Cappies and Aries

Have any of you Cappy Men been involved with an Aries woman? If so, how did you feel about her?

Hello? are there any Cappie men out there? Please come in...hello? anyone home?

I personally only know one Aries woman- my cousin Jenni. I love her to death- of course in a legally acceptable way for close relatives to love each other =) She's always been kinda like the older sister I never had, and she's incredibly driven with gymnastics. She's cool, but a bit outspoken sometimes. But we have a lot of the same opinions about things, and the same love of friends and the same competetive flair and "Carpe diem!!!" kinda attitude.

I am so glad that you seize the day!!!!! what else is there?

I was just wondering if caps like the aries girl or if they feel that this type of woman is too much for them.

sweetie, you are fire! A fire sign girl is definitely too much for any earthy Cappie. Just my own experience.
My advice is to really think about how you feel with him. Does he really stoke the fire within you or does he have the opposite effect.
I'm a Sag and I was married to a wonderful Cappie for about 17 years....it was such a struggle for both of us. Now I have met an Aries man and oh my...I always dreamed that it could be like this...

Just don't disregard what your intuition and heart tell you....
All my best to you!

I know I'm a total outsider on this subject, as I'm a female Scorpio, but I have long been a third-party observer of a very interesting phenomenon regarding a guy friend of mine who is a Capricorn, and how he interacts with Aries women.

Weirdly (and I say "weirdly" becuase earth+fire isn't a typical success), I have noticed that he seems to be attracted to lots of Aries women. He seems to get along with them quite well and enjoys their zest for life. Granted, I have never seen him actually have a *relationship* with an Aries girl, but I can tell you that there is a certain amount of chemistry between the two signs I think. He also seems to enjoy the fact that the Aries gets his jokes!

Well, I hope that helps; I gave you as much insight as I could! : )

phoenix_rising

Yes there is a chemistry there...ya think cuz aries is a "ram" and cappy is the "goat"? I do feel a connection when I am with the cappy man. Very different than with other men...it is like there is this hidden secret language that we share. He seems to get scared, backs off and I don't hear from him or see him for a couple of days, maybe weeks.

He is afraid of something. I do miss my friend sometimes....i was in another situation and spoke to him about it...his advice? make your decision and don't look back. I guess I will take that advice on this situation. Fun while it lasted but I won't look back. Yeah, right.

Thank you so much Phoenix for your observation. I'm glad that someone could "spark" me.

Hey, Aries Friend!

Phoenix here again. You're more than welcome for the observation; I just had to jump in there, as I understood (even if from a distance) what you were saying about Cap/Aries. And by the way, if it makes you feel any better, my Cap friend gets scared of me, too sometimes and disappears for a day or two! : ) And it sucks, but I guess Scorpio and Aries women are a lot for the Goat to handle! I try to water myself down a little, but you know, I also don't want to be someone else just for his comfort!

Good luck, I wish you all the best with your situation, whatever you decide to do. : )

phoenix_rising

I am a cappy woman, and the only man I had really wholeheartedly loved was an aries...!
Well, it could be due to the fact their he was my first serious boyfriend, because all he came after him, never matched.
Ofcourse we had our 'fighting' days, but we always made up. We were so much in love, and now -like 20 years later-, I wonder where his where abouts are..!
I am not involved with any man at this time, and he is the only man I keep thinking about.

Hi Cappy!

wow, 20 yrs. later and he is still in your thoughts...he sure must have made quite an impression on you...how did he touch your heart so? what type of memories do you have? I hope you don't mind me asking..I was just wondering. Maybe, he will "pop" back into your life sometime....one NEVER knows!

Just to throw my two cents in.. I had a woman Aries friend at work, until she left to go into business for herself.. She was sexy and exciting, and lots of fun to talk to. I sort of sensed that she was too different to get involved with, but we definitely had some sparky chemistry going...

(A Capricorn guy)

I am a cappy woman and the most intense attraction I have had was to an Aries man. It was more than just chemistry, it was a meeting of hearts and minds and we were great friends. In retrospect I don't think we could have had a long term relationship, it would have been exciting for a while but in the long run his volatile nature would have made me insecure. I think that is why these cappy men are running away and coming back, they know the Aries woman is too much for them but are drawn to their fire at the same time. They don't want to get too involved unless they are sure about it. Actually I think that is true for whatever sign they are attracted to, they back off before they get in too deep as they don't want to get attached to the wrong person, they want a life partner and need to be sure they have chosen the right one.

For #203.. Why would the Aries "volatile nature" have made you insecure?

Were you afraid of him being upbeat? I dated an Aries and yeah they are rather spontaneous. But I myself am a Sag, so it was not a problem. Is a spontaneous nature to much for a Cappy? And WHY IS IT that Caps back away from people? Right now a Cap male is breaking my heart by his "backing off". It's crazy. I can't imagine why anyone would want to live life that way when life is supposed to be spontaneous and fun!

