Capricorn Man & Capricorn Female

I see that we have some Capricorn females on the site today. I'm curious, ladies, have you ever dated a Capricorn man? If so, what were your observations, issues, and successes? Basically, I'm trying to understand the female psyche and reactions to a Capricorn man.

Any help you can provide would be GREATLY appreciated.

hello E~

I need your support today! Im breaking down...I wanna call him 😢

GEG,

Not yet.... hold on a little bit longer (ok, a lot bit longer). Let him do all the initiating.

AM,

I'm not saying this aggressively, but more of a concerned tone... what is it about Capricorns that you don't like? I am getting the impression that you don't favor goats much (guys OR gals). What happened?

hey E~
Thank you!! Its just so hard! I miss his lieing ass. I know its sad but I am who I am. It will be a month on the 19th, think thats long enough...lol what if he never calls because he is scared I wont talk to him or because he is full of guilt? Do you think that is possible? Do you think it was wrong of me to talk to his cousin about him? I talked about it in another area!

Also AM'S boy friend is a capricorn! I think her frustration comes from hearing all us going through all the cappy crap!

Enigmanupe~ what goes in their mind when they are not responding to a nice message like I have sent to my first cap? I couldn't help myself so I impulsively sent him a quite email saying "how have you been" on last Friday after one week from the previous email (saying the ball is in his hand). I regret doing that now😢 since it is not helping to get his attention. What is the psychology behind that they don't respond? Do they dislike to be pushed?

From Taurus sun + Aries venus (my Aries gives me bit of impatient on my love life😉) perspective, cappy men are mystery a lot of times so far?well with the wounded one especially.

hey peachcow my venus is aries as well!! is that what the prob is? lol

Yeah, unfortunately😉 But I am sure there are guys out there like this kind of passion & directness🙂 it is just not suited very well with a wounded cappy man...will see...I am thinking to give it a month, three months, then six and see if both would be still attracted one another then. Well if he is lucky, I'd still be a single😉😉

Oh, I meant "quick email" not "quite email"

GEG and Peach ~ I think that it depends on the place that the capricorn is at in their lives. If they're focused on their own issues then they aren't going to be focused on you. It's unfortunate, but it doesn't neccessarily mean that they don't still have you there in the back of their minds. They just have tunnel vision. I'd listen to E and just let them come to you. I thought that I was going insane and that he would forget about me if I didn't drop in every now and then, but honestly...it just makes you look vulnerable and they think that you'll always be there. I do go over to my brother's and hang out every now and then and the other night it was so easy to be his friend. Just think about it...if you're the balanced girl that understands him and doesn't act like you want a relationship...he might just start initiating something because he'll feel that he may lose you. It's a very subtle game of the mind. 🙂 I'm no expert, but I've had a lot of experience with this already.

I'd rather keep them as a friend than nothing at all...but you truely have to treat them as a friend and if they decide that they want to start romancing you...don't let your guard down entirely.

Just listen to some Led Zepplin when you're in a mood. It always makes me feel better. haha. I'm listening to it right now.

wow where have you been girl!! I missed you!! lol its tough not quite yet a month but close enough!(the longest) I thought about sending a letter... I already know what you would say though!! I miss him! I have my good days and my bad days 😢 We have been enjoying the company of a cap on the board(~ E ~) I dont think he thinks i should senf it either! I dont think im going to.

Anyhoo how are things with you? Any new men? Im glad to hear from you!!

The only problem with most cappys is they are stubborn.The females seem lighter,more chatty and more outgoing compared to the males but still have that stubborn strike if provoked.

Enigmanup,

The chemistry, initialy, is great. You'll find that that there is finally someone who actually understands you and thinks the same way..but somewhere along the line, if you're not careful, the goats lock horns due to their similar stubborn natures and the mutual need for power and control. Both require their space, butthe cap men tend to get a little over possessive, which can bug a woman cap who's used to her independence...anyhow, these are just a few random thoughts..

