Advice

I'm a Taurus and the guy I like at work is a Cappy. I've liked him for about a year, but I only split from my Pisces in January so I never really thought about him much. He got engaged last summer anyway, so that made me feel even less inclined.

Well, from September I started talking to him more as we started working together on something. I hadn't realised how much we have in common and how much like me he actually is, even down to the little things like not talking on the phone and stuff.

So anyway...about a month ago, he said that he liked me as more than a friend and that if he were single he'd definitely pursue something with me. I was taken aback, as we haven't spent anytime together outside of work, apart from a couple of work functions. I said I liked him too, but laughed it off, as I felt a little awkward considering he was getting married this July.

Came back to work yesterday and he told me he'd called his engagement off as he wasn't sure that he wanted to marry her anymore (I had heard office gossip about this, but hadn't asked him about it; thought he'd talk to me about it if he wanted to). I was totally shocked!!!! He said he was feeling ok, but that she was obviously devastated and had been leaving nasty messages on his phone.

I suppose my question is, how do I play this? I know that I don't want to be a rebound or anything, so asking him out or something dumb is out of the question. He said yesterday that his feelings for me hadn't changed, which I didn't really know how to take. I just told him that if he needed anything, to let me know. Do I just continue to be there? Or do I tell him that I'd like to take things further when he's ready? I suppose I'm worried that I'll either come on too strong or not strong enough.

If it helps, I'm Taurus Sun, Saggie Asc and Gem moon and he's Cappy Sun, Aries Asc and Gem moon.

Copperhead, you don't play a role in it. This guy is a major flake. He was already cheating on her while they were still engaged. Yes it was better he did it now then after they got married, but he is emotionaly unstable and really a selfish prick.

You get with this guy, you are going to be another statistic. Your a tarus and when you guys fall for some one you guys get really clingy. IMO cling on to someone who is worth your reltationship.

Thanks for all your advice!! I know what you all mean about him being a committmentphobe, has crossed my mind as well, as everyone in the office are talking about how in love he was with his fiancee and now...this. I'm not sure I'd class fancying someone else while in a relationship as cheating, as I fancy loads of people, it's just that I wouldn't take it further if I were in a committed relationship with someone. I've been thinking about it and I think I'll keep my distance for now. I do know that his longest relationship has been 2 years and he's nearly 40, so it doesn't bode well!!!