Capman & work partner

I have been reading your posts for and unfortunately too late, as I recently asked my capman to take some time to see if he missed me and if he could see me in his future, and if he didn't, that I would need to let him go. Now I wonder if I should have just gone with the flow, I just was feeling a little used when I would not hear from him until he wanted to see me....I didn't like the feel of a booty call.

The next complication is that I work with him on a special project about every two months or so(that's about how often we would hook up, though one time he wanted just to see me without a project to work on). I needed to know if he is going to be o.k. working with me, or else I could or he could for that matter, find new team mates.

The truth is I still really want him in my life, but I don't want to feel used, and I absolutely cannot handle it if he is also dating other women at the same time. But now that I have more or less ended things, as he has not called to tell me he misses me. I worry that I should never have asked him for some sort of emotional commitment, and that I shouldn't have stated that I would have to let him go. None the less, what's done is done, and I can't take it back. Or can I—

I called him today and lft him a msg saying that I want just ck'ing to see how he is doing and also wondering if he is thinking we should find new project partners.

Do you think it's too late to spark things again with him? or even just be friends? If I am unemotional and professional, should I encourage him to continue working with me??

Your input would be greatly appreciated 🙂

P.S. I get a kick out of the posts on this site, I wish I had found it earlier!!

Oh my goodness! He called me back and said he was sorry he didn't have much chance to call me and explained how he had been burning the midnight oil and working really lond days. He said he definetely wanted to work on the project together, but that even if there wasn't a project to work on that he wanted to spend time with me.

I took my cue from an earlier post and told him I was o.k. with where we were, and that I was very happy to have him in my life (mostly because that best described how I really felt, I just didn't realize it could be so simple!!), He responded by saying that he really liked me a lot and that he was happy to have me in his life too.

We talked for a couple of hours and he was so sweet and caring. He opened up to me about a lot that has been on his mind and I told him all that had gone on in my life since we last spoke. I had a wonderful time went to sleep dreaming about him. He is so hot, and suuuuch a goood lover, he is just the complete package I have been waiting for so long. I just need to be more patient and understanding and trusting. I sure do luv him.....don't wake me up just yet, I'm enjoying this thru and thru.

Thanks to all of you that share your insights into what works and what doesn't. For me, I think it has helped me get to the next step towards a lasting relationship.....

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