Capricorn male and sex

Oh shyt... why'd the topics have to get so juicy, after I decided to stop reading and posting?!! Now, I can't resist...

It was only a one-time encounter, but kind of robotic... Propped up like he was doing push-ups over me. But still intense, bc. of the connection overall. Passionate in the foreplay. It had alot of promise!

You seem like a typical male Cap. sex fiend, posting this new topic, for your own erotic reading! ; ) haha

heaven on earth...heaven on earth....

No... I wanted more, but we were both playing too many games and too insecure to have it happen it again. Alot of power plays going on. He wouldn't go down, told me 'no', I got pissy; he thought months later on that's why I wouldn't hook up w/ him again so he tried to entice me with that. But then I said that I wasn't THAT into that; I just didn't like being told 'no'! hehe

Anyway... the sex was more of a mental/emotional/spiritual connection than physical.

the BEST I have ever had.......ooooooo I still get chills thinking about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

p.s. "capman" I left you a comment in "missing him like crazy"



ogosh now see why did you have to go and start a topic like this!!!

WHOOOOOS BACK!!! HA HA HA CAPGIRL


love, GEG

oooo and that other part...... AWESOME 🙂

ogosh I should not be talking about this......

Hi, GEGger! Yea... I'm getting all nice and worked up before going and watching 'the Bachelor' (eye-candy) finale!! A typical Cap. man doing a tease number on us!! lol

ha ha ha well Im glad to see you are back!! I feel like some nice changes are coming out way!! Im all excited inside and I dont know why? (ha ha and NO its not all the sex talk) I have been having this happy feeling all day!!!!! I was supposed to come and clen house tonight (kids are with dad) but i feel to damn good for that!! LOL think i may go light some candels and take a hot bubble bath and drink a BEER instead!! 😉
well you have fun watching your show!! lol is he a cap? ha ha ah should we call the show and have them recomend this site to the one he chooses!!! J/k WE LOVE ALL YOU CAP-MEN


love, GEG

Hmmm.... I will find out, GEG, off the ABC website. I peg him for a Libra or some other air or fire sign though!

(I wasn't even gone one day off this site! It is addictive as heck!)

I like how baby-goat didn't pick up his mail.... Hoo-haaa!!

lol!! me too but yet it was sooooo important to call for it 😉 Im just happy to know he was diggin around for me!! Makes me feel good. At least I know he cares!! So we will see what happens now? What would be your next move? He's soooo stubborn....

I never watch that show it always makes me mad they never choose who i think should be together so i dont even know what he looks like..lol


LOve, GEG

Although I feel this is an odd posting for a man to make, I will respond, in part because I want to share what I think is special and in part because I want to relive one of the best nights of sex I have had in all 31 years of my life. I met my first Capricorn man almost 2 months ago. From the beginning there was a very strong intellectual connection but also a great deal of sexual tension. It was our first meeting, after a drink and great conversation he leaned over and kissed me... not on my lips but on my neck, a lingering kiss that seemed to last forever. I felt his warm breath on my neck, his hand on my cheek and chills went throughout my body. One long kiss followed by one very long look and we both knew we wanted each other. This is what I have learned the Capricorn man does well...he says so much with so very few words. As a woman I find this incredibly sexy...maybe its the strong silent type I love. The best part about this night was that because we are both very cautious capricorns we knew that we were not having sex that night...which leads me to my second favorite sexy part about my cappy man...He loves to be teased and to tease, incredibly sexy and oh so much fun. On our second meeting we went to a sporting event, as we walked in to the arena and were being seated he put his arm around me, leaned down and whispered in my ear "I want you tonight", as I got the chills all over again and struggled to respond...I decided...OK...if you want to tease, I can tease back, my response...."I know you do". Followed by a very, long look and an even longer hockey game. That night, his leg touching mine, his hand holding mine, every look, every smile meant more and must have been the record for the longest public foreplay in history. This cappy loves to tease and well...so do I. So, I will end my story with a final point. That evening was the best sex in my life why...because the cappy man (or at least the one I have) makes it an entire mind and body experience oh, the physcial part is there but it's both mental and physical and the man truly lives to please!!! As a footnote, I'm not naive enough to believe these are only cappy traits these may simply be the signs of a good lover. But...does that really matter— 🙂

