Total shock from Cancer's out of nowhere new g/f

Hi everyone,

So I dated a Cancer guy I met last year. We live about an hour away. He would text me all the time to say hi and see how I was doing. Even recently on Valentine's day he texted me to say Happy Valentines day etc. He contacted me still after Valentines. I know distance was an issue bc we lived an hour away. We always kept in contact and I always thought he was special because he was a gentlemen to me. Even in our natal charts we were extremely compatabile. So about two weeks ago he posted on facebook and instagram that he was in a relationship and posted a group photo with his new girl. Or I guess made it official with this new girl My heart sunk in. I cried a bit because I really was interested in him. I thought the distance was the factor. But I had just gotten hired for a new job right in his city. So I think maybe I was hoping to spend more time with him. It seems that his new gf lives in my city ( an hour away) My thing is I feel totally played. He was still contacting me and tried seeing me twice but I was busy with work. I believe it's been two weeks since we last contacted each other. I am the type of person that I dont want to be with someone who doesnt want me so i want him to be happy. However, I can't help but feel a bit lead on. Then, yesterday he unfollowed me from Instagram but not facebook. I was thinking maybe his New out of nowhere gf asked who i was or something. His facebook friends section is private so you cant see his friends. I feel like I am being immature. Being I keep going back and forth if I should delete him from facebook. I just like being friends with everyone. However, I feel shitty now because I thought he cared for me more than a friend or at least as a friend. Anyways what do you guys think?

Thank you.

How long were you dating? And did you ever have any type of discussion on what you both wanted from the relationship you had?

Well if he got a gf, you better stay out of that hellish situation. Obviously he's using you if he talking to u & he's got a gf!. I say don't respond to anything he sends. Show him you got respect for yourself. Theres two types of Cancer Man from what i noticed, The sweet, shy prince Charming, & the player. Don't allow this guy to play on your feelings. You gotta think with your heart on this one ok

Hi, we dated for a few months and we never stopped being in contact. He knew I liked him and said he would never want to do anything to hurt me and that he felt like if we were closer it would be be easier to get to know each other and spend time together. Which I agreed.

last time I saw him was in December before he flew out of the country to visit his family. In February, he had contacted me twice when he was in town to see what I was doing. I have a feeling he went to see his new girl and maybe was trying to see me to. However, first time he contacted me the day before but i had to work. Second time, I had made other plans alreadly which I told him he was welcome to come with. Either way, we weren't able to meet up with him. And then two weeks later he has a girlfriend.

So, Although I felt saw when I saw what he posted. I want him to be happy. But him unfollowing me from instagram (i know sounds childish) but kinda made me feel bad. It's like i felt bad enough finding out he was in a relationship. So, I am debating whether to delete him from my facebook before he does. I am just confused. I know if he sees I deleted him he will know it bothered me. I just unsure of what to do. I feel kinda sad about the situation.

Thank you purplerain and 2BlackIndian3 for responding. Yeah, I have not contacted him at all since he posted he has a gf! I actually deleted his # right away to avoid it at all cost.

Well i understand your pain, but him unfollowing you was probably because of that girl he got now. She probably got jealous because she knows you are a greater lady than her entire existence combined lol. Don't feel bad because he's the one who loss out. I'm sure you got great qualities anyway. His actions alone showed his true feelings. Sometimes we have to look at peoples actions 1st to answer the hardest questions about them. You know now, what you won't accept from a man. You'll get someone 20x better. Just pray about it for now & leave it in God's hands. You'll be ok 🙂

@purplerain When we first met we both had been out of a relationship for a few months. I think we wanted to get to know each other. He always would stare at me and tell me how beautiful I was. We never talked about a relationship officially. But when feelings were brought up we talked about how the distance was hard and he said it would be easier to get to know each other if we were closer... and when I moved for my job closer to him would would be able to spend more time together... and he would never want to do anything to hurt me etc... he still kept contacting me after that since that was last year. He would text me and if I ever texted him he would respond right away. However last time I texted about 3 weeks ago... I told him I was going to be in town and if he wanted to hang out. He responded very sweet and asking me how I was and when I was moving out there etc "small talk" he was sweet as always but avoided the question about us hanging out which he has never done before. I didn't say anything when he avoided it. That was the only thing that makes the gf thing less surprising... But I was still in shock!

@soluna it's no problem 🙂. I'm glad we were available to help. See!, i think you'll survive just fine. Keep your head up ok

Thanks 2BlackIndian3 you are very sweet. Yes, I am staying strong but I had to vent somehow on dxpnet... because I aint going to lie. My heart does hurt a bit but I agree. His true feelings are revealed now. And I deserve better. 🙂

@soluna Ain't nothing wrong with that. I'm glad me & @Purplerain was able to listen, well ease your troubles. So try not to worry, cause he ain't worth your tears.

Listen to 2BackIndian he gives really great advice! He's a smart cookie

Welcome to the war wounds of dating.

You guys were just dating/talking, even if you felt closer. There was no commitment between you to be exclusive regardless of feelings that developed. He understood this, guys usually do and use it to their advantage.

This happened to me with a Bull. He said I was the only one he was seeing, we talked about things we wanted to do in the future but only words no action; then he pops up with a girlfriend on FB. When he put a photo of them together on FB it had a date of several months prior, which means he was hiding that post from me until he was ready to drop that jewel. I immediately un-friended him, he begged me to keep contact with him so that we could sext. She has quite the catch in this Bull. He was always dating other people like your Crab. Which is his right to do, as we all are looking for the right one. I just wish people would be more honest and forthright. When people do this they show you who they are. And you don't want that.

Guys do this, even when they are talking to one they have others on the side they are making hook ups with until the one they really want shows up. Then they will seal the deal by publicly claiming her which will let all his other girlfriends know he is now taken.

I know you feel disappointed and hurt now but try to see that you dodged a bullet.

Thanks LunarMaiden, you are absolutely right about everything! I appreciate all the feedback.

Just deleted him. and yes dodged that bullet for sure! Thanks again everyone!