Miriam...that's true. I've already seen this from two cappys. Unfortunate but true. It does depend on what their rising is too.

Miriam,

Your description sounds like us. When we first began to talk, I was amazed at how understanding she was. It was like I had found my equal. I was excited and we seemed to click on so many things. It was unlike anything I had known before. However, we've recently locked horns. I recognize that I'm stubborn and she's admitted the same. We've just recently gotten to a point where we're both silent (eh, the silent treatment) and it feels very much like a quiet power struggle, if that makes any sense.

Having been talking almost 7 months (long distance relationship), things started to change from their happy go lucky, we have so much to talk about, lovey dovey nature, to our current state, which isn't good. We quietly tussle more now, we don't openly argue or call each other out, I don't even think we have raised our voices. Now, she has hung up on me once or twice, because she was so frustrated with me. She was trying to tell me what to do and my stubborn nature wasn't having it.

When we do talk, it's like we have nothing to say. She seems more busy now and less interested in our intimate and deep conversations. She tells me that she's overloaded and hardly has a moment for a clear thought. Be it work (travelling), family (children's games), and mild illness (due to lack of sleep), she is just sooo very distant. I feel like her phone calls are just to appease me and they lack the flair and passion that she's maintained for 6 months. It's like she worked so hard to get me into a relationship, but now slacks off.

She has admitted to putting me on the back burner due to said excuses, but it doesn't make it any easier to swallow. Now, I haven't said much to her about it (although I feel so much going on inside) and merely allow myself to get busy so as to not think about it.

You say she needs space and independence, but now I feel like a toy on the shelf. It sounds like I am an accessory to her life. I feel romantic now, let me call E.

From a FEMALE Cappie point of view, what's going on? Should I continue to stay ghost? I don't call or write her and respond only when spoken too.

dorothy gail hasn't been logged in since the ninth and miriam hasn't been for two days.dorothy may have only logged in to chase off a bad mouthing troll off of the scorpio board though,she took a break like this in the past,so she could be back eventually.There is some info she left about herself on the scorpio board and miriam mainly hangs out on the virgo board,could give you some info maybe.

Thanks for the heads up, Tiamat!

Just read your situation Enig......and I understand the frustration and feelings you are going through..............having been at the receiving end of a Cappy's silence and stoniness at one time in my life.............

But all that aside.........I remember once Charlton Heston was being interviewed on a chat show and he'd been married 40 or 50 years or so and asked the secret to his love and marriage....he replied.....there's only one thing a woman wants to hear after an argument - the three little words! Interviewer presumes he knows the answer and says - I suppose they are - I Love You? Heston replied - oh god no!....not that at all.....the three little words are - "I WAS WRONG" - even when you aren't!!!

Anyway, I know being a cappy you probably think the above is a bit flippant and airy-fairy - it won't work..........but believe me, if you want to start afresh and refind the zip and bip! that you once had...why not try those three little words:-)

Good luck Enig:-)

A x

Sorry to interrupt with off-topic...but I am wondering if my cappy is giving me the "silent" treatment (whatever you call). Actually I confronted him with an email he sent me telling him that I did not sense respect from his writing and kind of demanded (well nicely though) that I need *respect* even from a friend...then he stopped contacting me. What do you think guys and gals? What should I do?

Peach refresh me here...what kind of e-mail did you send you? What did it say to make you say what you said? I'm curious.