Damm you, first you copied my name, and now you've put me into a real state forcing me to desperate measures deep within my nightstand drawer!!! LOL I think you have a very similar thing going on there as I do w/ my Cap. I've had that neck kiss, from up near my ear, tonguing all the way down to the nape of my neck. Sho-weee!!! I was moaning so much, it got him moaning just doing it!

wow! LOL that was greaaat!!!!! lol


love, GEG

capgirl you are so right, my cappy is the same, he loves to put his arm in the small of my back whenever we go somewhere. The last time he took me out to dinner, we were waiting to be seated at the front of the restaurant and out of nowhere he planted me with the most sensous lingering kiss. When he finally finished making me blush, it felt like everyone was looking at us, it felt like he was making a statement, otherwise why didn't he plant it when we walking from the car, right? Then he teased me with our shared food, he would wait until I was ready to take a bite and then he would knock it off my chop stik with a silly grin. It was a wonderful night too and he is the a wonderful lover, he really does have a strong desire to make it good for me and I for him.

"forcing me to desperate measures deep within my nightstand drawer!"
rolling on the floor laughing my a/s/s off!!!!!!! OMG I thin i may have peed my pants laughing so hard!!! can you say I-VIBE RABBIT!!!! ha ha aha ha aha h


but at any rate wasnt all that wonderful... and nothing any of our BOB's (battery operated boyfriends)could ever do......awwwww i miss my baby~



lol
love, GEG (must be the new moon)

Now I'm RMAOLOF, or however that goes! I have the $ 100 Sex & the City Rabbit, and it's worth every penny!! I've been through that much ( $ $ ) in batteries to match! (Oh geezsh, way more info, than I've EVER divulged on here, and I was supposed to be GONE, never to return, well only to check up on you, GEG!)

WoundedLove- just don't lose your self-esteem and think he played you or it was all a conquest... It doesn't sound like it, from what you're describing. Listen to GEG. I don't talk the prayer stuff, but I believe in it and know it's good advice.

OMG CG~ roflmao!!! ha ah aha I was it tooo the PURPLE one!!! way to much info I know!!!! O my what with us tonight!!! LOOK i think we may have scared CAPMAN!!! aww thank you for coming to check one Me 🙂 omg you cant go anywhere who will keep me laughing!!!

love, GEG

I was*=have it too!!

Yep-- PURPLE here too! You pointed out that new moon, and that must be it, and what is accounting for your feelings of excitement and anticipation earlier today! You are a Cap. moon, I can tell that.

I have no idea....all i know is that Iam scared to death of storms and we are having one and I ahve never been more fine!! My heart does not feel empty (maybe that has to with him not calling for his mail) But I feel like something Amazing is going to happen!!

I'm a but peeved right now though... my ex- just came to drop my children off and guess what he has a new HUGE addition to his tatoos which should not bother me except for the fact that he can not cover it up and its nasty flames from his wrist up to the middel of his arm....and on top off that my daughter just informed me that daddys g-friend was at his house for dinner... after we have discussed not having her around...(it upsets JAde my daughter) ARRRRR!!! Oh well he wants to look like white trash let him!! But i mean how is JAde going to feel when he shows up at her graduation looking like a damn biker!! sorry so peeved IM just steamed!!!

anyhoo ya this new moon must be doing somethign crazy to me!!! I want me a baby goat!! he he eh e

love, geg

Daem!..I better call him...lol...Nah we still aren't talking..oh well..I guess I will never know

I always enjoyed sex with my ex Cappy. We were very sexually attracted to eachother so that fueled it even more. It was always passionate with him, never really quick, unless that's how he wanted it. Felt all over, caressed me all over (And i miss that alot) Wonderful kisser after he opens up. Aw, man. Makes me miss him even more. Sex was just heaven on earth!

Hi CapGirl...sorry sweetie I didn't mean to steal your name! I read a few postings, signed up and then realized you posted often...you are the original and I will give you that 🙂 I will not apologize though for making you go to your nightstand drawer. Like I always say, sometimes you just have to take matters into your own hands.

