelings as much as I did mine which greatly effected her freedom so that's why she ended it.

the relationship viewing on it now it was immature not in the sense of arguements but in the sense we were constantly around eachother and no space was given be it texting or seeing eachother. some of my obv traits being posessivness and controlling that took into play I guess I got too carried away with my happiness rather than hers.

so what do you think?

What exactly was wrong with the pages and pages of advice you got on all the other boards about this?

Be her friend.
What's the rush?

I haven't read the other threads, but I will admit that if you're truly an 18 yo Taurus Brit dyke, I will bare with you anytime. :p

Wait, she's a girl—

ohhhh

This makes more sense now.

Yes I am a girl haha I like the responses I just like a variety of opinions and views 🙂
and why would it make sense if I am a girl?

Posted by Brittfuzz
Yes I am a girl haha I like the responses I just like a variety of opinions and views 🙂
and why would it make sense if I am a girl?

welll

While I acknowledge this to be not in the least bit "womans lib" ( I find most of womens lib to be a crock)

It seems far more acceptable to me, that a girl be whingeing about a relationship non-stop than a guy.

I dunno,
I recoiled and cringed at your posts when I thought you had a dick.

Now I don't.

The existence of your ovaries make all of this posting make more sense to me, why you need to talk it through so much, (the age thing is a factor as well)

Also krabby wtf man, she's 18 you lascivious bastard.

haha

Well I wish you the best britt, young love is intense as fuck.

Well from this, If you still want too pursue her, and from this it sounds like you do. If she thinks you were possessive, then you would have too prove too her that it is more than that. That you genuinely care for her and that you love her for her. So give her space and try and enchant her back towards you. You probably took the relationship too fast, and cancers like too be very slow.. so the feelings can build up. Once you have a cancer that fully has those feelings for you, you are in the game. I dont know if any other cancers are like this, but I like too take things very slow. I like too build my feelings up. It takes a long time for me too fully adore someone... it feeels almost as though theres this brick wall infront of me and i need too know the person well. But once those feelings have built up in the cancer there is no going back. And they will trudge through thick and thin for you. THE CANCER will become the clingy possessive one.

So basically, TL;DR = Take things slow and rouse the cancer towards you. Show them that you are safe. Let the cancer want too pursue you. Let the cancer develop feelings for you that are undeniable.... She is probably confused and sitting inside her shell not sure of.