Why are cancers so mean

Firstly it's a given I hurt my cancer boyfriend alot.

But I apologised and promised to watch what I say to him and not emotional bruise him.

It's 5 months and he's still holding a grudge. I mean he slowly opens up to me. But doesn't schedule as much time to see me as before and never priories me.

But every now and then he suggests we see a movie or spend alone time or just meet for a min.

And yesterday I was ill and he called to see how I was.

I'm in way to much of a rush to have my man back....

What can I do to help me see me sincerely again.

Posted by Arielle83
You're confusing. You hurt him, emotionally bruised him....you say he's holding a grudge, but then he schedules time and you say you aren't in much of a rush to have 'your man' back?

What the fuck? Seriously?

There is a reason he is distant and holding a grudge, because you're the one who is probably mean....

No cancer waits for no one...you're a distant memory, he may be civil, but you're confusing...

Why do you want him to want you, but you aren't ready to have him back?

She said she IS in a rush to have him back. Like she misses the guy he was before she hurt him.

Cappy - hurt him how?

Cancers never forget and they 'forgive' before they really feel forgiving, out of a sense of loyalty and because they can empathize with wanting to be forgiven.
That is not the same thing as ACTUALLY forgiving you though, and his distance is his way of protecting his feelings.
He doesn't trust you any more.

If you are sincere, continue being so.
Cancers are extremely intuitive, he will know.
This cannot however, be rushed.
Sorry

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
Cappy - hurt him how?

Cancers never forget and they 'forgive' before they really feel forgiving, out of a sense of loyalty and because they can empathize with wanting to be forgiven.
That is not the same thing as ACTUALLY forgiving you though, and his distance is his way of protecting his feelings.
He doesn't trust you any more.

If you are sincere, continue being so.
Cancers are extremely intuitive, he will know.
This cannot however, be rushed.
Sorry

Yes.

I messed up my beautifully relationship. It was so so good. Gonna try be so awesome he's gonna want to marry me......

But how I'm a capricorn...We aren't even born with hearts....just cold black stones where other humans have hearts

Ive on the same road with my... Best friend if could call her like that... But if i were you i would be grateful that even if you hurt him (whatever you did) he is still there and willing to spend time even if is not as much as before... It sucks but is something

At least you are not in my shoes... mine told me her life is better since she stop hanging out with me, that she doesn't feel like reach out, thats holding a grudge! She doesn't mind spending time with me but she doesn't feel like it right now and doesn't know if she ever will and is been 4 months...

This people take things to the heart and whatever you did is like in that place they magnified by x2000 and forget it, even if they have hurt you as bad as you did... They will simply wont take that in consideration, you have to forgive them but the other way around is like "ill take what ill take and sit and wait if you must"

So be pacient it will take time, lots and lots of time but you cappys are good at taking your time too

I'm going through this too. The olive branch has been extended. The ol bestie and I had a peace summit at the bar.

It's all water under the bridge now. We forgive and apologized for hurting each other. I'm still cautious though because he's still an immature toxic person. We'll see I guess. I doubt we'll be as close but my heart feels better.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry

Posted by cappygirl11
But how I'm a capricorn...We aren't even born with hearts....just cold black stones where other humans have hearts

lol

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Tell me about it!! my last two exs are capricorn, pretty good in bed, no feelings or heart

Power Games Baby

If your cancer is mean it's probably because cancer is immature and other things or you're mean or viewed as mean to cancer. They're mirroring types so they end up giving what you give once their initial perky attitude wears off.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I think caps are pretty great....I was laughing at her honesty.

Caps are fantastic!

My closest childhood friend is a cap but tbh I don't think I could deal with a cap in a romantic sense. She's always telling me her bf is sad that she's not more emotional/connected with him.

I dunno if Cancer/Cap is a great match beyond best friends.

Posted by cappygirl11
Why are cancers so mean.

LOL

Well I told him I missed him yesterday and he said no he didn't miss me back. But anyways he invited to go watch a movie. Spend the movie holding my hand..... These are positive signs right? Even fed me some pop corn. And we texted a little while after the movie. Now I know he got a hectic schedule right now....i didn't even expect to see him

He's trying to get u to hurt too by saying he didn't miss u.
Must have hurt him pretty bad
Anyway it's good that he showed u some affection at the movies nxt time give him a hug a real tight one
Cancers love affection n so do caps

Not to be mean... But yeah i agree with cc, if a cappy think someone is mean something most be wrong with those black stones

Huh?caps thnk we mean MAN you caps are slippin.