Any experts on Cappy Man/Aquari woman out there?

New to the boards here....actually found the boards while at work....lunch break net surfing. Let me make it short and semi-sweet
I've been married 11 years this January to a Sagi, who bores me to tears, had been making plans on a divorce but because waiting for our youngest to be ready to make it on her own, She just turned 18 this past September.
Mr. Cappy has been married some 26 years, dropped out of school in 11th grade to care for pregnant gf. His children are also almost grown and gone, Tells me that he has been thinking of getting out for years, but children are his life and doesn't want the Mrs to use the kids against him.
Met over a social NW site, we actually grew up together, but never really spoke, he was my 7th grade crush. We started talking a few months ago, email, phone calls, started as just simple friendly talk, quickly turned to an emotional affair, then just as abruptly we decided things were moving too fast. He tells me about his problems with his wife...the constant arguments, I stroke his ego.
I will be filing the divorce papers in November, just a few days away...question is....I have to physically meet this guy first before I decide to pick up and move closer, not just to be near him....all my extended family lives near him. I moved to my current home with my Sagi traveller.
He doesn't want to talk of pursuing anything further until we meet either, at least be in the same state. I would be happy just being his mistress as I have no intention of ever getting tied to a man again, but what chance does an older Aquarius woman/ Capricorn man have both of us are in our early 40s, and should have all this worked out by now.
Just looking for some outside insights, like any good Aquarian would do.

I'm sorry, I didn't think I said I was looking for a relationship, I think we can be great friends, but not sure as I have never dealt with a Cappy before, being a double Aquarius, I don't follow the "rules", I don't know WHO decided there should be rules for the way people live, (no offense to those of you who can't live without them) I have to do what is best and right for me. Just looking for a toy to pass the time, but worried it could become more complicated, I don't know if I am ready for all that. I could do a chart, but none of that stuff makes a lot of sense to me.....lol

If you just want a toy and are content to be some cap guy's mistress what do you care about the aquarian/capricorn dynamic working out. You just want to use him because your husband bored you. And they say caps are manipulative. Sheesh!

I think we're better as friends...I have great Aquarius friends; but I would never get into a relationship with them. Again this is all depending on their planets, but they don't seem to have the passion to match mine or that I seek. I def think there is an undeniable attraction b/t Aquarius and Cap but in the long run, the Aquarius may not be deep enough for the Cap...just my two cents.

(Be forewarned... you're going to be judged and criticized and not get the basic advice you asked for on astro. compatibility.) I was married to an Aqua, and my mom is a Cap and dad is Aqua. It's not the best combination as Shortyrock said. My "union" (dating, engaged, marriage) with Aqua only lasted 7 years. My mom and dad are now getting divorced after 40 years, but mom has been unhappy for many years. You'd be wise to take it slow and consider just a "loose union".

That is a bad combo... Good friends...Bad everything else! Thats a very biast opinion though.

Aquarian4, i am an Aquarian as well, who has a few very close Male Capricorn friends, one whom i also care for deeply. Heck, Capricorns are hard to not love - i mean that in both the romantic and friendship way.

Absolutely no one can tell what to do, or how to run your life, but be careful when toying with the lives of others. Especially with a Capricorn. They don't trust easily and even though they are aloof at times and can sometimes appear to be emotionless, there is nothing further from the truth. When they trust you and are willing to open up you will find that they are very warm hearted lovely, sensitive people with strong intelligent minds. In my opinion ... not to be toyed with.

*Ahem* I am a GREAT listener. Thankyouverymuch. 🙂

Just dont like being told what to do...

