Cap. Man - Cap. Woman

Enigmanaupe posted a thread/question on this combination, and I wanted to provide my experience with it.

I'm a Cap. female (age 35) with Cap. merc and Cap. venus also-- Sag. moon. Anyway, I've been involved or dealing with a Cap. male for 9 months (who has Pisces Venus, Cap. Mars, Sag. moon). We have an amazing connection with our synastry aspects and all but the control and power struggles have been horrible. After spending time together for 3 weeks, which were great, we started playing serious games due to him trying to break through my aloof, cool facade/exterior and me being unwilling or not ready to submit and reveal myself and my feelings. His tactics he used to get me to open up were pretty harsh and my sensitive side (Cancer rising, pisces mars, etc.) did not take well to it. I dumped him. Then let him back in after teaching him a lesson. But then we've been unable to let down our walls and really come together to the same degree that we were during those initial weeks.

The connection is amazing on all levels- And there's this intuitiveness and almost a psychic connection between us when we're together. That's what keeps us coming back and giving it another shot. But he runs scared, or at least keeps his distance and space with the typical days of disappearing, and I would then react coldly and sometimes harshly when he resurfaced. I am getting over this and starting to understand and accept it.

Anyway-- all in all, the Cap-Cap thing is TOUGH! The struggle for control and moreso, the ability of both to maintain calmness and coolness on the surface and act like you just don't care are huge obstacles to overcome. Let me know if you have any questions or insight.

jude law and his girlfreind sienna miller are both caps and there relationship died,....
he cheated on her with the nanny lol.

Classy jude , Classy......

Ah....what's love got to do with it?

Sorry for being so random but that thought or song title (by Tina Turner - Sag.) just came to me. So, what does love have to do with anything? What the heck is love?

Pondering....yep....pondering yet another question for the moment.

CapGirl - I have my moon in Cap and boy - it can be difficult for me at times and yet, it serves me very well. I really don't let a whole lot of stuff bother me...it is what it is for that moment and I let it be and I let it go. I had a Cap/Aquar-cusp. male friend who was soooo different than my other Cappy Gentleman. This first guy always talked so bad about his ex wife and ex girlfriends that I knew off the bat that he still had "woman" issues and I was not about to get involved with him. This is one HUGE clue ladies about men...LISTEN to how they speak of past relationships..if they have not successfully healed from the past they most likely are still carrying the anger, resentment and other trash with them which will usually be applied when dating the new woman. Ah carumba!!!! takes all kinds I suppose. I got off track there..pls. excuse - the weather is very warm here and I suspect that my brain cells have been cooked a min. longer than usual.

I so understand and relate to your situation with your cap man...push and pull...hide the emotions, protect yourself - yeah, been there done that and at times I am still that way till I FEEL comfortable with someone - if not, there is NO getting me to open up and express my feelings - I am not into mind games and if I even think that a man is beginning to play them with me well.....I am outta there and no looking back for me.

I wish you the best Cappy friend - keep us posted 🙂

CapGirl,

First, let me say "Thank You" for responding to my question. With few Capricorn women talking about Capricorn men, I knew it may take a minute before someone actually answered it.

When I initially asked the question, I was going through something fierce with my girlfriend, who is also a Capricorn. We had tussled a bit and I was trying to teach her a lesson. I basically refused to call her until she saw the errors of her ways. Needless to say, she was just as stubborn and bent on teaching as I was. That's NOT good. Two people so stubborn and in search of control cannot function like that. I ended up giving in...maybe it's because of my Virgo tendencies. Anywho, we're doing better, but trying to make a long distance relationship work is tough enough, but when you add stubborness it only gets worse.

I'd like to hear more from you in the future. Please, keep it coming.