I played a really fun game with my cappy last night. I went to his place after work for dinner (yep he cooked!), after dinner we sat on the sofa talking. He sat first and then patted his knee for me to sit on his lap, I gladly responded and am a true "lap girl" and love to be held. We just talked..about work believe it or not! I thanked him for dinner and said it was a huge turn on to have a guy make me dinner. He quickly said..."oh, how much of a turn on". "Well, on a scale of 1-5 with 5 being very sexy...I would give it a solid "3". Ahhh..."just a 3?" he said. "Uh-huh" great dinner but just a "3". So...what's a "5" then?..smart cappy he is 🙂 For the next hour we went back and forth asking each other sexy, naughty questions and ranking them on our sexy scale. The teasing was incredible and oh so fun! His last question..."on a scale of 1-5 how much of a turn on is it for a guy to pick you up and carry you to his bed". My response...."a 5" 🙂 CapGirl1225

Dear branh....It's too bad you can't get beyond sex with your cappy women, maybe you're too busy treating them as "workers" instead of partners? 🙂

I took a lover test on the relationship board and it came back that I was surprising lover...I guess I never thought of myself that way. have you taken that test capman? Have any of you taken it? if so how did it come back and what do you think of it.

Surprise! 🙂 wl

lol @ woundedlove!

the best sex ever was with my cap ex- the one I am still trying to wipe off my brain. It's like he read a manual or something and he just had this amazing smell and he did this kinda circular thing with his hips I didn't know about until he did it.

That and he used to jump me after a night out. It was like we would walk in the door and suddenly I am flat on my back. I still don't know how he did it. It would be like a flash - one instant I am on my feet and the next I am not. At first I had time to take off my shoes while he poured me a glass of wine. Then it got to where I would find myself flat on my back as soon as we walked through the door, and he would take off my shoes and we would have the glass of wine and talk after the *workout*. Hahaha. One time we were at a restaurant having dinner and were done eating and were having a drink after (like all good drinking cappies). So he asks "should we ask for our coats so we don't have to wait later?" I said, yes, he asks for them, the coats arrive. The next thing he says- "should we get the check now?" I said of course. Then he asks "should we leave after this drink?" I was about to take the second sip of my drink but heard myself say "oh, I am done" - and we left very quickly. This restaurant was was like a block away from his place. I didn't even remember stepping in the door and you guessed it - I was flat on my back.

So I found this top that is very difficult to remove - with like 40 tiny little hooks to unhook one by one before it comes off. I thought that would be fun, with my very tight jeans which are also difficult to remove and the boots that look so sexy but require some skill to remove quickly. Alas he went MIA before I got a chance to torture him with this.

I hope the next guy will be as lusty so I can put the top to good use.

Girl, you are a trip! i love this! i am typing with one hand in the dark at 5 am so bear w/ me! cant sleep but back in bed- mine would be across the room one minute and then suddenly over me kissing me w/o warning. i loved the boldness as back then he didnt even know for sure that id be receptive!

CapGirl I love that, where you don't even think it's on his mind and then he just pounces.

Ha ha-- I re-read your long post again up there. It is too funny... "... flat on my back..." Sounds like you were with him alot these past 2 months? they do that... come on strong and intense, and then pull back, as you've probably read about all over this board. Has he moved yet? I think it's a shame if you don't get to torture him w/ that outfit- it's sounds HOT!!

CapGirl, the last time I saw him was the night before Valentine's day. He said something like "tomorrow is Valentine's day" but I ignored that because I didn't feel like we were in a relationship. He was supposed to have moved by then, but had to push it later one month now he's supposedly leaving next week. I think he's still around but I haven't heard from him. Pardon me if I am repeating this, but I left him a message last week asking if this was his way of ending things and that I thought it might be but I wanted to make sure coz that would help me move on more quickly. He never called so I guess that's the answer. Stupid boy, we could have had a whole month of great sex like that. Ok I am getting aroused thinking of him now. Sucks. I can't wait till this guy becomes a faded memory.

Anyway now I am dating online through eharmony - I am at the point where I am talking to 3 guys and I am trying to line up a date for tomorrow. It looks like I am gonna make a decent dent in my Asian quota so I am thrilled - I am a rainbow dater so I am into equal opportunity and all.(plus I think half-black half-asian babies are the cutest). I am freezing my eggs when I turn 35, and if I am not married when I am 40 then I'll use these 6-foot chinese sperm donors I found on the internet.