Wow, okay I feel properly chastised for my lack of communication skills. I would never let myself move to a state in the hopes of becoming nothing more than a "mistress", I have a Capricorn moon that keeps me nicely grounded, well........most of the time. But it is an easy fantasy when 3 states keep us separated and none of it seems real.
I am not out to do anything that he isn't up for, as a matter of fact it would be easier for me, if he stayed married and we just became really good friends.
We started slow and then started talking ALL the time and telling each other our deepest darkest secrets, it was just really weird to talk to someone like that, I don't open up easily either. It just felt good to talk, which lead to it being like what I can only call an emotional affair, maybe it's just a unbelievable friendship.
I married a man who HATED being a father, so for the last 24 years, I have been mother and father, because I love my kids and met someone who is completely in agreement with me about how parents should be. My SagiScorp was not meant to be a parent.
I will be flying out to see him, as well as my sisters and a brother who live there. I have no expectation other than spending time, hanging out with him, and seeing what he is like in person, I am hoping my shallow side will be repulsed by his looks.....lol, otherwise, being an Aquarius, I will be too tempted to play. I am not out to hurt him, he knows this, and he says he doesn't want to hurt me either, I don't want a relationship, I'm pretty sure that he doesn't either, but like I said, never having dealt with a Cappy before, I don't know if he is secretly looking for a relationship. I also don't want him to turn into a "stalker" type if I should move there. Don't know if that is part of their makeup. Worry that somewhere down the line that I will want something more, in which case, I will stay living right where I am sans Husband.
I have either cleared up the bad communication or totally muddied the waters, Merc Retrograde is over now, so maybe it's more clear. I will wait and see if there is more harsh words to come....lol

Aquarian4, you've made it quite clear now. And to ease your mind, i don't beleive stalking is something Capricorns are known for, however, its not just about the Horoscope sign when dealing with various personality types. A typical Capricorn, i believe is afraid of their emotions, so if their feelings become too strong for you, i think he would run away. In which case, you may end up being the one getting hurt if you start to care more for him. Capricorn's deep down need stability ... Aquarians deep down need adventure. Hopefully other placements in "your" charts would balance these needs out.

Good Luck with this and i wish you nothing but strength during your divorce.

This is essentially his chart sans degrees if anyone is able to help me know who I am dealing with because he just sent me an email telling me that he has "feelings" for me....I don't understand, we haven't met, we aren't in the same state, maybe it's just the ideal of me. Maybe I should travel there and not let him know I am there....I am not ready for "feelings" , just fun, and yes, adventure. I thought I made that quite clear to him from the start.

HIM
1rst house
Mars and Saturn in Aquarius
Venus and Moon in Pisces
2nd house
Jupiter in Aries
7th house
Pluto and Uranus in Virgo
9th house
Neptune in Scorpio
11th house
Mercury in Capricorn
12th house
Sun In Capricorn

Aquarian4, his venus and moon is Pisces indicates that he is very expressive of his emotions and can be easily injured. His Mercury in Capricorn indicates that he is however, a logical thinker and most likely is not impulsive.

Basically, be careful not to hurt him. If you do, you may ruin any chance of anything, because once he makes a decision one way or another, he is likely to stick to it.

He has FEELINGS for you and if you mess with him you will hurt him. This can't continue, his feelings will get stronger. We Capricorns feel things deeply, intensely and passionately (although we hide this and project an aloof facade). Please don't use the Cappy as your boytoy, it will get complicated and his feelings WILL get hurt. Besides why tempt him to committ adultery? You don't want a relationship so I think its best to leave this guy alone. Forget about friendship, he will want more. Gently let him down and forget about him. If you pursue things, you will hurt him and cause a big mess. Does he even know you don't want anything besides for him to commit adultery and no emotions whatsoever? This just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Why not just find a fuck buddy that you have no emotional ties with, like another Aqua or air sign. Don't mess with a married man, there's so many fish in the sea that would love to just have sex and nothing more.

"never having dealt with a Cappy before, I don't know if he is secretly looking for a relationship" - we always want relationships so if he doesn't want one now, he might want one in the future.

"Stalker?" - nope not Caps, but a 7th house Pluto might be a stalker.

