A HOLE

I have been hanging about in pubs, and have been a real dick. I was a prick over xmas, and I still feel like being a prick. I find myself very rude to women. expressly to the ones who want to chat me up. Perhaps I have found a way of life I was ment to live.

howard stern is a capricorn who has made a great living out of being rude and crude. maybe we caps have a gift for it.....loser. (ha)..

Well I can't really be impartial. I don't have a very high opinion of men right now after being used, lied to, taken advantage of, dumped, broken hearted recently, and too many times. I think every man I've known so far is a prick, marker....the list goes on and on. They've been mean, unfeeling, unkind, unresponsive, uncaring, etc.

Odd, but none of them have been a Capricorn. Yet. There's been a Sagitarrius, a Virgo, a Taurus, a Leo, and three Pisces.

The Pisces men have been the worst so far. They have you believing that they care about you as much as you do about them; even your friends see it and believe it's so. Then in the blink of an eye, Pisces men are dumping you, breaking your heart, and ignoring you with no advanced warning what-so-ever. When you thought, and are sure they were one person, they end up being someone else. Then they leave you wondering what happened, and never really knowing or being able to figure it out. They are accomplished actors and magicians.

Hmmm, maybe it is all men; or just all the ones I seem to unfortunately meet and know.

i think the key words there were "actors and magicians".
accomplished at the art of illusion. but really, men are men. they're all like that. they think with their dicks and that's that. they have been like that from the beginning and will always be that way. i haven't met one that wasn't...married or not. it's a game women must play to win. but do we really ever win anyway. no, we don't. it's still a man's world. but there's a saying i think is funny..."men are like buses, there's another one right around the corner."

I just recently met a Pisces man (fish) and from the beginning I was alerted. He was toooooo nice, toooo forthcoming with compliments. Too much so that I did not believe him. Guard wall up, immediately...sit back, observe male fish. He would talk to me like we were all ready dating, wanting to hold my hand in public. I don't even know the man. After meeting for coffee the first time he tried to kiss me. Whoa nelly there fisherman, put that hook back on the line and step back! I told him that he may not kiss me but he may call me if he'd like to. He was caught off guard there. No, I did not feel like kissing him so why should I? He seemed okay with that and if he didn't well, so be it.

He did call me again infact, he has called me several times. We have met for coffee and just shopped the stores. He has not tried to kiss me again. Lately he did ask me why I haven't kissed him yet and I said, "well, let me ask you a question...every girl you take out do they always kiss you?" He said, "yes, they do" my reply, "well Mister, I am not like all those other girls" He then asked if I was dating...I said, yes I am. He wanted to know why I don't talk about my relationships...I said because I do not discuss my personal life. Jeesh...too many questions, too fast for me, too needy. He still calls, I will chat. He is a great actor...I just do not believe what he says to me to be true. My instincts have not failed me yet.

I am NOT saying this is a Pisces trait...I am sure many people, men and women can be this way. I am stressing that we (women) must trust that little inner voice..our guidence system as our means of self protection.

Can you imagine how boring this world would be if we didn't have all of this "stuff" going on? It will continue for as long as we are alive and on this earth...what can we do about it? change our thoughts about it. Make it fun, don't take it personally, if we don't like something...get out or change. This is how we will keep our peace of mind and believe me...there is nothing better than having a peace of mind!

Best wishes for an exciting New Year filled with twists, turns, hills, dips, smooth pavement and rocky roads...enjoy your ride..it's a once in a life time adventure!

Flyin Free and lovin it 🙂

Not all men are dicks. This is my opinion, there are 4 types of people in the world, 2 types are male 2 types are female. There are the normal females, then there are the females who dated a prick marker who screws them over. There's the normal guys, then there's the guys who turn into the prick marker after dating the girl who dated the prick marker.

No ones fault but a vicious cycle, very hard to find people who haven't gotten the shaft and have some sort of scar from it.

Capricorn Guy

yeah, you're right cap guy, but i really haven't met too many normal guys out there. i can't really say that i'm a normal gal either. baggage. would really like to trust someone to have a conscience about what their doing. i try to always think of the other person and a lot of times that gets taken advantage of. it does leave me with a clear conscience though. as freebird states...peace of mind is the key.
choose to do the right thing.