It's one thing to be cautious (who isn't?) it's totally another to be afraid of nothing. I can't understand why they just don't ask questions like anyone else. I'd love to hear your comments on this. I'm finding Caps very intriguing and I'm amazed that the ladies are just like the men too.

I do not believe that anyone is too much for anyone else. If you have that thought that someone is too much for you then, you will be correct. If you choose to believe that it will work and that life will be exciting and fun, then that is what you will get.

Our thoughts are so very powerful and we create our life from our thoughts. Becareful what you wish for....YOU might just get it!

Think about someone's mind who has not had any influence put upon him....he will just trust his own instincts, feelings. Like children. Anything is possible if you believe in it enough. If the love is there, it is there...cannot make it go away. We can change the way we look and feel about it but it will never go away. We all were given feelings for a reason, how come we don't trust them enough?

This is my thought for the day.

I happen to have a good friend who is a Cappy male and he has a problem with intimacy...he told me this. This is where he is in his life due to circumstances in his life. He is the ONLY one who can change himself. I can and will always be his friend without expectations. This helps me so much to not get so upset with his "moody" behavior. I suppose one could say that I am learning, acceptance.

I need some ice cream.....anyone want to go get a dilly bar at the DQ?

#203 here again. In reply to your questions Saggie, of course any relationship can work but in this case the Aries concerned was a real party animal and a VERY big drinker and I am not, so he would have been going out a lot without me. Also his way of dealing with conflict was very explosive. If he had come from a more stable background (his family was violent and highly disfunctional) I wouldn't write it off so easily. He showed me how to have more pure fun and I grounded him a lot, but he had a lot of demons and I was concerned that if he never faced them he would drag me down with him. So as you can see in a typical capricorn way I have analysed the relationship and tried figure out what I learned from it. But that doesn't mean if I fall for someone again that I will behave in a logical manner, when I do feel the emotions I have as much trouble controlling them as anyone. The above one only ended as he had to leave the country.

On cappies in general - they crave passion and adventure and want someone who brings it out in them but they have to feel safe and secure to be able to express it. Even then it may only be behind closed doors... you won't find them flaunting themselves and flirting (or if it looks like they are they are probably talking about something deep, they can't be bothered with meaningless chit-chat). If you really try to get to know them and make a mental and emotional connection you will find that they are very happy to let their guard down. Just don't betray their trust as they don't give it easily and value it highly. They can switch from a playful kitten to an angry tiger in an instant if they feel they are being made a fool of.

I hope this gives you a little more insight into our basic nature, but everyone has had different life experiences which shapes who they ultimately become.

I think cappy folks can take 'so much' passion. A lot of passion either scares them or 'depletes' their energy. They are practical, and would rather have a 'rhythm' to their lives than succumb to impulsiveness a lot. Thus an Aries is a 'welcome' 'change' in any capricorn's life, but they may become a bit too much. In addition, capriron 'demands' loyalty, and 'steadfastness', in return to their own loyalty, and efforts to maintain and provide for the relationship ,which an Aries may not be able or ready to provide in return. And talk about the 'wandering' eye, of the Aries. He may see himself as 'God-send' to women, and 'think' that if the woman won't appreciate him, for the divine he is then she is the loser. Talk about the 'cave man' syndrome too. lol

Yes, my aries used to want to chase me and drag me back to his lair, literally. You know how little kids play that game where they tease and then run away. He wanted me to do that so he could grab me. It was a bit weird for this little cappie.

Personally, I love all Capricorns--men and women. They have a lot of the qualities Aries people have, just toned down a notch or two. Otherwise, I feel that there should be lots of mutual understanding and respect between the two.

And so what if Capricorns are a little intimidated by us fiery Aries...someone has to the flame thrower in the group!!

I also disagree that they aren't good for long-term relationships. I think Aries and Caps make a great long-term pairing--better than a short-term affair actually. Aries will keep the Capricorn young and with a sense of humor, while Capricorn will ground us Aries and will have paitience.

I am an aries and the absolute 'love of my life' was a cap. Most intense bonding of love from the getgo. We had a very similar sense of humor. The one thing that REALLY bugged me about him was he was incredibly INCREDIBLY stubborn. When he got something in his head no matter what EVEN the persuasive charming lovey ARIes chic myself could not change his mind. And another thing about him that bugged me is he brooded alot and didn't have enough energy for me. But even though it has been so long since I have seen him our memory together will never truly fade. Even though the circumstance did not turn in our favor, I am without doubt that he is my truest soulmate on earth. I still think about him even after seven years.