Girl- you are cracking me up! I'm thirty-six (36) so you're freaking me out too!! That Cap. may reappear, that's usually how it goes... but since he's moving, it could be different.

So, how long did you email w/ these guys, before suggesting or them suggesting meeting? This new Cop-Cap. and I have been emailing over a week, every day, but yet short emails. I'm just ready to meet already, to find out if we click, etc. So, I mentioned it today- Hope I don't sound desperate or freak him out, but I think it show confidence and wanting to move things along... rather than hide out behind our computers, building some cyber relationship which may fall apart immediately upon setting eyes upon one another... ya know? What do you think or do?

Oh don't freak out! You can freeze your eggs until you're 40 then have your babies whenever - within reason of course. When I found out about egg freezing and I found the sperm donors I became A LOT less desperate. I am not psycho-girlfriend any more trying to get someone to marry me on the first date - oh I fantasize of course but I don't push people any more. I would freeze them now but I don't have the money so I figure I might be able to scrape together the cash in two or three years - I am 33 now.

Yep, you don't want to spend time building something with him and then you meet him and he's sasquach. You don't want to punish your unborn children like that. That and I totally believe that you should ask for whatever you want. I agree with thinking about how you come off to someone, but showing yourself will also help you weed out people who you won't click with.

Oh I meet my guys very quickly. I think on match.com expecting to meet after about a week of emailing is perfect. When I did match years ago we would exchange emails, but we would be talking on the phone by the end of the week. Actually pretty much one of us would say by like the fourth email that we're not very good with email and like to meet people sooner rather than later. Usually at that first phone call we would make a date - for the following week. My only problem with match is that I kept meeting guys who were "just too cheap to hire a hooker" - my shrink told me next time if I do match again I should choose the guys rather than letting them choose me. But I got burned on match so that might not happen soon. On eharmony it's pretty guided like you have to send these questions back and forth for a while before you have "open communication". I just started on eharmony, but I was already itching to go out when he replied to my first email after that lengthy guided question and answer stage I suggested to one guy that we hang out in my third email.

capchic, I relate w/u on the sex. I had the most amazing sex, well still am, with the cap. I know what u mean about the circular hip motion, mine did that too, and it was so awesome. Ok I want to do him right now. Ok I need to control myself. But anyhow he did know how to please me and made sure that I got what I needed before he got what he needed. I think the sex is what has kept us together, sadly. I told him that once and he agreed. How nice. But I can kinda see now that I don't think I could really handle having a future w/him, so might as well keep seeing him every now and then until I finally just give up. I haven't been able to see him this week. He's been busy, which sucks.

I don't know if I could do the online dating thing, it kinda scares me. There are some freaks out there.

Interesting.... why did he suggest choosing the guys, instead of them choosing you, to avoid the "hooker phenomenon"? So, you mean the guys you met off match were just looking for casual sex?

I have only found a handful whom I like their profile info. and photo, as far as those who've selected me; and I've had a handful of those I've selected who have returned the interest. It's just hard to keep motivated to maintain the contact (emails) when I haven't met them and have no investment- I've just stopped emailing several because they're not regular and consistent in responding (out of town business, or other trips- supposedly) or were boring/flat and not doing enough to keep the conversation going. I am glad I met the one I did early on bc. it wasn't a "connection" and I felt on edge and on display in talking to him (an Aquarius), so that saved alot of extra time emailing, and we'd even skipped the phone call stage.

I filled out that whole eHarmony questionnaire, really for fun, thinking it'd give me some "results" either personality profile or matches, and I've never heard a thing. Thank gosh, I didn't pay. But I was informed there were no matches at this time... I've heard it's no good for my area...??

How much is the egg-freezing— Have you been married previously? I have... and should have had 2 kids about years ago! lol

yeah I prefer to meet guys in real life too, but right now I am on a mission to wipe my ex-cappy off my brain by any means necessary. And reading your post reminded me of the circular thing - now I am aroused again and I wanna do my ex! Actually sex is the most important thing in a relationship - if the sex goes there's no relationship. Why do you think you couldn't handle a future with him?

