Cap Pole (Male)

Ok I know you can find a lot of general stuff online but I would appreciate it directly from the guys
Please answer from a selfish point of view, as in the way you feel about yourself not even the way you think someone wants you to be. Theres no right/wrong answer
I am looking for raw true cap 🙂🙂


When you are home assmuing you dont want time alone at the moment and excluding sex (no brainer lol) what would you most like to be doing?

What is you most loved article(s) of clothing include color fabric and why if possible
oh and its what you like best even if your wife or gf hates it/them (the ladies are laughing right now and rolling eyes)

when you are out or at home with your sig other (current or ex), do you just remain near each other casually or are you more likely to put an arm over her chair or hold her hand/waist etc. Sort of in a posessive in the nice way manner, do you like dislike public displays of affection?

I know work is so very important. and the answer in your head is probably she should realize I dont want to be distracted from work..but what could distract you from work enough to want to spend a moment with/talking to her just because.

You seem to be a sign in it for the long term love, what things would change that in a major way excluding her cheating?

simple things, simple food, simple people or variety yay! which is more you? why?

what are three deal breakers you wont compromise on with someone you are with or considering?

grooming (yourself) somewhat important - average important - very important

what one thing did a past or current or potential love do or say that touched you in a major way?

What are the things in all your deep considering and processing that are most necessary for you to consider a woman to be someon you could be with long term


seeing yourself..what do you want to, hope to and expect to be and what makes you happy to be for your sig other

do caps have a achillies heel in the form of a vice? are you more likely to drink a little too much, eat a little too much, spoil for an argument when youre grumpy be it with co workers or family?

what sign knocked you head over heel the most in your life?

thanks guys 😉

oh, how long on average does / has it take you to fall in love or in like very much
days weeks months years?


do you prefer to initiate lovemaking or for your POI to initiate or some of both?

Do you need to be in charge in this area or do you like to trade the whos in charge tonight (sry couldnt think of another way to say that)

Do you prefer to share planning wedding, family events like vacations and making a home or do you prefer the wife/fiancee/gf to consult you for agreement but do most of "those kind of things"

O M G !! LOLLLL I said pole * rolls around laughing * sry theres no edit button haha

you can tell whats on MY subconcious ellesque 😛

I was thinking he might make for a good dancing pole 😉

Pole vaulting lol - you girls are funny

So where are the guys? I need answers?

Thank you so much for the answers 🙂
You know? For a minute you seemed familiar lol I guess it IS a Cap thing.

#11 seeing yourself..means in your opinion, in your own heart..
what do you WANT to be to/for her
What do you HOPE to be in her world
What do you EXPECT to be in her world
and what makes you happy inside with y

meaning (the words in CAPS) in your own mind this is your need to be to feel you are what you want to be in someones world

I guess from MHO, theres a lot of people here myself included, understandably asking what can I be/do to be right for him?

But I think..if you have an understanding and an appreciation for what your man of interest needs to be and feel in himself with regards to his relationship, and you can help him achieve that by understanding him and how he sees himself and his own needs then it answers a lot of other questions.

^^ sry typo..


BTW your responses made me smile in a warm way. You sound like a nice guy. You remind me of my interest the way you express things.

"(not to be confused with a charming nonsensical)".

#1 Most of the time that I don't spend at my real work I spend working on other things. The recreation so many others seem to be able to enjoy is just completely foreign to me. About the closest I come to it you might be able to find me with a good educational/intellectual book??_the Phaedo comes to mind??_a nice adult beverage and some classical music in the background.

#2 I'm not attached to clothing/fabrics.

#3 I??d be as close as was appropriate for whatever we??re doing at the time. I'm not clingy and could never be with anyone who was. Not a fan of PDA, although in the right atmosphere I might walk down the street or stop to watch whatever with my arm(s) around her.

#4 If work needs to be done, it needs to be done and I won't be distracted from accomplishing it. We??ll do whatever when work is finished.

#5 To attempt the compilation of an all-encompassing list of those things that would prove to be deal-breakers is an impossible task.

#6 My taste is elegant and refined, but practical??_always practical. A few wild things/people need to be thrown in the mix to spice life up a bit, though.

#7 Reference #5 above. Near the top of this list is an unwillingness to listen to reason, which includes changing your mind when you are made aware that whatever you think/believe is irrational/illogical/stupid.

#8 If you don't want me to treat/talk to you as though you??re a slob, you??d best not look like one.

#9 The most touching thing I??ve ever heard anyone say was, —I miss you??. It's simple, but it's real, and it's powerful.

#10 She needs to have that je nais se quoi. To be beautiful to me (physically and as a person). And to make me want to be an optimist.

#11 Your attempted explanation of this is still unclear, but if I catch your drift??_I would need to be the perfect complement to her, and her to me. This is not something I would want or hope to be??_I either would be or I wouldn't. If I'm not, we??re not right for each other and need to keep looking.

#12 Vices are individual. I don't think any signs are predisposed to any particular vices.

#13 Libras are a fatal attraction.

#14 It takes just as long as it takes, and that is exactly the right amount of time.

#15 Ambivalent.

#16 Mostly ambivalent. I'm perfectly content for someone else to do all the planning as long I get to veto anything I'm absolutely against.

Thanks 🙂
"And to make me want to be an optimist."
I like that. Thats a good pair of glasses to look at how you act towards your S/O with.