cap with commitment issues.....

I'm having such similar issues, except I'm not sure if my cappie is still interested. I know that drained, exhausting feeling and I'm confused as well. Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to go through this too 😢

Posted by vir22
I'm having such similar issues, except I'm not sure if my cappie is still interested. I know that drained, exhausting feeling and I'm confused as well. Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to go through this too 😢

I'm sorry to hear.awww you're doing most of the work?

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
I'm feeling emotionally drained an exhausted with my virguy as well. its almost like i feel dead inside. I've spilled my heart to him and he is gone again and i don't even have the strength to reach out and text him. I'm always met with the same responses so why keep repeating over and over. I feel like I am on an uphill treadmill and its getting harder to run. I am at a complete standstill right now. I am simply just feeling heartbroken.

I'm sooo sorry to hear.It's the worst feeling in the world because you feel unwanted and then you start finding faults in yourself.But it's them with all the issues and baggage and we're pretty much setting ourselves up to get hurt :/

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Thank you and i know its hard for you too. 🙂 my feeling right now is that ive run a race and tried to run it good but ive lost.. Ive made mistakes along the way. Critical mistakes. In addition this person has hurt me. Right now my feeling >>>defeated. Im a fighter too. But Im tired. Sooo tired.

awwwwww I think you should stop fighting seems like you've done alot for him.It's his turn now 🙂

*passes out tissues*

Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Us girls will vent our emotions as much and as often as we want to on this site. Deal with it.

That seems kind of aggressive. This is the second thread I've seen where you've made a comment similar to this. Are you feeling like you're not getting support on DXP? Has someone told you to stop venting? I just don't see where this comment fits in with this thread.

Or have you been told to move and you flat out don't want to and are tired of hearing it?

Posted by HappyEndGirl
We've been together for 8 months and he told me he has commitment issues cause he was hurt in the past so now he's trying to push me away by being mean and rude to me.on purpose because he's falling in love with me and that scares him.he also told.me he doesnt feel good enough for me cause there are all these other guys who are handsome and rich that want me. idk what to do 😢I try to prove to him I won't hurt him or find another guy but he still pushes me away.I always keep proving and proving and I feel guilt most of the time because I feel like I'm doing something wrong or I should do more.Like when i message him and he doestn respond i start to feel guilt like ive said or done the wrong thing or i didnt give him enough attention.But he ignores my texts at times and writes to me on his time.I'm so emotionally exhausted and drained😢I've done everything i could to prove to him that i love him and only him and dont need any other men.guys idk what to do anymore😭should I just wait for him to contact and initiate everything?I'm so confused 😢

I think he's being honest. Sometimes when we have baggage carried over from previous relationships, it actually does take us more time to trust and it takes someone with a lot of patience to wait for us to be ready. 8 months isn't very long to build the kind of foundation that he needs. Caps take a lot of time observing and learning about someone and we can only do that as situations arise to see how you're going to handle it and to learn the core and consistency of your personality. Not many people are willing to wait it out. And with his history, it's going to take him longer. Believe me I know from my own personal experiences that it takes me longer to trust someone.

My advice is to try to stop proving. You're trying too hard and it might be pushing him away. With trying too hard, desparation comes into play and that's not how you want to come across. Caps need a confident, independent type and we won't be pushed into anything.

As far as the texts. He is responding, so that's a good sign. Although it isn't as fast as you want, realize he is not flat out ignoring you. Sometimes we get busy or distracted. And there are times I either don't feel like communicating or I have nothing to say. When he does respond, just be friendly and warm and let him know you were happy to hear from him.

So, live yo

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So, live your life. Do your thing. Hang out with friends. Give him space. Don't initiate too much - let him miss you and he'll contact you. Be patient. Be friendly. Be sweet. Be fun. Be interesting. Also, if it gets to be too much, it's okay to call him on his crap, but in a logical, non-emotional and non-confrontational way.

I think you should give him more time.

I understand how u feel as I am experiencing what u experienced. Its draining and live u feeling confused. But if he will distance him self and won't be with u often how could he know u are the girl that he wants? Maybe us girls should stop doing and giving everything for these cap men. Sustain our self worth and dignity

Yes. ^^^^^^

Stop giving so much with little in return. The less you give the more they want you.