BROKEN UP 7 MONTHS ANY CHANCE STILL??

i missss him soo much and we'v been broken up a while...he thought i cheated on him which i didnt and he completely left me...we were together 3 years and very much in love and wanted to get married...he's just so suspicious of EVERYTHING!...he's 26 im 29...anyways for the first time in months he's sorta replying to my txts NOT much but sometimes...should i chase him till i cant anymore??...i mean iv been txtng him for months with no reply and still he hasnt changd his number...is that a good sign? PLEASE ANY INSIGHT is soo very appreciated!!

I think you should have stopped after the second text. It's hard, but it's best to let go of a dude who totally ignores you. If a man wants a woman he will make it happen. He is not making it happen, so why do you hang around like a door mat?

its such a long story but he's always been very jealous and im social but i never cheated...i went to prison for dui's a year after we got together and he stuck by me for 8 months and then my brother passed and he went to the funeral while i was away sort of in my place...then i got out everything was good we lived together but the jealousy continued..then we broke up on my bday at my bbq over a dum fight and we were broken up almost 5 months but i kept at him and he came back to me...then same ol jealousy and he left in may june and its been awful..iv dated im sure he has but im not over him i miss him and i know he does too but he only responds to me oooonce in a while nothn bad either...i just wonder wat other caps would think about this ?...idk...im not ready to let go i guess..rrrr

Posted by libra_lis
its such a long story but he's always been very jealous and im social but i never cheated...i went to prison for dui's a year after we got together and he stuck by me for 8 months and then my brother passed and he went to the funeral while i was away sort of in my place...then i got out everything was good we lived together but the jealousy continued..then we broke up on my bday at my bbq over a dum fight and we were broken up almost 5 months but i kept at him and he came back to me...then same ol jealousy and he left in may june and its been awful..iv dated im sure he has but im not over him i miss him and i know he does too but he only responds to me oooonce in a while nothn bad either...i just wonder wat other caps would think about this ?...idk...im not ready to let go i guess..rrrr

What was the situation that made him think you cheated? What happened?

I always step back a bit when the evidence isn't conclusively damning (and I'm pretty black and white about most things), and, as you didn't cheat, it won't be conclusively damning. There's got to be something here to grab on to and work with; to show him or tell him you've not been unfaithful.

You mention a lot about how he's jealous; many people (myself included) get that from time to time, but if it's constant, it's perhaps more of a psychological issue (borne of previous experiences/fear of abandonment etc perhaps) than what his sun sign can enlighten.

(As an aside, please, I hope there'll be no more DUIs! A cab fair costs waaay less than your's or someone else's life or body parts! Even a few thousand miles is cheaper than a body part. Sorry for the preach, but I have raw nerves there.)

He is so used to your chasing him with texts, Imagine what he'd do if you stopped?

hmmm..maybe chase YOU?

Posted by BigGirlPanties
He is so used to your chasing him with texts, Imagine what he'd do if you stopped?

hmmm..maybe chase YOU?

At this point, yes... Honestly, OP, don't keep sending him texts with bugger all positive response (or any response, period). Not only does it fluff his ego, but maybe it's continuining to fuel his belief that you were unfaithful (and are just trying to win him back for your own ends). He also may feed off it a bit (see my end paragraph).

I'm sorry, but it's just "I still need you" fluff if you're not cutting to and sorting out why you broke up IMHO (ie, his belief you cheated on him). You need a two-way conversation about this! If he's "too angry" to discuss it with you face-to-face and won't cite what made him believe you were unfaithful, then I'd be inclined to think he's looking for a get-out excuse (this isn't conclusive BTW, but, if it were me, I'd think it extremely shady if he wasn't prepared to state what happened to make him believe this and call him on it).

BigGirlPanties is right; the texts he receives but doesn't answer are likely to be fuelling his silence at this point. I know (and am not proud) that texts I still get regularly from ex friends and lovers whom I've cut out either irritate me or simply make me smirk at this point. I'd never change my number though... fuck them, it's my number, not theirs.

thank you everyon you've been very helpful...im going to leave this alone for a while....see what happns... thanks again!!

Posted by libra_lis
i mean iv been txtng him for months with no reply and still he hasnt changd his number...is that a good sign?

i think that's your answer right there. you'd know if he was interested, trust me. don't set yourself up to be hurt.