OK, it was a few days after I saw my cap last time (which is June19), I sent him an email basically saying "I will be your friend. No pressure. If we meant to be together we will end up being together. Why not just enjoying doing fun things together" I did this because it felt like he was being way too serious worrying about ?relationship? I wanted to take some load off his shoulder. And I did not hear from him several days - so I impulsively sent him another short email saying "I feel like a bit fool not getting a response...best of luck to you" Then two days later, he emailed me being *very* defensive. I was so shocked after I read his email....I showed it to a couple of my friends and one of them said "if I were you, I will send him a note saying f**k y*u!" Well, I felt he was being a j**k. His writing wasn't rude or anything but I felt there was no respect. So I responded him saying "I will be your friend, but I won?t tolerate being treated like this" I did express the understanding of the rebound situation so I am not taking it personal. At the end, I said I am not upset nor angry, and if you call me I will be just like before. I tried to make the point but at the same time make it nice and respectful... I guess he did not like it because he hasn't contacted me for two weeks now. Oh I showed the note that I sent to one of my close g/f whom I trust that she has a good common sense and moral; she said my note is very nice yet still I made clear point to have respect for one another. She said if he doesn't respond to it, it'd show his true color - maybe he was not as good person as I thought? Maybe he is just not ready to have a relationship. I don?t know but when people in this forum were talking about silent treatment, I thought it may be what my cappy is doing to me? At this point, what I really want is to be his friend ? I don?t think I want more than that by knowing where he is at.

I have met more than several guys past month while I didn?t see my cap (most are good looking, tall and great jobs, and no problem getting the second dates), but I just haven?t felt with anyone like I felt when I met him?

Wow...he sounds really volatile like mine. The minute that I came to mine and said very nicely what I felt he was like all defensive and at EVERYTHING I said after that. It made me wonder if it pissed him off that he couldn't keep me right there while he dated around or UNTIL he was ready to make a decision about me. I think he wanted to date me and everyone else because he was not ready for a relationship. I have a feeling your cappy is being the way he is because maybe he really didn't want to be friends with you. Know what I mean? That's all I can figure out. But you know what's silly. Why do they expect us to read their minds and know what they want when they don't even TRY? It's downright frustrating. I feel like it's a one way street most of the time and then he comes out with some extravagant romantic thing to say to me and I had NO idea that he even wanted me anymore. I know you probably are feeling this way as well. LOL. GAAAAAAAAAA!!

Yeah, gemgem, I don't know what a h**l is going with my first cap. Sounds like yours and mine are in kinda similar situation. It does sound like to me that both cappies want to keep dating while keeping us as close as *they* want at the same time they want as distant as *they* want. They get frustrated because they don't get their way? It seems like it.

We can use some help from cap male here in this forum....could you please help us?

i know when ever i get into bad times with ANYTHING, especially emails (conversations) like yours peach, i do the stick back and let it flow thing. If i were your cap and i recieved your email, i would be thinking about what i had said to you originally and regreting maybe saying some things in the "defensive" email. He's prolly thinking "f**K, this didnt turn out like anything i have expected"
but i dunno about his email... i know i get defencive... but i always thought it was because of my upbringing. I controle it most of the time and i have not seen it come out often in relationships with women. lol it comes out when im arguing with my bro...

like i said tho i dont know about his email... i prolly would have been like your friend and said "if I were you, I will send him a note saying f**k y*u!"

and since u felt like he was being a j**k then it was prolly ur best call.

i dunno what it is about your cappies but in the past 2 years i have noticed a lot about myself. i have been doin my best to understand myself and make sure sh*t like that doesnt happin. i hate fights (cuz my parents fight a lot) and it breaks my heart when i get into arguments with people i like/love. especially if i didnt mean for any of it to happin. ESPECIALLY!
i recently had a little thing happin with my taurus friend but i gave her the space she likes ever so much and things turned out great.

Thanks a bunch, OAF~

It is good to know what you said - if my cappy is regretting what he said - it'd be sweet. I am thinking he didn't like it and got defensive because I was pulling myself from the situation. He didn't like what I was doing but he kind of was making the situation worse by being defensive...so I basically told him that I am not mad or upset because this is just a rebound situation (oh how I know those situations - from my own experiences with the cancer boy!). So when I called him this Sun, he was calm, and I was too. I am sure he wanted to make sure I am really not mad as I said in my response. He'd call me sooner or later and probably talk about it. Yeah, you mentioned a good tip - give him a space. That is what I am doing.