I haven't met and dated a lot of normal guys at all, and so that's why I've stopped trying to meet anyone period. I figure if I work on just myself, and blah blah blah, I will eventually put out a vibe that will attract nice guys. I have to say that I work really hard not to show that I have baggage to new guys, though. In fact I'm usually able to semi "forget" everything that's happened to me in past relationships and look at each new person with a fresh pair of eyes. Perhaps that is my downfall? lol...It's just a matter of realizing, I think, that with each new person, they *could* be The One, and so try not to push them away too quickly, give it careful time and observation before you do that.

Love is hard.

James...a question...could it be that you're in a way exacting revenge on someone from your past (a woman) by acting this way?

Just know that whenever you're not being your true self, you're going to attract other people who aren't being their true selves, either.

Finding "normal" is nigh impossible. Basically everyone has had to have had a bad experience with something. No one is going to be completely virgin to the world in that they'll have zero emotional baggage.

Phoenix this is the true me, I will spend the rest of my life alone being a dick, I have noticed that dicks like me seem to get more oppertuintiers at ass, the nice guys stand around tring to chat up a bird, as soon as she sees a reail ass hole she is on him 9me in this case0 like butter on a muffin. Why I do not know nor do I care, so treetrunk it.

I'll agree that that is usually the case James. markers do get more woman than nice guys.

You know, reading threads like this one make me want to pursue a field in some sort of clinical psychology. I wonder if I could get a degree doing studies on how many of each sign really are pricks (or "cookiemonsters"), and which sign has the most of 'em.

Let's start here. Any Aries in need of a hot date?

J/K. I'm still taken. But, it's a good thought if any other singles want to jump in and have the upper hand in all this. Nobody has to know it's all just a big, fun project. Just date 'em and rate 'em.

For the world at large (on DXP): the above sentence is the shallowest thing I believe I have ever written.

Most women do like the "bad" boy, marker for "fun." But that's all there is to it, just "fun." Just like everything else, that can eventually get boring and monotonous. Also, alot of women seem to be under the delusion that they can somehow change that "bad" boy even though that's what the woman was attracted to in the first place.

However, most men are the same way. They like the "bad" girl, sometimes even the somewhat "nice" girl just for "fun," and often suffer from the same delusion.

But I think when it comes right down to it, neither women or men want to have a serious, "their" serious relationship with the "bad" boy or girl. They are usually just the ones for "fun," not the ones you fall in love (sometimes but rarely) with, take home to mom (and dad sometimes too), or marry.

So I guess it would be a choice as to whether or not you want to be the "bad" boy or girl, and what kind of relationship you have, are looking to have, or want. Now, sometime, eventually?

I think stupid women and easy women are the ones who go for the a-holes. But, if you're in the market for "easy", and that's what you want, that is just what you'll get, if you play your cards right at being a jerk. (lol)

I don't think men realize that the girls who are worth having, are not the ones who WANT a-holes.

I should clarify what I meant when I said "normal"...I MEANT "decent". Nice. Considerate. Kind. It really is possible for a guy to possess these qualities without being a complete P*ssy, I just really have to keep believing that...

One final thought - a-holes may very well "get more" women than nice guys. But is quantity something to desire, or is quality?

Cap lady and phoenix I do not see a down side here so sorry but be the ass hole get the ass and no responsability show me the down side.

I'm single, Aprilbaby 😄. I believe that I have the qualities of a nice guy. I have integrity, morals and I believe in honesty. Honesty has gotten me in trouble, because I've always been blunt when I'm truthful and it hurts. I believe in keeping my word, Its a honor thing, I just feel better knowing I'm going to do what I said I would.

As for being a giant "p_ssy" when it comes to being a nice guy, I think its viewed that way a lot. I hate confrontation, but that doesn't mean I won't stick up for what I believe. I don't like yelling and screaming but doesn't mean I won't argue my point.

Also the subject of quanity over quality. Being the way I am my quanity is zero because I can't do it with out feelings. The girls I've been dating lately either move to fast or don't move at all. I think I'm slightly off the norm because I associate a lot of emotions with sex and I just can't go do it with anyone. I've wanted to because it's been a while but no matter how hard I try to make myself believe that I can bang the be-jesus out of a woman I can't.

