Cap Men

How long will you wait for someone if you think/believe they are the one you want? What tells you it's not going to happen? What do you look for in a partner? Is it practical or are you looking for true love? Bearing in mind this is an evolved Cap...somewhat lol

Some incite to the Capricorn mind please, I don't know much about them.

Woman feel free to chime in.

"How long will you wait for someone if you think/believe they are the one you want?"




.........Half century?

Your question made me think of Bill Masters (from "Masters of sex"), who was a typical Capricorn. Age seventy-six, he "wed his beloved Dody, the girl he had adored during summers at Rainbow Lake a half century earlier."

Actually, he didn't plan to wait that long. His initial proposal, half century earlier (roses and letter), went so wrong that she completely missed it! He interpreted her silence as rejection. She married someone else.

So yeah, you've got to pay attention.....🙂.

My ex husband waited on one of his girlfriends for 8 years. She was at college or something in another country. He is not American though. I do not think an American man would wait long.

Probably longer than we should. But, the right one is the right one.

And, practicality is true love to the Cap. (most of the time)

So what will then get through to you to not wait and find someone else?

I think M answered it best. We are a very patient species, provided there are no red flags.

Weird? I guess I've felt like this with a pisces a while back, where I would have hung on for sometime waiting...

I just don't get it with him. It's not like he is romantically falling over me (or it doesn't seem like it) he invites me out but never a one on one, always within a group situation. Christmas Eve he invited me over for a BBQ and said that we'd eat and then take his boat down the canal and look at all the Christmas lights on the houses. Was fantastic and really different, there was 7 of us and he was talking to a couple of the girls about the ride being a romantic setting...later he said, this was for you??

But, It feels more like he wants someone to take care of him and guide him with his life. ie: his son, business, and life in general and he thinks because I have my life together I could help him get his sorted.

I'm not playing the forget me card, rather, keeping my distance and only taking up on his invitations once every 6 weeks or so.

M knows what he's talking about. He's lived through a similar situation.

Posted by Lucciferi


Speak all dat truf, dawggy

You funny dawggy 🙂

Posted by CluelessCancer
Did he also marry someone else? Otherwise he's a LOSER.

He was married for 20+ years to Virginia Johnson, the woman who helped his research career. "This unlikely team changed the way we all thought about, talked about, and engaged in sex".

He asked for a divorce on Christmas Eve, seemingly out of the blue.

As long as it takes for me to realize that. It could be 5 years for all I care (to which that did happen). But I take my sweet time with everyone I date, never rush.

So what are you waiting for?? For them to come to their senses and see you after all these years? If you have been friend zoned, isn't that telling enough? (Sorry, this is the way I would feel)

I want and believe in the love at first sight or the thrill of when you meet someone you just know, you feel the butterflies or loose confidence around them and can't string two words together because they make you feel nervous or self conscious and excited! Don't you want that too?

Is it then wrong or cruel of me to keep hanging out with him then? I only hang out in a group situation, normally at his for dinner and drinks and only every 3rd invitation (approx 6 weeks apart)

I really like him and his sister as friends and they are fun to be around. Always lots of laughter and a good night.

That's what I'm not sure about, how much he does like me. He's joked about marrying me when we were having a group discussion about my permanent residency status. He puts it all on and cooks when I go over when normally his sister does it all. He makes his son greet me and and talk to me. (kids nose is normally stuck in a computer game of sorts) His comment the other night...Little things I have noticed that is reserved for my attention. But then he has said that he thinks of me as a really good friend, this after we had sex a couple months ago. I'm not sure if you know the history here but he was a brief FWB 3 or 4 years ago and didn't want to be alone. I rejected a relationship and he jumped straight into another. When that broke down, he came looking for me at my mums and has said and reminisced that he should have listened to me when I warned him about what he was getting himself into. Remembers a lot of what we talked about in the couple of times we spent together back then.

This is why I feel, he's looking for guidance in life from a partner...me, and he has stated that is what he needs to keep him on track. Someone sensible to pull him back in line. Dudes money falls through his fingers, he has his own business, his kid is without guidance because a weekend dad always gives too much to make up for the time they are not around. He goes out on the town and doesn't get back until the next morning...like 9-11am and then for the next 2-3 days suffers and always with regret. Sometimes bringing randoms home!

I've crossed the line again and selfishly but I know I'm not in it for a relationship, wasn't back then nor now...he feels like a friend, a fun one to have around that I am comfortable with.

Birthday is January 8th. Don't know any more details than that.

He's always had the crush on me since I met him some 10 years ago, even when he was married. I just thought he was the friendly neighbour 🙂

I personally think he thinks I can fix his life...but I don't want to fix anyone and as I said, I want the butterflies and the excitement personally, so I'll keep my distance and enjoy his company sparingly.

thanks for your insight and advice.

Posted by sweethearts
I want the butterflies and the excitement personally, so I'll keep my distance and enjoy his company sparingly.

You could try bungee jumping together 🙂!

Seriously now, one of the most useful things I've learned from dating, was that butterflies and excitement are weightless and unreliable, whereas a sense of commitment is more indicative of long lasting love.

Obviously, if it's just friendship you feel towards him, this is it. No need to dig any further.

How long will you wait for someone if you think/believe they are the one you want? What tells you it's not going to happen? What do you look for in a partner? Is it practical or are you looking for true love? Bearing in mind this is an evolved Cap...somewhat lol

I used to think I would wait a long time to be with someone if i thought that they were the one for me then I met my fist love and realise what a load crap that this was and had to let him go coz i realised it wouldnt work out as we werent the ones for each other no matter how much I loved him and missed him and thought of him or anything like that, it was like as if the universe was conspiring against us for us not to be together no matter how hard I tried to be with him. I have never been the same since and never will be the same ever again because of what other people who 'think they know best' for me did to me. You took my first love away from me and told to get over it and refused to acknowledge that what I felt for this guy was real at all. You shamed me in what it was I was feeling and made me not speak about him coz if i ever did he would get hurt or i coudnt see him or we'd be grounded somehow, you'd tell me it was 'puppy' love and I didnt know what love was etcetc and continously undermined me with underhanded and manipulative tactics to get me out of his life and then when he left to go to his fathers that was the day you people secretly had a party and pat yourselfs on the back for a job well done not knowing that you never won anyway you never succeeded in getting me to never love the guy ever.

I will always love my first love and that will never change so sucked into that fuckers

Ok it was about 5/6 years + before I actually realised that I must get on with my life so that this fuckers wouldnt get to me or him. i still love an will always this will not change no matter who i end up with or be with next same goes for myex's.

I cant speak for other caps but once i love someone I love forever and that will not change how can it? I'll I have to realise that sometimes even though you may love someone that it wont work out at all when you have fuxckers like them trying to break yous up all the time and stick their nose into you business even when not wanted or called for.

Nasty hows and just pathetic really.