Another Chapter in the Twisted Tale...

So, you'll recall the last chapter w/ my story was that the Cap. guy got back in touch with me three months after giving him a heartfelt letter asking him not to contact me if he didn't feel the same or wasn't in the place to have a serious relationship. He'd emailed saying that he was sorry for the delay, that he had alot going on, and to give him a call. Then he doesn't return my call.

We finally talked yesterday after I foolishly emailed him. He emails me a new cell number and to call him. I get a bomb dropped on me that he's moved in w/ a girl he's been seeing a while. I'm pretty sure he had started seeing her a year ago when he was trying to get me back in bed again this time last year. He'd mentioned her, but said she was "just a friend" and when I told him I didn't want to be some side-dish if he was commited to another, he said that I had it all wrong and that wasn't the case. Luckily, I wasn't buying 100% and never gave in to him fully.

I couldn't get off the phone fast enough w/ him yesterday after the "bomb exploded". He finally lets me go and tells me to call him later when I'm not in the office and can talk. Unbelievable. I tossed this new cell number he'd given me, which I wouldn't be surprised is an extra phone for his "side business" now that he's on a tight leash cohabitating. I emailed him, thanked him for telling me, said that I hope he's happy, and that I was happy for him.

Why am I telling you this...? I guess just to say to watch your back. I didn't doubt he was seeing someone or others, but thought he'd leave me alone and let me move on after I'd asked him to and knew how I felt about him. He apparently liked the attention too much to do the right thing.

Ugh! Capricorns are so weird!!! I'd keep my distance PERMANENTLY if I were you! If Bittertaurus is right, then I'm even more disgusted.

I'd seriously love to have a drink with all you ladies that have been with a Cappy man. I bet we'd have an all nighter talking about our experiences. We'd laugh and cry and leave these men in the past...

"but thought he'd leave me alone and let me move on after I'd asked him to and knew how I felt about him. "

Thats the point. He KNOWS how u feel about him and he is using that information to manipulate u on his terms. This so called new girl bomb is just a ploy to keep u tightly bound to him. I wont be surprised if u now give in to ur heart and start calling him, trying to win him from the other girl..yada yada..he wants u to do that.

Capgirl, I seriously think u should take the high road and let the cap guy rot to hell with his stories.
I know I am sounding very harsh but I just cant see someone suffer after they make themselves so vulnerable to the other person.

I guess just to say to watch your back. I didn't doubt he was seeing someone or others, but thought he'd leave me alone and let me move on after I'd asked him to and knew how I felt about him. He apparently liked the attention too much to do the right thing.

Your advice is well taken CapGirl. Another girl while saying you too? Oh my goodness! Typical Capricorn man behavior ? they don?t know how to ?end? a relationship with anyone so they just avoid them until a situation comes up that lets them off the hook.

I really hope that you don't want to have anything else to do with him romantically, he's nothing but trouble.

ya i agree with bt. dunno anything about dating these guys, but thats not right. even if he's saying he's reaching back to you as a friend... blah blah blah. you need to be the one to give yourself your time away... far away and for as long as is necessary. forever? if thats what it takes. he seems unnecessary anyways. kiss it goodbye, smile and turn your back cuz you have better things to look forward to.

Sorry to hear that CapGirl. It must hurt but at the same time, hopefully you feel relieved in that you can get closure from that news. Now it's time to walk away and seek out greener pastures.

Thank you all very much. I am reeling still... I don't know why. We weren't dating even for the past year but I do think that it's been a drawn-out sadistic game which has now reached an alltime low.

BT~ All that you say, I have thought the same. I don't want to delude myself or try to pretend that he's not involved w/ someone else because I know he is. But I suspect that this "bomb" he dropped on me could be a lie not just to get a reaction out of me but worse yet to cause pain and make me act like a crazy fool. Not happening. Don't worry. I am playing w/ fire to deal w/ him any further, bc. I do believe that he's not just a cheater/womanizer but could also be the "freak" (sociopath) you're describing.

Here's some indication to me... I had sent that extremely kind, gracious email yesterday, saying that I was happy for him, thanks for your honesty, and wishing him my very best. Any decent normal guy would be wow'ed or touched by that gesture, and shoot back a "Thanks" or "Wish you well too." But nothing. He is not accepting and acknowledging that I am basically saying goodbye and moving on.

Yes, CG, just move on. So did I with my Cap guy. Right now I don't care at all what he's doing. And my heart has woken up for someone else.. 🙂 I just don't know yet where is this thing going, maybe nowhere, but at least I feel I'm alive.. Good luck, CG, I hear you, I've been through the same too many times. But we Cap girls don't go down with these men, we have strenght to move on 🙂 🙂