Oh the way to screen out creeps when dating online is not to have sex too soon - I learnt that the hard way. Oh also avoid the short or ugly ones, they are online because they have been rejected by so many women - and they often carry a lot of bitterness.

Ha ha-- capchic, no new novel advice there, as to your 2nd paragraph! LOL I kinda want to just DO the new Cop-Cap... he's probably not longterm potential for me anyway w/ his education and profession...

Oh, my Cap-Cap. (THE Cap.), he had this push-up thing going... would not really lay his upper body on mine and kept himself propped up, with locked elbows!! Yea, he's 6'3, and I'm 5'3" but I'm not really that fragile and frail!! It was interesting.... seemed a bit too calculated and robotic.

Now, the young-stud Aquarius, who I had last weekend (just my casual "buddy")- woo-wee! A little hair-pulling, at my request, and fully laid out on top of me.

OK~~~ gotta quit!!!

yeah capgirl the guys I met on match were just looking for casual sex - a good tip-off is the ones who believe you should have sex on the third date (or earlier) and want to stick with that plan. Some of them just mark time till the third date so they can get laid. Once I held out for five dates and the same guy who had been talking to me about raising babies in week one admitted that he really wasn't looking for something serious

Oh and I pretty much assume "out of town on business" means either they are married, in a relationship or blowing me off. If I don't hear from a guy for a week he is dismissed and it's on down the list - except of course for my ex-cappy who basically gets away with everything because he sprayed me with pheromones.

I don't remember exactly why my shrink suggested I find them instead - I guess to avoid prowlers - I don't remember all the details, but the main thing he wanted me to do was to hold off on sex until either a relationship began or it came out that he was just looking for a quick hook-up.

When I did the e-harmony thing I got a match in like two days but I live in a large city and it's actually harder to meet people in real life in big cities than in smaller cities. He wasn't hot so I closed it. Then they were sending me matches who work in my field (IT), I was like no way, I even wrote the eharmony people asking them not to send me IT folk coz I am surrounded by these guys all day and I am still single obviously for a reason.

So far one guy looks good from his photo, profile, but he's short 5'8". I'll make an exception coz he's good looking and Japanese. The other guy has a super tiny photo but he's really funny so I want to meet him quickly to see what he looks like.

My only problem is I am still obsessed with cappy! I am so powerless, you should see how I was the last time he came over- "would you like a drink?", then I made him his vodka and soda just the way he likes it - vodka, ice and a splash of seltzer, "are you hungry?" no, he says, "are you sure?", "would you like a snack? I can make you a sandwich" - that was like 10pm at night! I swear this guy did some voodoo or something - Oh my god - I just figured it out - he has a little girl who is THE cutest kid ever born - and he drives 4 hours each way to see her every week - so of course he would give me pretty babies and be a devoted father - that's some real strong voodoo right there.

I have never been married - no, nobody wants me. This is pretty much why I decided on the egg freezing thing. I haven't had any luck snagging a baby-daddy in over a decade of trying, if the pattern continues I'll still be single at 40. The closest I've come to it is someone proposed to me as a joke when I complained that I can't find a husband. The egg freezing, if I do it with this company that's based in Boston - they have a clinic here in New York as well - would cost like 12,000 or 13,000 per cycle. They recommend to freeze about 30 eggs so you are likely to have more eggs surviving the thaw. They pump you full of drugs for a month some women are able to make like 27 eggs in one cycle, but if you make like 15 then you would probably need another cycle. It ain't cheap but I would freeze my eggs before buying a house, it's that high a priority for me - this is why I am not dating any more ugly men coz these are some real expensive eggs. Come to think of it, maybe the 5'8" guy is too short now, but cappy is only 5'9" or 5'10". My health insurance covers fertility treatments until I am 42 so I am hoping the fertilization insemination part will be taken care of by that and I'll just pay for getting and storing the eggs beforehand. I'll ask my GYN if I can use ovarian cysts as an excuse to have my insurance pay for collecting eggs if I were have to have sugery to remove cysts - I don't think it'll fly with the insurance company but I'll try anyway - if they pay, I'd do it like next month and I wou

capgirl I just saw your post about the aquarius guy! damn! this message board is turning me on!

