Capricorn breakups

Hi, well I was dating a Cappy for 6 months and recently, we decided to declare we are actually in a "r/ship"...WELL,that was it for Cappy, he decided to start picking and demanding and last Wednesday night I took him out for dinner, yes, I took my turns in doing the right thing (equal opportunity)...it was lovely, we came back to my place, had a great night just talking, laughing, eating bad food, having a few drinks..anyway yes ok he stayed over, but the next morning he'd start talking about his ex and her new b/f AGAIN!!!! (in bed yet again) so I just got up and started getting on so we could both go to work.

He had a shower (this guy takes the longest showers known to mankind and I knew there'd be no hot water left, but anyway), he came out and I'd ironed his shirt, had a nice hot coffee ready and he snatched the shirt,had 2 sips of the coffee and walked out the door....WTF??

He text me 2 minutes later "sorry I left like that, I just didnt want you to see me breakdown"...WTF??

He emailed me later on and said "I was in the shower wondering why I was so annoyed at you and then I realised its because you show no emotions and you dont seem to care about how I feel"..WTF— I emailed him back and basically ended the so-called r/ship with this:

"let me get this right, you were having a shower in my shower, wondering why you were annoyed with me, while I was ironing your shirt, making your coffee and breakfast and you want to breakdown??...I've had a gutful of you bringing up your ex and if you think that talking about her day in day out is conducive of a good r/ship you're far from right and if you want to kick somebody, get a dog, they come back but I wont"....I mean honestly!!!!

Anyway, he has been, for the past 4 days been trying to apologise and offering to go to counselling, etc...WTF— Does he not get it that he behaved in a way that is unacceptable? As soon as we declared the R/ship he does this? oh and this is the 3rd week running he's taken out his ex dramas on me (I did not make this decision on one thing).

Is it normal for Cappys to hang on? I really want to keep away from this one...I dont think its healthy for me to continue even a f/ship with him. It was really quite nice up until we got "serious"....but just so you know, he has spoken about his ex every single day for those 6 months - enough is enough right?

The moods? and depression? and the constant ex talk? is anybody really meant to put up with it?

Thank you that is so what I thought....I definitely think counselling and yes he's a great guy - Ive known him for almost 6 years but we decided to take things further and I did say to him that the ex thing was well and truly a problem throughout the last 6 months but I tried to be nice about it.

Yes he regrets things but I cant have that in my life right now (I truly did try to be supportive throughout his dramas but Ive had enough)...I did actually say to him "I hope you've learnt something out of this" in as nice a way as I could have.

I really do care for him but when I can see every weekend being ruled with doom and gloom? its not fun anymore and there's something much more serious brewing underneath the smiles and fun times we've had. A few weeks back he wrote me email after email at work saying "I need you to make it all ok"...that's when I started worrying as I shouldnt make it all ok and nobody should "need" somebody to do that for them daily aaaaaaaaand I dont think its healthy to be emailing like that at work...it came from nowhere.

Anyway thanks for that - I thought I was being harsh but as much as I care for him, I think its best to be cruel to be kind.

chatz - you have doen nothing wrong at all - thsi is standard male Cap behaviour.

I broke up with mine, took him back, the moddswings, depression etc are still there so I finally had to end it.

Yeah I hear you. In his case both his parents died while he was quite young...he is also not over that. I do worry whether he will ever be able to sort himself out given that it was so long ago and he's still hanging on to everything that has happened in his past. I can't live that life so yes I have let him go on to sort things through.

Thanks for your advice and for not making me think i was the worst person on this planet 🙂

oh, Chatz - I am a Libra too.

It got to the point where he was destroying my own optimisism. I began to think I deserved it!

lawyer82...Im a Leo but having been with a Libra I know that it would destroy your soul....Cappy certainly started doing that to me because both Libra and Leo are peace loving and fun loving...Cappys, from my experience, also love fun and all that but then they go and stuff it up with all the depression stuff...something I loathe...I mean everybody has depressing days but its been a constant 3 weeks with him since we became an "item"...its like..."well Ive finally gotten her, I dont have to act anymore...walah!!"

Anyway he emailed me today asking whether I was still keen on him, I mean hello— did I not already explain that I couldnt take any more of it...I think so LOL....he wants to "pick up the pieces once he's sorted" and he thinks this will be only 2-3 weeks....no way!!!

Ive decided to concentrate on my work and just be me for a few months and then start dating again....perhaps part of the problem was me also (I fell out of one r/ship into another) but not once did I bring my past partner/s into discussions...I just think that its so uncool to contantly talk about the ex...and I mean CONSTANTLY. Ok she cheated on him but most of us have endured that...it does not eat us forever....argghhh!!

At least I come out with my sanity and Im still smiling 🙂....Life's just too short for depression day in day out 🙂