Cancer male needs cap woman advice

So I've known this girl for almost a year now, she works right door to me. She's always been somewhat of a jekyll/hyde case, where at work she's super concentrated and serious and doesn't pay me too much mind when I'm around. But when we go out to lunch or we're hanging out...she's a different person: more open, more comfortable being herself and expressing herself and more energetic.

Me and her always have been able to have easy, smooth and varying conversations. Half of the time we'll talk about work..and i'll open up and talk to her about my dreams, my goals and challenges that I face. She's told me some about her goals/dreams but she's still fairly young and this is her first job, so I'm sure she's developing her own ideas about her future.

This is the only hang up with her: I like her and she knows it...but she doesn't openly express how she feels. The first time I told her how i felt, it was an emotionally charged one-way conversation where I told her how I felt and was basically demanding some kind of expression from her..but she was overwhelmed and could only tell me she didn't know. I left it at that. We eventually started talking again after a week or so. Then the second time, which was a few weeks ago, I decided to write her a letter in which I told her (again) that I liked her more than just friends, that I enjoyed her company, that I respected her as a person and I wanted to know if she felt the same for me. She didn't give me any kind of response, in which I withdrew (again) for a while. When I pulled her aside a few weeks later and candidly asked her why she didn't give me a response, I asked her if she didn't feel that way towards me and she said no, that she doesn't. Fine, not a problem.

Only problem in this equation now is my heart. My heart compels me to stick around, to keep in contact. I can't completely withdraw myself. Each time I do withdraw and we start talking again...its almost inevitable that I can't resist wanting to open my heart to her again. There's so much energy and love that I'd like to share with her..but its like she makes herself unavailable. The main reason my heart compels me to stick around is because I feel that most of the time there's more brewing underneath her surface than what meets the eye. I feel that perhaps she does like me...but can't be completely open or honest with me for whatever reason. This led me to that first emotionally charged phone call.

I know I'm not the most aggressive guy out there as far as just going after what I want. Before I make a move, I need to know that my advance will be well received...if not...I'll keep straddling indirectly until I see/feel there's an opening. Thing is she already knows how I feel towards her...so I think I'm justified in waiting for her to say something to me. Problem is...I'll feel she wants to express something...either physically or verbally...but she just wont...but if only she would.

Just yesterday we hung out after work for the first time...she took me to the bank to deposit my check and we walked around the mall for a while. After the mall when she was about to take me home...I asked her if she wanted to hang out somewhere and she said sure...so I directed us to my old middle school so we could sit on the hill and watch the sunset. Sunset wasn't too great and it was a lil bit chilly so instead we walked around the school and found fun things to do/talk about. We both enjoyed just being kids out there yesterday and having fun. She doesn't mind me touching her and she wasn't too timid to touch me playfully. I think its undeniable that we both enjoy each others company...I just don't see why we can't be more than just friends. It pains me to be able to open my heart to her, yet not get any response. In turn, I distrust her little by little each time we ebb and flow. Her lack of honest or expression is the main thing that holds me back and makes me want to put my wall back up. Yesterday when we were together, I didn't make any advances...although I felt a couple of times she may have wanted me to.

In short...I just wanna show this cappy girl everything I've got to offer...BUT...she's gotta let me know that she wants me.

What do you ladies think of this situation?

Hey marcus

I'm a cappy girl and I've had some cappy guys fall for me. I wasn't interested in them for some reasons that I can definately pin point.

For one, even though these guys were very attractive and hardworking -- typical male capricorn characteristic, they came on too strong and way too "mushy" for my liking.

If you want to get a Cappy girls attention, start with her eyes... this means LOOK GOOD, LOOK LIKE YOU COST a million bucks and definately DO give her a bunch of compliments and mushy sentimental greetings and conversation.

Tease her a little bit, because if she's a very attractive female she's probably use to guys putting her on a pedestal. Females do not like to be placed on a pedestal...well, because we fall off.

So find little things to tease her about. I find that the guys I usually fall for (as a cappy chick) are the guys who don't take me too serious. They joke around with me, laugh at my faults and keep conversation very interesting and light. Capricorn women like to laugh, even though they may not laugh enough. So think of ways to put a big laughing smile on her face.

Cut the mushy stuff down to a minimum... I mean, really cut it down.

OMG... Correction

DO NOT give her a bunch of compliments

Youre describing what is not an ideal situation for a cap. You work together, she feels comfortable with you and trusts you and confides in your, then you pour your heart out to her about your feelings.... now that would be guaranteed to turn me off and make me really uncomfortable. If I were in that position I would want to avoid you and our friendship would never be the same. She must be a bit more laid back than i am about work relationships. But I think caps in general are not into mixing business with pleasure unless the passion is truly irresistible and even then they always regret it. Last thing we need is to have emotional distractions at work. I go to work to get away from the emotional dramas of relationships. It's an escape from all that. The way to approach a cap woman is to either bowl her off her feet with passion or to gently charm her and intrigue her so that she wants more and yearns for you. The pouring out of feelings has never worked for me. May work for more emotional signs. I dont know about other caps but I like a bit of chase and mutual flirtation from the start. Friends turning into dating never seems to work out for me. Always seems awkward and artificial. You either have a spark from the start or you are not going to get anywhere with caps. It's all or nothing.

eh...i think I'm gonna have to take you guys advice and just let it be and leave it alone. I like her as a person and most everything about her but I can't force her. Disappointing but it is what it is. Thanks for you help