You are too funny!!! Just forego all the technology, and have the kid w/ a sperm donor when you're 38 or so... It will have probably as good a rate of success are freezing eggs, unthawing, articially inseminating them, and then reinserting the damm thing! Cap. women are fertile anyway. Heck, if you don't mind the stigma and abnormal situation of freezing eggs and such, then shouldn't be a big deal to have a sperm donor and a baby on your own in a few years...

That's my drink! Vodka (Grey Goose) and soda water (NOT tonic, eech!), with a lemon. Too hilarious... "sprayed me with pheremones"!!!!!!

Well, at least the 5-dater guy admitted to not wanting anything serious... This darn Cap. of mine- when I first met him, he was just open and talked about wanting to be (re)married by 30 (he's NOW 29...), and asking me if I wanted kids, how many, yet at the same time he was on match, bedding willing women off there on the 1st and 2nd dates. So, it all seemed rather suspicious and premature talk to me to be having. To this day, though, the sucker has never just admitted that he doesn't want a relationship! He'd rather keep me in the dark, than completely eliminate any opportunity for future sex.

Thats my drink too ladies! I knew we had more in common than capricorn.
PS I find aquarius men to be BORING--they are fun to talk to but really, do they have any depth?? sorry, sorry, they are nice guys but.....

This board is really turning me on too!! I want to call the cap up and ask him if he'll do it w/me!! Just kidding. I'd love to tho.

capchic, I agree sex is the most important thing. If u don't have good sex, you can't have a relationship, IMO. The cap once told me that he could have sex w/me all the time. He said once in the morn, once for lunch, once after dinnner, and then when we went to bed. He said he could do that everyday. It's amazing, I've never had sex like that. No one has ever made me feel that way, ok girls, I'm going to stop talking about it because it's driving me crazy. Oh capchic, you asked me why I couldnt see a future w/him. Well if I was given the opportunity to have a future w/him, I'd definetely take it. I just don't see it going that far. Especially since it's been almost 10 mos and it hasn't gotten very far. I know these caps are slow movers and he has been hurt, but d@mn. He said that if he was nice to me, etc. that I"d leave him w/in three weeks. He's basing that on his past girls, but I'm different. I actually want to be w/him and treat him good. Just can't convince him tho. And I shouldn't have to convince him. So I'm just taking it as it is, which is pretty much sex and nothing else. Yeah I just feel like a booty call and sometimes it makes me feel like total sh!t, but then again I always hope that it will become something more. And it's probably just all false hope. Wish it weren't tho!

Good luck w/the online dating girls.

Oh and one more thing capchic. I know how hard it is when ur trying to get over the cap. For some reason the cap has been the only one out of all my relationships that I haven't been able to give up on. It's like something is making me stick w/him. It's hard to get over him. I don't know that I'll ever get over mine even if we do call off everything that we r doing. He'll always be w/me. He has meant more to me than anyone else and it kills me that he just doesn't understand how sincere I am and give me that chance of proving it to him. I can see such a soft, caring, compassionate man under that hard shell of his and it kills me that he won't show it to me or let it out. That's what just makes me melt when I think about him. I've tried dating others before to get over him, hasnt worked, I've always still just wanted to be w/him. Even this aquarius guy I'm seeing now, I have such fun w/him and he's so caring, etc., but the cap is still on my mind and the thing is if I was w/the aquarius and the cap called and said he wanted to be w/me, I'd drop the aqua in a heartbeat and run to the cap. It's crazy.

Ok now I'm just ramblin and really missing the cap tonite.

WTML, yeah I can see how u think they are boring in a way. They are very nice guys, but that's about it.

U always hit it right on the head!! How do u know so much about different signs? Ur good!

Well obviously I just barely made it within the boundaries of what most people consider sane so I don't know what stigma means. The main thing with freezing the eggs is stress relief - the feeling that I have a back-up so I can hunt down Mr. Right (or Mr. Will Do) with a clear head. I went through a crazy baby-hungry period when I turned 29 and my shrink wanted to see me no less than twice a month, it wasn't pretty. I am so much happier now that I think I have options.

