cap girl and pisces boy

hi, i am portuguese so, if my writting isn?t as good as yours, i am so sorry... but i need some advice! i dated a pisces man for one year. we were going to move in together, talked about having kids and made a lot of plans together. suddenly, one month before we bought the house (i was buying it alone he was just moving in with me) he started saying he didn?t know if he loved me enough, and wondered if after 15 years we would still be together, if i was the women of his life because we were together everiday but not making fun stuff, just watching television and playing games (cards...). so he just said that meaby this was a big step for him, meaby we were moving too fast, bla bla bla bla... and then he talked to me about his ex-pisces girlfriend who he dated for five years. she called him 2 month ago and he started having doubts... although he didin?t make up his mind he would still call me everiday and wanted to meet. and i was so cared that he would leave that i pushed him into making a decision... he said he misses me, that he was thinking about me all day long, but he didn?t make up his mind about us yet. two days later, as he realised i was a bit indiferent to him and i said, well, this isn?t dating, this isn?t a relationship, i don?t want someone with doubts with me... he got scared and left a marvelous message in my telephone saying he is so sorry for what he did, that he hoped i could forgive him, that he had no doubt, and no doubt at all about me being the wopman of his life. he said he wanted to have kids withe me live with me and that he must have been drunk or bumped his head to have done what he did. i was happy but didn?t run to his arms like crazy... i met him that night and i asked one million questions about why he did what he did, if the ghost of the girlfriend was still there, bla bla bla... he said it was just a ghost that girld and that he could only see some future with me and that without me he would go insane.i think i just scared him away with all my questions because theree days later he stoped calling and then i called him and he broke up saying that it wasn?t wort to deny his heart, that he just told me all those wonderfull things because i wanted to hear them, and that he hoped i would find someone who really loves me and that now he just wanted to be with his friends and in his boat (he likes sailling). he also said i was too possessive and that he needed more space/freedom.
I am 29 and he is 27... now i have a broken heart and i don?t know what should i do!!!! is he just affraid?? he always said he loved me, and with that gril, he could never say that word because she wouldn?t let him... does he need my support and sould i be more "light" and romantic, or should i just walk away— as a capricorn, i realy opened up to this guy and i know he is my one true lifetime love.

woa, your story is touching.
Im Pisces male,
and i think he has the same problem facing all pisces,
We go into relationships very very VERY slowly,
and were all over the place at first.....
and even after years can start acting wierd about somting serious like marriage,...
or anything serious like that,....
its like a defense from being hurt or going into a destructive relationship.....

I think he realised that maybe he wants a more carefree less possesive partner but being me,...
i feel comfort from over protective partners....

he might just be doubting the whole thing....


...And you english is fine 🙂

hoped i helped any..

Pisces are very fickle at times...

hi, mikeandhisdreams 🙂

well, my answer has many hours of delay, because i am across the atlantic ... 🙂 so it?s hard to keep up a "conversation". First of all, thanks for all your advice and atention about my problem. It?s funny how people we don?t know can be interested in helping! i wish people were like that everiday in life.
And form what you wrote i can see the problem... he told me that he wasn?t sure i was the women he wanted to with for a lifetime he said: and what if it goes wrong, what if we get tired of each other, what if what if what if... and in the particular moment we were living, i was more worried about helping him, because i think i became his engine, i did almost everything for him, he still studies, and can you imagine, i even did his papers so he could pass... i was totaly and compleactly dedicated to this guy, in a way i never was with no one.. and he had my strong support in everything. but, i failed in the romancing and making him dream part... i dreamed about marriage, about kids, and not about just living the moment with him. so, we were almost everiday together, me on a sofa, him in the other sofa, watching tv... or playing cards, or pocker, or... we never went out together to dance or to a bar or... and so what he can imagine in the future is 2 people who are in the sofa watching tv, or just eating or playing... i don?t know how could i be so stupid and not realise that like that a relationship dies. about that pisces girl, she never let him use the word love towards her, cause she din?t understand the meaning of it and with me he could say it. he even said that it was just someting that would have to come out cause it had no chance of being stuck inside him! and it was so simple... so, she has that thing you said about pisces... she was very very slow realising she loved him and meaby afraid 2. so she broke with him and now after a year she already took her time to really realising she wants to go into the relationship...


"and even after years can start acting wierd about somting serious like marriage,...
or anything serious like that,....
its like a defense from being hurt or going into a destructive relationship....."
being hurt, there is no chance, i would do that to him and he knows it... about the destructive relationship, meaby there he has a point!