I am not talking about dating just get drunk and have a one night stand go your sepert wayus. no commetment.

The point is, dont go to a treetrunking club/bar/whatever if you're thinking of a serious relationship. That's one dumb attempt, why do people go to clubs/bars? The answer you've probably already figured out.

Dont expect from men. Dont expect from women. The only thing you can expect is some ASS and DICKS. Sad.

I apologize for my cynicism but it cant be helped.

The girl I met through mutual friends was the one who moved to fast, the girl I met at the club was the one who was frigid, which was odd because she was nice enough to me at the club. But when I took her on a date she was a freaking cold fish.
WTF...

Some tolerance and sympathy is needed here; accept that humans are human, and when heartbroken and depressed may resort to drinking and one night stands. When people are in an emotional crises, they still need to be close to another human being, another warm body, even if it?s just for a short while. And I can?t see anything ugly about that, to me is simply a proof of humanity and a sensitive being.

I do live in the Tampa Bay Area, however I believe you're speaking of San Fran...

Turtle, I get what you're saying. But I was strictly speaking of people who try to win relationships by thinking they can obtain that from going to clubs and meeting new people. I say most of the people that go there are just looking for two things and I think you know what I mean. For instance, korean clubs are basically whore houses. To the woman it's all about the money and to the guys its all about gaining money to get the women. I have no problem with those kinda people but it just repeatst this cycle. But what you say about human emotions is very true, but I think there's a difference between a one night stand to make you feel better and the thought of wanting to have a serious relationship.

Luz, I get what you are saying too. The key word here is "relationship"; as I see it all close contacts are some sort of relationship. A serious one (not a happy word for it) would be as in marriage or living-together—
I?m no expert on "bartered love" but what I?ve been hearing and reading about the subject, there seems to be a personal tragedy behind for most of the sellers.
I wouldn?t try to analyze the buyers, but suspect most of them are seeking a human contact they wouldn?t have otherwise. There are those dolls, you know, as alternative!
Now, that?s as far as I go on a subject that?s beyond my knowledge.

P.S. Jeanne Cordelier wrote a book about her (hooker) carrieer, published 1978, titled LA D?ROBADE. This book is very enlightening about the seller?s point of view.

What I mean by 'serious relationship' is exposing your emotions into the relationship, meaning letting down your guard and placing something special within your heart towards your partner. That to me, is the perception of a serious relationship. Marriage isnt the core of a serious relationship but more of the lines of the connection to it. But this is something that just happens with some people, because as for me, I dont want to get married.

Well, now I?m baffled. A serious relationship is a relationship that?s not meant to be serious?
Luz, be a dear and explain, please.

Ok. How does marriage/living together have anything to do with being in a serious relationship? Maybe it's just my perspective of things but I dont see how you HAVE to be married in order to get your relationship classified as 'serious'? I think you already understood my point on what is required to be considered a serious relationship..emotions, connection, chemistry. I'm just saying when these feelings get built up between two partners it might automatically lead to marriage because they want 'to be together forever'. Understand what I'm saying now?

There has to be something there in order to 'want to get married'. That means the strong bond was already there so marriage or not. It's still a 'marriage' if you put it to metaphorical sense. As for me, I dont want to get married because I dont see why you have to because like I say, it's already there and put's a sort of a test to it. Sometimes I think getting married is another form of caging someone because of insecurities.

there marriage*

Uhumm, am still baffled. If marriage or commitment as in living-together arrangement isn?t serious, then WHAT is rated as serious? Is "serious" some middle stage between one night stand and long term commitment— Does it mean a hearty, emotional intent with no place to go— As I said, I just don?t get it...

LOL. Dude. Chill. We obviously have different views on things! So let's leave it at that.

people, people, people you put way to much thought into this my point who gives a big rats ass.

Obviously not you.

do you enjoy being with rude women?...that would be the question to answer for yourself...if answer is in the negative, then find your charming self again...and let go of the rudeness....

A rats ass..............nice metaphor........James. Hope you are in London. Too many rats around here...seen enuff ass for my lifetime.

Good Day.