He has a Moon conj Venus in Pisces AND in the 1st house. I have a 1st house moon so I know all about this. 1st house mooners are extremely sensitive, intuitive, easily hurt, easily get attached, and have deep emotional needs (others may call it clingy or needy). 1st house moon is a very powerful position of the moon so it takes on qualities of moon in cancer times 2. Combined with Pisces moon he is DEFINITELY extremely sensitive, easily hurt and gets easily attached.

7th house Pluto is intense. They want intense, deep, intimate relationships. Uranus in 7th house wants spontaneity, change, independence, unpredictable etc. Both oppose 1st house planets but Moon in 1st is strong so he will still be emotional.
His 12th house Sun makes him more Pisces, especially cause he has Pisces moon.

I been with an Aqua/Scorpio moon and it was a hellish relationship. Also liked a Aqua/Virgo moon but it still wasn't a good match! Aquas cannot match my passion, emotions and intensity.

I appreciate the comments and insight, yes I made it clear that do not want a relationship, I have to believe him when he tells me that he doesn't want one either, I also have to believe him when he says that his marriage is over and by the time I arrive in his town, both of our divorces will be finalized, so it really wasn't about "adultery" I would see it more as co-miserating, or something to that affect. If I were truly a c*nt as was indicated via pm, I would bother putting it out there and getting an outside perspective, I would have just flown there, had my way with him, told his wife and kids and flown back home, that is not my intention. I have been told this is old Karma, don't know if I buy into all that, but when he told me out of the freaking blue the other day, that he had "feelings" for me, I freaked and told him that we need to talk this weekend. I will let him down gently because I am no where near ready for anything that is attached to feelings.
Thanks to those of you who had the open mindedness to offer insights without being my judge and jury, for those of you who sent the nasty pms, well we can't all be as perfect as you are. I believe Aquarians can be "deep" but for me, it's so much more fun to be on an adventure. I can be passionate, but it's got to be worth the effort. Cap moons aren't all play you know.

"They don't trust easily and even though they are aloof at times and can sometimes appear to be emotionless, there is nothing further from the truth. When they trust you and are willing to open up you will find that they are very warm hearted lovely, sensitive people with strong intelligent minds. In my opinion ... not to be toyed with."

Yup, this is very true!


"We Capricorns feel things deeply, intensely and passionately (although we hide this and project an aloof facade)."

VERY TRUE!

He may still be in the process of a divorce but if he is telling you he has "feelings", he may be anticipating something b/t the two of you esp if you're willing to go see him. Maybe not now, but in the near future...we don't admit feelings too readily since it spells vulnerability for us so if he is telling you he likes you, he may be expecting something to happen.

Ditto on all that- what Angel and Shorty said.

Moon AND Venus in PISCES??! This is one sensitive, mystical dude. Do be careful of his feelings. If you hurt him, he will swim away and retreat. Check out www.cafeastrology.com for Venus in Pisces, etc. and alot of other interesting stuff!

Well, I'm not sure what i did, but he retreated, and I'm shattered, I know I said I didn't want anything from him, and told him I didn't.......somewhere down inside I guess I really did, and I know I have to let him go. I'm not sure what happened, he says I don't "trust" him, strange coming from a man who is known to cheat on his wife. Anyway he has suddenly decided to work on his marriage and I know it's for the best, but it still stings. I too have venus in Pisces in the first house, to go along with my little cappy moon in the 11th. I knew this was coming and thought I was prepared for the ending of it all, I was wrong, it was me who is crushed and I have to admit I fell for him harder than I was willing to admit.
I will be hanging out here a little more often as I try to put all this to rest.
Thanks all for the support.

Aquarian4, hang in there. What ever the outcome, it is for the best.

OMG Aquarian.....is he 44 years old?? The guy I am crazy about has exactly the same signs...but I'm not sure about the 7th house and stuff like that...but everything is exactly the same! EVERYTHING...girl we need to talk. Maybe we can give each other some insight. He is very very sweet but I'm not sure if it's genuine or not.

So Venus in Pisces and Moon in Pisces makes him "oh so sweet" huh?