Well, you sure helped, and once more, thank you a lot for your advice. i really apreciated it. and i just hope you are right and that he really finds out that i can give him hapiness... (if he is like you, he will;

🙂

F-k him,Make up his mind for him he needs to stop being selfesh,grow up and make a decision.Does everytime an ex of yours calls does that make you want to run back to them?He's got to do it himself.If you play along with his games there's a possibilty of of him walking all over you with it,everytime he gets bored with you he's going to go back to her and vice versa.Thier great at letting people who have emotional attachments to them make up thier minds for them.That girl probably called again in those three days or she showed up.They do cheat too.Do you really want a unstable relationship?Worry about yourself and find someone who will give you the respect and "worth" that you deserve.You shouldn't have to act like your happy that he hurt you.

I ditto Tia 😉

Hi Tiamat

I agree with the F-k him part! Lol. What you said really made sense to me.
So you think that by saying that "Thier great at letting people who have emotional attachments to them make up thier minds for them", that meaby that is what she is doing to him. And as she broke up with him without warning, suddenly after 5 years she woke up and was tired of his behaviour? they were going on vacations and he didn?t make any plans with her as he doesn?t make plans with anyone? he appears at what time he wants? the part of cheating too I also believe, but I don?t think he is with her yet? she?s been calling, and I don?t know if it is more than that. But the important part is that he sais he likes her not me, and that he didn?t forget her, he diddn?t have enough time to let her go and got envolved with me 3 months after she broke up with him. and then, as we were moving in together, he also got scared, so i think it was all of that that ushed him away.

mikeandhisdreams

when you say he must be doubting the whole thing, i can almost agree but what about him saying now that he likes his ex? one year later...? and in the beginning she would call him for cofee or send him a sms on his birtday at midnight and he wouldn?t be with her... and now, this.

yea i agree with tia Completely dont get me wrong,
He still is a (F*** idiot) but* it would be better to understand than to just consider him being selfish...
You cant always say f---him and thats that....
you never know the reasons...

Just keep an open mind...


thats all



and good luck..

Ssssh your not supposed to tell her mike.She should be mad,besides sometimes it makes it easier and less painfull for the women in these situations.Either way it looks a little shady and unsteady on any type of call so she should probably concentrate on herself more.Also not everyone is willing to play themselves which believe it or not some pisces do do to people.Thier so stuck in the past that they don't acknowledge what they do to people thier involved with.She seems to know what she wants out of life so it would probably be a good idea to worry about those things rather than having her heart toyed(unintentional or not) with by an indecisive pisces.She seems to have a good understanding of his side already.Really I am a pisces lover but you guys can be urking sometimes when it comes to other peoples hearts.I think they work well with me because I don't expect much from them when I meet them,they usually have to win me over.Since it's an astrology site and I guess it's okay to use excuses like this,I have sag rising yeah,thats it.

Im a freak yeah,noone has to tell me.

No your not.
Your sag risin' is to blame!
heeeheee just kidding.
I acknowladge what your saying but im kinda still in denial about being Pisces.
I swear im way to fiery and blunt and on the move to be a pisces.
and my chart has only water and earth, one scorpio two sagg's and north node Aries.....cancer rising...
its wierd i think it was the way i was brought up with an aries mother,....
people swear i cannot be a pisces but its true.

🙂

mikeandhisdreams and Tiamat
sorry i wasn?t able to resply sooner, but i had a lot of work the past days... Tiamat you are right when you say i should concentrate on me. that?s exacly what i am going to do! i am going to try not to waist more time with someone that doesn?t need me at all!!!!
and mikeandhisdreams yes, we never know the reasons, but it?s clear that he no longer wants my company, so... let him live his life and i will live mine 🙂)))
thanks a lot both of you***

You have taurus mars don't you mike?Tauruses are blunt little fcukers,I also have a taurus in my moon,but there's still alot of of sag and a leo mars in there so I don't know what sign is to blame in my charts.Sag is supposed to be blunt as hell too.Dunno,Im working on the blunt stuff though,gotta learn to play nice.Tacts good good thing.

yea heres my chart,

Cancer Rising

i read womwhere north node aries can make me want to be the leader and tell people what to do makes me feel comfortable.
Ill be 100 percent honest astrology aside im very ordering and feel at ease telling people to carry out tasks for me.
not for my own laziness though,.....like lets say some prject im usually spearheading it. and my aries friend can barely keep up with me more than half of the time witch is very very odd.
I get this energy from somwhere im like unstoppable most of the time....
its really wierd i cant ecxpalin it.
my rising is cancer so that could be one factor it is cardinal and north node aries....
capricorns in my chart....
ill let you decide.🙂

the girl i liked had a very very similar chart.....accept she had aquarius moon and alot of fire....
wich could explain her helpless crushes on fire signs...