Another thing is that I actually want to have twins. I want two kids so they can amuse each other in the playpen while I am taking the skin off the red fowl we're having for dinner and if I have a husband this will give him a chance to check out my ass while I am doing the Martha Stewart. I think the best way to increases the chances of having two kids so late in the game is by having both at once and I'd have to collect eggs in advance for this, whether current eggs or banked eggs.

Did your cappy talk about the marriage and kids stuff before or after you had had sex? If it was before then you are justified to suspect he used that talk to get in your pants, if it was after then it might just have been the - "would she be a good mother to my kids?" evaluation.

oh the last post was replying to capgirl. I need a minute to take in MyCap's post

MyCap what you're saying is scaring me about my efforts to replace ex-cappy although in my situation it will be a big help if he continues to not call. All I can say is you're strong girl.

My mom would say: tell him you want to marry him and have kids with him - yeah, that's why I stopped taking my mom's advice on men.

So you still see him regularly right? When you say "just sex" do you mean that you like don't go to dinner or watch TV together and such?

capchica, "watching my ass... martha stewart" LOL!!!!

Yes, the marriage/kids talk was 'right out of the box' within 2 weeks of having met him, and no sex yet. And at the same time, he would just start talking about dating philosophies and saying that if a guy really likes a girl, he doesn't want to have sex w/ her right away... I really felt it was some twisted-a $ $ reverse psychology. And he made "the SEX" issue so apparent, that I was even more committed to preventing it from happening, which I might not have done had he not been talking about sex so openly. Weird—

It helps if they've truly dropped off the face of the earth, and aren't calling. Be glad, capchica, it's really a good thing, that most normal guys do but usually not the men w/ 'commitment issues'. They can't commit to staying away even!

Mycap:

I have been 'into' astrology for several years, so I study people and look for patterns, this might be why I am not offended the Brahn guy who says some nasty stuff sometimes, he is a virgo and virgo men are lovely, they are looking for total love and have BIG hearts. Aquarians are interesting people, they are concerned about the world, smart, etc BUT they lack that deep sensitive nature that taurean women look for, Girl, we need our earth signs, someone who understands our need to be touched and loved 24/7.

The irony is that I 'know' so much about astrology yet still have committed myself to a capricorn, knowing full well how difficult they can be, argghh!

How are you and your cappy? I just remembered the other day that a friend of mine, who is a cancer, married a capricorn prison guard, he was very stern, but she just laughed at him. I guess the key really is too not taken them so seriously, its hard but when I am at my wits end I just laugh at him, it works for the most part.

Haha - "can't commit to staying away"!! I am gonna have to paste these posts into a word file so that I can refer to them later! Y'all are as good as my shrink, have you considered a career in medicine? I met this 55 year old woman at a picnic during a college internship in 1995, she graduated med school at 50 and she inspired me, she was so happy with her life that it was like she was trying to get all the women to do what she did - I am flirting with the idea of applying to medical school when I am 45 or older - by the way this is how ex-cappy got the "stay-at-home-mom" admission out of me - when I said I might like to try med-school in 15 years - going to school at the same time as the kids.

Regarding your cap's reverse psychology, I think he lucked out on that - I don't believe that men are capable of carrying out complicated thought processes (sorry guys) but your evaluation that he had too much sex on the brain rings true - at least you know he was very attracted to you, enough to forget what he was saying and contradict himself.

My take on on it is that the thing that guys say about not wanting to sleep with a girl they like right away is total bull crap. Straight guys wanna get in our pants period and if they really like us, they wanna get in our pants urgently, they just feel guilty because they like us enough that they feel they ought to be trying to get to know us first.

You are a smart-cookie, capchica. I buy all that you said. He was just very concerned about having sex w/ me... like torn, bc. of the "emotional aspect" (for women). You hit it right on when you said "guilt". It's like he was feeling all of the guilt before even"commiting the crime" or "consumating the act". He's Catholic, so perhaps that had something to do w/ it.

Wheretomylady: I like the laughing part - I think capricorns, male and female need to laugh and themselves and have everyone laugh at(I mean with) them. I became a much happier cap woman when I stopped taking things seriously and now everyone laughs openly at me and if I am doing something that another sign would know was totally unnecessary, their peals of laughter get me back on the right path.