Cappies and Scorpios..do they match?

Any stories on how to handle a Scorpio male? I'm a female Cappie and I have a Scorpio who has the hots for me! But I'd like to get to know him better first. I'd like to hear some experiences on how to take care of this emotional, intense, passionate, caring, elusive, secretive and easily hurt Sign!

Seagoat

Sea-Goat,

I've read and replied to some of your topics here as well as the Scorpio message board. I'm the other struggling cap trying to fight my lust for a scorp. ( I am also the one with the OBE's). All I know is...
It just seems right, doesn't it? I mean, in my situation, we simply enjoy eachother's company. We laugh, we tease, we play, we talk, we flirt, we do things, go out... we're CONNECTED AT THE FRICKIN HIP, but ultimately, we're just best friends. And to be honest, it is difficult to not want more than that. (He does have a girlfriend, although where he finds his time to be with her, I do not know), so my best advice is to let nature take it's course, and time will definitely tell. You'll know if he's your match. I don't think you'll need a post on a message board to tell you when you've spent some time with him and get to know him on a deeper level, intimately, and as a friend. You'll feel it. I'm sure.
But then again...
This is that same girl that thinks she's being "yanked" out of her body at night talking, so I wouldn't really take to heart much of this. Just my honest opinion...

Oh, and just another tip...
I don't know if this has any relevance, but it might help.
When we first started talking, I was the recluse. He kind of had to search and dig me out, which irritated me a little, because I had my private little space and it just seemed as if he kept on invading it. He'd come in and ask question after question and I felt like I was relentlessly interrogated, but what I didn't realize was that I think this is something that comes naturally to scorpions. He wasn't intentionally trying to agitate or hassle me. I think they are just very curious and digging around for facts to discover what seems a little mysterious or unknown to them. Especially with people. I didn't realize, until now, that my reclusive, hermit-crab tendencies were so fascinating to him, considering people seem to revere me as so "gifted" and "talented" in what we do. (In actuality, I don't think I'm either one. I've just got good work-ethic, and I've been training extensively at what I do for years) Anyway, I'm getting off subject, I know.
But the point is, after a while I started opening up to him, and letting go of some of my suspicions, intimidations, inhibitions, and worries and just started having fun with him. I shared with him secrets that I've never shared with anyone else, And he, surpisingly, shared some stuff with me that he wouldn't otherwise tell a single soul. And I've always remained brutally honest. I think that was the key to our friendship. When we're with eachother or talking to one another, we'll always know that we're FOR REAL, and we don't play games. Well...
I take that back. I don't play games. He likes to. But then... I always give in. I swear, that persuasion is gonna be the death of me.

Well my dear, thank you so much for your reply! I really appreciate it!

So you're in the same situation, my Scorpio guy also has a girlfriend I'm afraid. But he really misses the sex, that's obvious!

I'm not sure yet what kind of relationship we have, so far we haven't had much time alone, just some stolen moments at work. And he ask questions and I always give him an honest answer. But what does surprise me is that he tells me a lot about himself! Sometimes to "promote" himself, I know, but he's also told me some things I'm sure no one else knows. Things about his past that made him insecure, and he always asks if I like something so that he can take it into account. Sometimes I can see the vulnerability in his voice or eyes.....

So I'm not sure if I'm just a good friend or if he has more feelings but only time will tell....We haven't been really initimate yet, that will be the surprise of HIS life!!! And mine of course...As far as I can see I can fulfill most of his fantasies, and that means a lot to him.

And we still have to talk a lot more, we're only just beginning! We'll see....

I'm only a bit worried about your OBE's though, do they have to do anything with him or your anxiety about your relationship? You need to find that out also...

Seagoat

"So you're in the same situation, my Scorpio guy also has a girlfriend I'm afraid. But he really misses the sex, that's obvious!"

And doesn't this picture look a little wrong— Why would you even want to give yourself to someone that would treat another woman with no respect—
I just don't understand that. If he wants you, then let him move out of his current situation. Don't make excuses. The reasons he gave you for not leaving her are lame ones. I think he wants you both! He needs her for one reason he doesn't want to give her up is( love for her) and he wants you for additional sex. I really feel for you because you sound so hung up on him and spending so much energy with your mind rapped in to this 'what if' realtionship. You are doing all the work and he just is sitting back and eating it up!

Personally, I would go about your life and not even give him the time of day! If you have to, don't even work around him.

Good Luck and look at the big picture! Don't get lost in the small stuff!

Yes you're right 205.....

He says he's an honest person and doesn't lie but he's willing to lie to his girlfriend and his friends about this affair!

So far nothing has happened and I had to quit my job, so if I choose not to see him anymore it's possible....

It's not fair towards his girlfriend and it's been bothering me for weeks now. Maybe I should ask for him to either break up or accept he's in a sexless relationship. Not an easy task but my principles as a Cappie are worth protecting!

I'm really confused now....it's my head against my heart...I know he cares for me but just how much? ;-(

Seagoat

And 65, the other female Cappie, maybe we can talk about this some more? Not on this board but please e-mail me at seagoat69@hotmail.com!!! I'd like to know why you're doing this and foremost why HE is doing it! You both know it's wrong...but still....

Seagoat

SG,

Stay strong don't get weak! and watch what they do not what they say is my advice to you!!

Good Luck and best to you!!!

PS why did you have to quit your job?? Not because of that, I hope!!

Oh boy?it brings it all back?..I was married to a Scorpio man for a long time. Before we got together he was in love with another woman, (but wanted to keep me hanging on as a back up) which I did for awhile and then I cut him loose. It took having another man punch him in the face and splitting his eye open to see she was all wrong for him. Can you believe that? He can to my house that night to have me take him to the hospital. Which played right into my heart strings....I would fix it and take care of him....I forgave him, like you said we had a lot of fun together (they know how to work us). We ended up getting married??and after many years of his lies I finally left him. They say that Scorpio's are a great match for us but I could not live with the lies and hiding things behind my back any longer.

One thing you need to remember is that you are worth more than what he is giving you. If he is lying to his girlfriend??he is also lying to you.

Cut him loose and move on. Best of luck to you!

Angel

Thanks for your advice Angel!

And you're right: if he can't be honest with the people he cares about most, his girlfriend and other friends, how can he be honest with me?

But I think in this case he's lieing to HIMSELF as well....after being hurt in a past relationship he's now in a SAFE relationship with someone who doesn't care about sex, so she can't betray him. I've seen her once, I felt she's not the right girl for him immediately! Mind you, at that time I only knew him for a week and I wasn't interested in him!

But first he has to realize it himself....I will ask him in all honesty, I probably can't open his eyes though...

I don't know, does this mean ALL Scorps lie and cheat?? So far I've only read lots of ugly stories on the Board! But then again, people love to complain....

I already sent him a message to tell him I have serious doubts, let's see what he does!

Seagoat

P.S. I had to quit my job because my boss found me too expensive, he lied about it and told me I worked too slow!! Never lie to a Cappie!!